In this episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana joins Coach Ron Kardashian on the Renew podcast for a conversation about emotional unavailability, narcissism, attachment styles, and the relationship patterns that keep so many people stuck.Drawing from her own story and the lessons behind her bestselling book, Unavailable, Ana shares why emotional safety matters more than chemistry, how to recognize manipulation before it costs you years of your life, and why paying attention to someone's patterns—not their promises—is one of the most important relationship skills you can develop.Together, they discuss accountability, discernment, healing from unhealthy relationships, and what it truly takes to build a relationship grounded in trust, honesty, and emotional maturity.If you've ever questioned your reality in a relationship, found yourself making excuses for someone's behavior, or wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• What emotional unavailability really is—and how to recognize it• The difference between attachment wounds and narcissistic behavior• Why emotionally unavailable people struggle with accountability• The warning signs of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and manipulation• Why patterns matter more than promises• How discernment protects you from unhealthy relationships• Why chemistry alone isn't enough to build lasting love• The importance of emotional safety in healthy relationships• When it's time to stop trying to change someone and start choosing yourself• How healing your own patterns changes the relationships you attractCONNECT WITH COACH RON KARDASHIAN🌐 https://thehigher.net/CONNECT WITH ME💻 https://analeacoaching.com📸 https://instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 https://tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected] A SESSION WITH MEhttps://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourlyGET MY BOOK📚 Unavailable: How to Become Unavailable to Love That Hurtshttps://amzn.to/4tOQDUESUPPORT THE PODCAST☕ https://buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 Apple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/@analeacoachingEXTRA RESOURCESAttachment Style Quizhttps://quiz.attachmentproject.com/Enneagram Quizhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

The Story That Kept Me Stuck for 20 YearsIn this deeply personal solo episode, Ana shares the biggest mistake she's ever made—and it wasn't becoming a single mom, getting divorced, or any of the decisions she spent years blaming herself for.It was believing the story those experiences told her about her worth.Ana opens up about childhood wounds, shame, rejection, faith, emotional healing, and the life-changing realization that your past doesn't define you—unless you let it.She shares how false beliefs quietly shaped her relationships, choices, and identity for decades, and how intentional grief work, surrender, and renewing her mind completely changed the trajectory of her life.If you've ever believed you're too broken, too far gone, or that your mistakes have disqualified you from the life you want, this episode is for you.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• Why your biggest mistake may not be what happened—but the meaning you attached to it• How shame quietly becomes part of your identity• The difference between guilt and shame• Why your brain looks for evidence to support the stories you believe• How confirmation bias keeps you stuck in old patterns• Why unresolved pain continues to affect your relationships• The power of intentional grief and emotional healing• How to rewrite the false stories you've believed about yourself• Why surrendering control is often the beginning of true freedom• A simple 10-minute daily practice that can transform your emotional healthCONNECT WITH ME💻 https://analeacoaching.com📸 https://instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 https://tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected] A SESSION WITH MEhttps://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourlySUPPORT THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.☕ https://buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoachingEXTRA RESOURCES FOR YOUAttachment Style Quiz:https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/Enneagram Quiz:https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

In this episode, Ana sits down with men's coach, relationship expert, and founder of The Initiated Man, Mike Elliott, to explore why so many high-performing men succeed in business yet struggle in their closest relationships.Together they unpack emotional safety, childhood wounds, attachment, grief, masculine leadership, and the hidden cost of building a life around achievement instead of connection.They discuss why providing isn't enough, how unresolved childhood experiences shape adult relationships, why emotional intimacy feels so difficult for many men, and what it takes to create relationships where both people feel seen, safe, and deeply connected.If you've ever wondered why success can still leave you feeling empty, why your relationships seem harder than they should be, or why high achievement hasn't brought the fulfillment you expected, this conversation will challenge the way you think about love, leadership, healing, and what it means to truly live.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• Why high-performing men often feel disconnected despite their success• How childhood wounds continue to impact adult relationships• The difference between providing for your family and being emotionally present• Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness• The role grief plays in healing and personal growth• How men can learn to lead from their heart instead of their head• The three pillars of Mike's framework: Initiation, Integration, and Inspiration• Why emotional safety is essential for healthy relationships• How attachment patterns shape the way we love• Practical tools for becoming more present, connected, and emotionally availableCONNECT WITH ME💻 analeacoaching.com📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected] A SESSION WITH MEhttps://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourlySUPPORT THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoachingCONNECT WITH MIKE ELLIOTTMen's Coach, Relationship Expert, Founder of The Initiated ManInstagram: @mikeelliott.relatingPodcast: Sacred WeWebsite: mikeelliott.comFREE GIFTFollow Mike on Instagram and send him a message mentioning this episode to receive his free relationship resource.EXTRA RESOURCES FOR YOUAttachment Style Quiz:https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/Enneagram Quiz:https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

