What Your Therapist Thinks
What Your Therapist Thinks
Felicia Keller Boyle & Kristie Plantinga
How Can We Get The Spark Back? Strategies for Long-Term Relationship Intimacy
57 minutes Posted Apr 15, 2026 at 12:00 pm.
Why spark is not what you think
Can a relationship be saved
The truth about losing the spark
Why spark needs intention and effort
Safety first then attraction grows
Learning what you actually need
Communication that builds connection
Rebuilding after stress and life changes
Small actions that bring connection back
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Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood.

Some takeaways:

• Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood.

• The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence.

• How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection.

• How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does.

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