In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast we discuss a subtle but important question about why suffering can still continue even if you remove “should” from your vocabulary. We also discuss when to use the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet (JYNW) vs. the One-Belief-at-a-Time Worksheet (OBAAT). We talk about how to do The Work in a gentle way using the principle of balance. And finally, I read my thoughts on making amends. You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps.   Timeline 01:08 — Intro 04:06 — Question: Why Removing “Should” From Your Vocabulary Is Not Enough To Find Peace 12:09 — Question: When To Use The OBAAT And When To Use the JYNW 20:58 — How To Use The Work In A Completely Gentle Way 30:48 — Newsletter: Making Amends Is An Internal Process 43:00 — Outro Open Session Recording Listen to the Open Session recording as we explore some practical and fascinating topics related to The Work of Byron Katie. You too can be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, ask your questions, or join in our discussions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, Making Amends Is An Internal Process. Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   Why Removing “Should” From Your Vocabulary Is Not Enough To Find Peace When To Use The OBAAT And When To Use the JYNW How To Use The Work In A Completely Gentle Way Making Amends Is An Internal Process   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie I offer three main options to help you get started and go the distance in doing The Work of Byron Katie. Find a way that works best for you.

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, we look at the value of finding a specific situation when doing The Work. We also explore different approaches to working on a situation and we emphasize the importance of being gentle with the turnarounds to find a balance that feels right to you. You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps.   Timeline 00:55 — Intro 04:03 — Question: My Examples When Working “I’m Feeling Like A Failure” Seem Too Intellectual 12:23 — Question: When Working “I Can’t Say No,” Which Is Better, JYNW or OBAAT Worksheet? 17:04 — Question: If I Do The Work On My Anxiety About My Child, Will It Make Me Stop Caring? 29:04 — Question: Is It Better To Question Specific Situations vs. Doing The Work In General? 34:44 — Newsletter: No and Yes Are Equal, Unless I Want You to Like Me 43:53 — Outro Open Session Recording In this Open Session recording, we look at several specific issues and think about how to work them. Sometimes, it takes meditation to find the best approach. We also cover how to do The Work without losing touch with your own experience of truth.   Be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, participate in our discussions, or ask your questions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, No and Yes Are Equal, Unless I Want You to Like Me. Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   My Examples When Working “I’m Feeling Like A Failure” Seem Too Intellectual When Working “I Can’t Say No,” Which Is Better, JYNW or OBAAT Worksheet? If I Do The Work On My Anxiety About My Child, Will It Make Me Stop Caring? Is It Better To Question Specific Situations vs. Doing The Work In General? No and Yes Are Equal, Unless I Want You to Like Me   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie Three ways to stop suffering and engage with me: Choose a solution that works for you.

This episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast brings two interesting questions about The Work of Byron Katie: what to expect if you keep doing The Work over a long period of time, and what exactly is the difference between a want and a need (which we often identify as stressful thoughts to question).   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 0:53 — Intro 03:28 — Question: If Guilt Helps Motivate Me, Why Would I Want To Let It Go? 11:18 — Question: If Negative Emotions Are Bad, Why Would We Have Them? 17:48 — Inquiry: Reconnecting With My Father Is Going To Make Me Feel Like I Did In The Past 32:06 — Newsletter: I Need To Eat Something Sweet, Is That True? 39:03 — Outro Open Session Recording Listen to the Open Session recording as we discuss whether holding onto a stressful thought is helpful or not, and whether negative emotions are actually bad or not. You’ll also hear a participant do The Work on his fear of reconnecting with his estranged father after a recent heart attack. You too can be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, ask your questions, or join in our discussions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, I Need To Eat Something Sweet, Is That True? Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   If Guilt Helps Motivate Me, Why Would I Want To Let It Go? If Negative Emotions Are Bad, Why Would We Have Them? Reconnecting With My Father Is Going To Make Me Feel Like I Did In The Past I Need To Eat Something Sweet, Is That True?   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie I offer three main options to help you get started and go the distance in doing The Work of Byron Katie. Find a way that works best for you.

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, we address several doubts about The Work of Byron Katie and how to use The Work in a way that is consistent with your own honest experience.   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 01:18 — Intro 04:26 — Question: Will The Work Explain Away Your Own Reasonable Instincts? 14:55 — Question: Can Doing The Work On A Narcissistic Relationship Cause Spiritual Bypassing? 28:20 — Question: What To Do When Question 4 Of The Work Is Too Scary to Continue? 34:14 — Question: Should The Answer to Question 2 of The Work Be “No” 99% Of The Time? 39:37 — Newsletter: Are You Following Your Turnarounds Blindly? 46:51 — Outro Open Session Recording In this Open Session recording, we look at a number of questions and doubts about The Work. These are all common questions facing anyone who is doing this practice of self-inquiry. Join us as we think about them together.   Be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, participate in our discussions, or ask your questions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, Are You Following Your Turnarounds Blindly? Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   Will The Work Explain Away Your Own Reasonable Instincts? Can Doing The Work On A Narcissistic Relationship Cause Spiritual Bypassing? What To Do When Question 4 Of The Work Is Too Scary to Continue? Should The Answer to Question 2 of The Work Be "No" 99% Of The Time? Are You Following Your Turnarounds Blindly?   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie Three ways to stop suffering and engage with me: Choose a solution that works for you.

This episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast brings two interesting questions about The Work of Byron Katie: what to expect if you keep doing The Work over a long period of time, and what exactly is the difference between a want and a need (which we often identify as stressful thoughts to question).   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 00:59 — Intro 04:14 — Question: What To Expect From The Work A Few Years Down The Road 13:59 — Question: What Is The Difference Between A Want And A Need? 31:12 — Newsletter: Why Bother about Differences between Wants, Shoulds, and Needs? 37:16 — Outro Open Session Recording Listen to the Open Session recording as we cover two important questions related to The Work of Byron Katie. You too can be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, ask your questions, or join in our discussions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, Why Bother about Differences between Wants, Shoulds, and Needs? Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   What To Expect From The Work A Few Years Down The Road What Is The Difference Between A Want And A Need? Why Bother about Differences between Wants, Shoulds, and Needs?   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie I offer three main options to help you get started and go the distance in doing The Work of Byron Katie. Find a way that works best for you.

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, we have a discussion about doing The Work as a regular meditative process even when there appears to be no big stress to work.   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 01:05 — Intro 03:47 — Discussion: How Do You Do The Work Everyday When You’re Not Feeling Stressed? 28:36 — Newsletter: Wanting Without Wanting 35:18 — Outro Open Session Recording In this Open Session recording, we go back and forth thinking about the topic of making The Work a practice even when stress is not always there.   Be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, participate in our discussions, or ask your questions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, Wanting Without Wanting. Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   How Do You Do The Work Everyday When You’re Not Feeling Stressed? Wanting Without Wanting   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie Three ways to stop suffering and engage with me: Choose a solution that works for you.

This episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast is all about decision-making. Decisions can be stressful and confusing. Here we look at how The Work of Byron Katie can support you and how to use it when you’re feeling stressed about making a decision.   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 01:19 — Intro 04:28 — Question: How Can The Work Help Me Make Decisions? 18:00 — Inquiry: I Need To Make A Decision About This 37:31 — Newsletter: The Work and Decision-Making Are Two Different Things 45:27 — Outro Open Session Recording Listen to the Open Session recording as a participant first asks a question about decisions and then does The Work of Byron Katie on the thought, “I need to make a decision about this.”   You too can be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, ask your questions, or join in our discussions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, The Work and Decision-Making Are Two Different Things. Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   How Can The Work Help Me Make Decisions? I Need To Make A Decision About This The Work and Decision-Making Are Two Different Things   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie I offer three main options to help you get started and go the distance in doing The Work of Byron Katie. Find a way that works best for you.

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, several Open Session participants ask questions about The Work of Byron Katie.   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 00:54 — Intro 03:34 — Question: What To Do When The Turnaround Is Just Not True? 11:16 — Question: How Do I Judge Someone Else When My Thoughts Are About Me? 24:34 — Question: Getting Clearer About The “Unusual Turnaround” 33:50 — Newsletter: Is Nice How You Define A Good Person? 37:41 — Outro Open Session Recording In this Open Session recording, participants bring up several different questions related to doing The Work.   Be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, participate in our discussions, or ask your questions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, Is Nice How You Define A Good Person? Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   What To Do When The Turnaround Is Just Not True?   How Do I Judge Someone Else When My Thoughts Are About Me?   Getting Clearer About The "Unusual Turnaround"   Is Nice How You Define A Good Person?   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie Three ways to stop suffering and engage with me: Choose a solution that works for you.

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, a participant questions the thought, “I should have just closed the windows.” She woke up around 1 AM with cold air coming in the bedroom but just turned over and went back to sleep. In the morning, she had a sore throat and cold and she started berating herself. Listen to her realizations as she goes through the questions of The Work.   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 00:50 — Intro 04:02 — Inquiry: I Should Have Closed The Windows 28:46 — Question: I Feel Like I’m Just Jumping To Conclusions In Question 4 38:14 — Newsletter: Demystifying The Inner World 49:06 — Outro Open Session Recording Listen to the Open Session recording as a participant does The Work of Byron Katie on a self-berating thought, “I should have just closed the windows.” Watch her experience transform as she explores.   You too can be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, ask your questions, or join in our discussions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, Demystifying The Inner World. Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   I Should Have Closed The Windows I Feel Like I'm Just Jumping To Conclusions In Question 4 Demystifying The Inner World   Learn The Work Of Byron Katie I offer three main options to help you get started and go the distance in doing The Work of Byron Katie. Find a way that works best for you.

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, an Open Session participant does The Work on a situation with her sister who as executor of her mom’s estate sent her a stool she didn’t want and wanted her to pay for shipping. She questions the thought, “She made the decision without including me.”   You can also listen to this podcast wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re new to podcasts, here’s a review article by PCMagazine on the best podcast apps to use. If you find one that Wiggle Room is not on, let me know and I’ll be happy to add it there too. Here are a few of the most popular podcast apps. Timeline 01:53 — Intro 04:56 — Inquiry: She Made The Decision Without Including Me 28:34 — Newsletter: When Am I Going To Deal With My Emotions? 38:23 — Outro Open Session Recording In this Open Session recording, a participant questions her thought, “She made the decision without including me.” Have you ever been in a situation like this? If you can relate, you may enjoy listening to what she finds.   Be a participant in Open Sessions each week to do The Work with me, participate in our discussions, or ask your questions. Newsletter Text In the second part of the recording, I read my article, When Am I Going To Deal With My Emotions? Subscribe to the newsletter to get new articles like this one each week.  Bonus Videos If you prefer video, you can watch the following sections of the podcast in HD video.   She Made The Decision Without Including Me When Am I Going To Deal With My Emotions? Learn The Work Of Byron Katie Three ways to stop suffering and engage with me: Choose a solution that works for you.