Why high-performing men keep winning at work and failing at home.In this episode, Ana sits down with spiritual wellness coach, author, and relationship expert Jonathan Ellerby to explore why so many high-performing men succeed in business yet struggle in their closest relationships. Together they unpack emotional safety, emotional availability, spirituality, and the hidden cost of building a life around achievement instead of connection.They discuss why providing isn't enough, how childhood conditioning creates the false self, why emotional intimacy feels so difficult for many men, and what it takes to create relationships where both people feel seen, safe, and deeply connected. If you've ever wondered why success can still leave you feeling empty, or why relationships seem harder than they should be, this conversation will challenge the way you think about love, purpose, and what it means to truly live.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• Why financial security can never replace emotional safety• How high-performing men often mistake providing for connecting• The difference between building a life for approval versus alignment• Why emotional presence is the foundation of intimacy and trust• How childhood conditioning creates the "false self"• The simple question that can deepen any relationship: "Tell me a story about yourself"• Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness• How putting the "we" before the "me" transforms relationships• Why spirituality isn't separate from everyday lifeCONNECT WITH ME💻 analeacoaching.com📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected] A SESSION WITH MEhttps://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-callSUPPORT THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoachingCONNECT WITH JONATHAN ELLERBYSpiritual wellness coach, author, speaker, consultant, and relationship educatorWebsite: jonathanellerby.comTikTok: @jonathanellerbyBooks: Inspiration Deficit Disorder and other titles by Jonathan Ellerby

UNPACKING UNAVAILABLE: WHY YOU KEEP ATTRACTING EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PEOPLEIn this solo episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana dives deep into one of the most painful relationship patterns people experience, attracting emotionally unavailable partners over and over again.She breaks down why this isn’t “bad luck,” why chemistry can actually be nervous system activation, and how your subconscious wiring may be choosing chaos that feels familiar instead of love that feels safe.This episode is honest, personal, direct, and deeply practical for anyone tired of repeating the same relationship cycle and ready to finally heal the root of it.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• Why emotionally unavailable people often feel familiar and “safe”• The difference between chemistry and true compatibility• How childhood wounds and attachment patterns shape attraction• Why healthy love can initially feel boring or uncomfortable• The role your nervous system plays in dating patterns• Why consistency, peace, and emotional safety matter more than intensity• How to identify red flags earlier and stop ignoring your intuition• Why healing yourself changes who you attract and who you tolerate• The connection between faith, free will, and relationship choices• How to become unavailable to toxic love patternsKEY TAKEAWAYS“You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you think you deserve.”“Chemistry is activation. It doesn’t mean alignment.”“Discomfort is your wiring, not a sign they are wrong for you.”“You can’t keep blaming the other person when you keep letting them in.”“The stable, available person feels boring to some people, but again, that’s your wiring talking. That’s not wisdom.”CONNECT WITH ME📸 Instagram: @ana__lea__🎵 TikTok: @ana__lea__💻 Website: analeacoaching.com📧 [email protected] MY BOOK UNAVAILABLEhttps://amzn.to/4tOQDUESUPPORT THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching

BOOK A CALL WITH ME: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-callWhy emotional unavailability quietly destroys connection, intimacy, and trust.In this raw solo episode, Ana breaks down emotional unavailability in a way most people have never heard before. Not as being cold or toxic, but as a survival strategy that quietly sabotages intimacy, connection, marriage, parenting, and even your relationship with yourself.She unpacks why so many high-achieving men and women look successful on the outside while feeling disconnected underneath, why emotional availability is the actual foundation of healthy love, and how nervous system patterns from childhood shape the relationships you create today.This episode also dives into grief, vulnerability, attachment styles, emotional safety, and the hard truth that provision alone is not love. If you’ve ever felt lonely in a relationship, shut down during conflict, struggled to open up emotionally, or kept attracting unavailable people, this episode will hit deep.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• What emotional unavailability actually is, and why most people don’t realize they’re doing it• The 4 biggest signs you’re emotionally unavailable• Why high performers often struggle emotionally in relationships• The difference between provision and emotional intimacy• Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness• How childhood patterns and attachment styles shape adult relationships• Why emotional safety matters more than chemistry long term• The truth about suppressing grief, anger, and emotions• How emotionally unavailable people unintentionally keep loved ones at arm’s length• Why healing is your responsibility, not your partner’s• How emotional intimacy creates deeper sex, connection, and trust• Why most people confuse surface-level connection with real intimacy• Practical ways to create emotional closeness with your spouse and childrenMENTIONS + RESOURCES📖 Unavailable by Ana Christianhttps://amzn.to/4uiJCfQAvailable now on Amazon in Kindle and paperback formats. Audiobook coming soon.🎧 Attachment Style Quizhttps://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/🧠 Enneagram Personality Testhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test/CONNECT WITH MEWebsite: https://analeacoaching.comCoaching: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourlyInstagram: https://instagram.com/ana__lea__TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@ana__lea__Email: [email protected] THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.http://buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching

WHAT HIGH-PERFORMING MEN GET WRONG ABOUT WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS, AND THE LIFE THEY WERE BUILT FORYou built the business. You have the income, the status, the results. So why does something still feel missing?In this episode, Ana sits down with Christian Ray Flores, a man who survived war zones, political oppression, and life as a refugee, rose to become an international pop star across 15 countries, and then walked away from all of it to find something more meaningful.Christian is now an entrepreneur, performance coach, evangelist, and author of The Little Book of Big Reasons to Love America. As the founder of Exponential, he helps high-achieving leaders build lives of purpose, personal flourishing, and meaningful relationships, because he learned the hard way that success without foundation always collapses.This conversation is raw, real, and packed with truth that high-performing men need to hear.In this episode, Ana and Christian cover:• Why so many high-achieving men are fueled as much by trauma as they are by ambition• The 4 pillars every successful man is missing, and why without them everything eventually falls apart• Why the strategies that work in business will never work in your marriage• How Christian went from fame across 15 countries to feeling completely lost, and what pulled him out• What it actually means to be the head of your household, and why most men get it completely wrong• How Christian and his wife built a secure, deeply connected marriage over 27 years of non-stop work• Why true wealth has nothing to do with your bank account• The one mindset shift that changes everything for a man in his relationships and his lifeRESOURCES MENTIONED📖 The Little Book of Big Reasons to Love America by Christian Ray Flores🌐 exponential.life🌐 christianrayflores.com📖 Unavailable by Ana Leahttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GX9VD7NW📋 Attachment Style Quizhttps://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/📞 Book a Clarity Call with Anahttps://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-call🔑 KEY TAKEAWAYS• Success without foundation always collapses, ambition without the 4 pillars will eventually underperform or self-destruct• High-achieving men are fueled as much by trauma as ambition, and the same wound driving success can quietly destroy relationships• Your business strategy will never work on your marriage, she is not a transaction, she is a human being• The 4 pillars of lasting success are faith, family, friendships, and meaningful work• True wealth is not the bank account, it’s a house full of love• Headship is not just provision and protection, it’s presenting your wife radiant, safe, nurtured, and cared for• Selfish ambition burns out, godly ambition multiplies• Secure attachment is earned, it takes decades of intentional work, not luck• Men without a mission are tormented, purpose is not optional• You are a steward, everything you have was given to you to multiply and leave better than you found itCONNECT WITH ANA📸 Instagram: @ana__lea__🎵 TikTok: @ana__lea__💻 analeacoaching.com📧 [email protected] THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoachingCONNECT WITH CHRISTIAN🌐 exponential.life🌐 christianrayflores.com🎙️ The Exponential Podcast

In this new episode, Ana sits down with intimacy and relationship coach Monica Tanner to break down what’s actually destroying modern marriages, and it’s not what most people think. They get into communication, emotional responsibility, sex, and the patterns couples repeat without even realizing it. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, frustrated, or like you’re carrying more than your share in a relationship, this one will hit.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE• Why “stop hinting” might be the most important relationship advice you’ll ever hear• How unspoken expectations quietly create resentment and disconnection• The difference between commitment and feeling trapped in a relationship• Why “happy wife, happy life” is setting couples up to fail• How to rebuild connection when you feel like roommatesCONNECT WITH ME💻 https://analeacoaching.com📸 https://instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 https://tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected] A SESSION WITH MEhttps://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-callSUPPORT THE PODCASTGive to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me.☕ https://buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaLISTEN + WATCH🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoachingCONNECT WITH MONICA TANNERIntimacy and relationship coach, speaker, bestselling author, and podcast host🌐 https://monicatanner.com📸 https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriageMonica Tanner’s book: Bad Marriage Advice

Here’s a clean, copy‑paste ready version of your episode description formatted for Spotify creators:Luck is preparation meets opportunity — if you're unhealed, a securely attached person will walk right past you.95% of your mind is subconscious — your patterns, choices, and attraction run on autopilot without your awareness.An unconscious pattern is a habit your heart learned before your brain was old enough to question it.Your brain wires itself through memories and emotions — not language — you can't think your way out of a pattern.Chemistry is activation, not alignment — a nervous system spike is not the same as compatibility.Awareness without pattern work changes nothing — you have to do the work, not just see the pattern.It's not a willpower problem — it's a wiring problem — you have to dig a new ditch.The goal is not to find a better partner — it's to become a different chooser.You can pray for the right person and still be unconsciously unavailable to receive them.Relationships are not meant to make us happy — they're meant to make us holy.📌 The 5 Points Ana CoversWhat Unconscious Patterns Actually MeanA habit your heart learned before your brain was old enough to question it. Built from what you saw, felt, and survived. Your nervous system seeks what's familiar — even when familiar is painful.The 3 Signs You're Running on AutopilotSame relationship, different personChemistry spikes with the wrong ones — the stable person feels boringYou know better but you don't do betterWhy High Achievers Are the Most Blind to ThisYou apply logic to an emotional problem and wonder why it doesn't work. Success masks the pattern. Busyness is avoidance. This is not a willpower problem — it's a wiring problem.What It Actually Takes to Break the PatternHonest pattern recognition — not just what but whyNervous system work — rewiring familiar vs. truly safeNew standards enforced by behavior, not wordsEmotions follow actions — you don't wait to feel it before you do itThe Faith AngleGod isn't sending you the wrong person — He's revealing your pattern. Every repeated relationship is an invitation to go deeper. You can't receive what you haven't become ready to hold. Open your hands.💬 Questions That Reveal Character on a First Date"What does a typical day off look like for you?""What are you looking forward to most this year?""When something bothers you in a relationship, how do you usually handle it?""What's the most important thing you've learned from your last relationship?""What does a perfect day look like to you?""How would the people closest to you describe you — and do you think they're right?""What's one of the biggest struggles you've overcome?""Do you have a morning routine?"🔗 Links & Resources📖 Pre-order Unavailable by Ana Lea — Kindle available now | Paperback: May 5th → analeacoaching.com📋 Attachment Style Quiz → https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/📞 Book a Clarity Call with Ana https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-call📸 Instagram: @ana__lea__🎵 TikTok: @ana__lea__💻 Website: analeacoaching.com

Is your marriage stuck on pause — or is it actually over?In this episode, Ana sits down with Dr. Lee Baucom — marriage coach, author of Save the Marriage, creator of the Unpause Your Marriage app, and a man who has been married for 39 years and counting.Dr. Lee spent years as a marriage therapist before a startling truth stopped him cold: 50% of couples who go to therapy still end up divorced. That discovery sent him down a different path, one built on systems, coaching, and real transformation.Together, Ana and Dr. Lee pull back the curtain on why good marriages quietly fall apart, what it actually takes to rebuild one, and when staying is no longer love but rather self‑abandonment.In this episode, you’ll discover:The "Pause Button Marriage" — the silent killer most couples never see comingWhy one person can start changing a marriage (and exactly how far that goes)The 3 levels of deep connection every couple needs: Physical, Emotional & SpiritualWhy conflict isn’t the problem — disconnection isThe difference between reactivity and responsibility (and how a 3‑second pause can change everything)How to know when working on your marriage has crossed into self‑abandonmentThe 4 clear signs you may be in a toxic relationshipWhy your relationship is a system — and your system is perfectly designed to give you exactly the results you’re getting right nowThe 3 C’s Framework: Change, Connect, CreateWhy changing for someone else never sticks — and what to do instead🔥 Raw & real moments: Ana shares her own journey through a 13‑year marriage to a dismissive avoidant, her path through Al‑Anon and Celebrate Recovery, the moment she finally let go — and how she found herself again on the other side.Connect with Dr. Lee Baucom: 🔗 Struggling in your marriage? → www.unpauseyourmarriage.com 🆘 In crisis and need a roadmap? → www.savethemarriage.comConnect with Ana: 💻 analeacoaching.com📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected] a session: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-callSupport the podcast: ☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_leaListen + Watch: 🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching