In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham speaks with an anonymous guest who bravely shares her story of emotional abuse perpetrated by her partner, who struggled with addiction. The guest describes how her relationship, which began during a vulnerable period in her life, transitioned from charming to controlling and abusive. Key elements of the narrative include the partner's manipulative and deceitful tactics, such as love bombing, gaslighting, and isolating her from friends and family, alongside his use of ketamine and alcohol. The guest highlights the complex dynamics of abuse, including the psychological manipulation and the difficult realization that she was being targeted. The episode underscores the importance of trusting one's instincts, seeking professional guidance, and recognizing the red flags of abuse and addiction. It offers valuable insights into the cycle of abuse, the impact on mental health, and how survivors can begin to heal and reclaim their autonomy after leaving an abusive relationship.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham          00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 First Guest from Across the Pond 01:50 The Beginning of the Relationship 04:41 Red Flags and Addictions 10:28 Escalation and Realization 16:02 The Cycle of Abuse 30:37 The Child's Perspective 35:48 The Struggle to Leave 36:49 Valentine's Day Roller Disco 37:52 A Public Confrontation 39:54 The Breaking Point 43:52 Seeking Help and Taking Action 47:52 Reflection and Recovery 51:50 Learning to Trust Again 01:00:36 Final Thoughts and Advice 01:09:31 Conclusion and Support

Join host Karly Latham in this compelling episode of "What Lies Buried," where we delve into the real and raw stories of emotional abuse survivors. This week, Karly welcomes Melissa Doogie Spires, a former Seventh-day Adventist, who shares her journey of leaving the church and dealing with the long-lasting effects of religious control. Melissa recounts her experiences growing up in a high-demand religion, the church's imposed behavioral controls, and her challenges in breaking free. Together, Karly and Melissa explore the striking similarities between Seventh-day Adventists and Mormons, highlighting the mind control and social pressures that shape their followers' lives. As they discuss the parallels between religious indoctrination and emotional abuse, listeners will gain insights into the struggles of deconstructing one's faith and rebuilding a life of personal empowerment. This episode sheds light on the hidden truths of religious control and offers a safe space for survivors to share their stories. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation, which will uncover the truth buried beneath the lies and inspire a path toward healing and self-discovery. Stay involved with Melissa's advocacy efforts: https://www.instagram.com/the.glory.whole/ If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:21 Exploring Religious Abuse 01:42 Guest Introduction: Melissa Doogie Spires 02:02 Leaving the Church: Personal Experiences 02:40 Behavioral Controls in Religious Upbringings 04:25 Comparing Mormonism and Seventh-day Adventism 04:46 The Origins and History of Seventh-day Adventism 09:09 The Impact of Dietary Rules and Lifestyle Controls 11:53 Navigating Life Outside the Church 23:43 The Role of Women in High-Demand Religions 39:22 Navigating Family Discomfort with PTSD 40:38 Exploring Financial Abuse and Cognitive Dissonance 42:08 Impact of Religious Upbringing on Emotional Expression 43:14 Struggles with Eating Disorders and Seeking Help 44:28 Normalizing Toxic Relationships 46:48 The Pressure to Maintain a Perfect Appearance 50:59 Exhaustion as a Control Tactic in Religion and Relationships 53:10 Escaping and Deconstructing Abusive Relationships 01:07:24 Writing and Sharing Stories of Religious Trauma 01:15:08 Conclusion and Call to Action

In this intense episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham examines the harrowing story of an anonymous guest's experience with emotional abuse. The narrative begins with an unstable relationship with Dylan before delving deeper into a complex and deceitful relationship with Nathan. The guest describes highs of affection and love, sharply contrasted by Nathan's deceit, infidelity, and financial manipulation, culminating in revelations of his multiple affairs. The story concludes with the guest's courageous decision to start afresh, leaning on her support system and forming bonds with other victims. Karly provides a vital platform for sharing these isolating experiences, drawing attention to common patterns of emotional abuse and emphasizing the importance of self-belief and emotional support in recovery.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:22 Patterns in Emotionally Abusive Relationships 01:56 Guest's Story: The Relationship with Dylan 04:32 The Breakup and Aftermath 06:09 Meeting Nathan: A New Beginning 13:11 The Honeymoon Phase with Nathan 18:49 Red Flags and Relationship Dynamics 31:43 Living Together and Financial Struggles 38:32 Nathan's New Friend Sarah 42:56 Questioning the Relationship 44:19 The European Vacation 46:30 The Breakup Bombshell 52:36 Pandemic Separation 55:58 Birthday Revelations 01:10:04 False Promises and Moving On 01:27:21 New Beginnings and Reflections 01:27:53 Meeting Jeremy and Making It Official 01:28:21 Nathan's Unexpected Reaction 01:30:14 Navigating a New Relationship 01:31:42 Nathan's Art Show and New Connections 01:33:54 Concert Encounter with Colleen 01:36:40 Discovering Nathan's Deception 01:49:08 Confronting the Truth 02:03:44 Reflecting on the Experience 02:05:47 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this gripping episode of What Lies Buried, host Karly Latham welcomes Allison Baxley, a talented writer from Medium, to share her harrowing experience with emotional and sexual abuse within a 22-year marriage. Allison bravely recounts the escalating abuse, the financial control, and the horrifying moments that led her to realize she was a victim of marital rape. Through Allison's story, listeners will gain insight into the complexities of abuse, the courage it takes to leave, and the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional and psychological manipulation. This episode is a powerful reminder that support and justice are crucial for survivors. Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of abuse, including sexual coercion and domestic violence, which may be triggering for some listeners. Please proceed with caution. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to [email protected]  https://medium.com/@baxleyallisonw Allison Baxley on Medium  https://medium.com/@karly-latham/sexual-coercion-e643a72b197f Sexual Coercion article  00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Meet Allison Baxley: A Story of Escalating Abuse 03:33 Financial Control and Emotional Manipulation 07:51 Realization and Recognition of Domestic Violence 12:38 Sexual Coercion and Marital Rape 19:44 The Struggle for Autonomy and Peace 37:27 The Decision to Seek Justice 47:36 Discovering the Deleted Email 50:09 Family Vacation Nightmare 52:18 Revealing the Abuse to Friends and Family 54:21 Deciding to Leave 01:09:18 The Healing Journey Begins 01:11:11 Therapeutic Techniques and Hypnosis 01:26:16 Final Words and Advice

Welcome to What Lies Buried, where host Karly Latham delves into the raw and real stories of emotional abuse survivors. This week's episode is a compelling follow-up with Tonya, who shares the early stages of her relationship, the impact of a hyper-religious environment, and the unraveling of her marriage. From meeting at a conservative Catholic university to navigating a marriage filled with concealed secrets and financial betrayals, Tonya reveals the emotional and psychological turmoil she endured. A survivor who recounts her experiences of betrayal, financial ruin, and eventual healing after a tumultuous marriage at an ultra-conservative Catholic university. Additionally, two mothers share their poignant stories of co-parenting post-divorce, navigating emotional challenges, and fostering resilience in their children. The discussions underscore the importance of self-discovery, therapy, and supportive relationships in overcoming trauma and rebuilding a nurturing environment for personal and familial growth. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to [email protected]  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham        00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:20 Tonya's Early Relationship and College Life 08:23 Marriage and Early Challenges 09:27 Struggles with Family Planning and Health 12:42 The Beginning of the End 15:39 Vacation Tensions and Medication Issues 44:42 Discovering Financial Betrayal 45:43 Unraveling the Debt 46:43 Facing Foreclosure and Repossession 48:44 The Aftermath of Separation 51:11 Struggles of Co-Parenting 58:19 New Beginnings with Josh 01:03:23 The Pain of Abandonment 01:09:11 Moving Forward and Healing 01:23:47 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this powerful episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham and guests Kurstin and Tonya bravely share their personal stories of emotional and financial abuse within their former high-demand religious communities. As ex-Mormons and a former devout Catholic, they reveal the systemic pressures that facilitated mistreatment and perpetuated cycles of guilt and shame. The episode discusses their journeys of leaving their faiths, the complexities of managing household finances, and the trauma of financial mismanagement discovered post-separation. Challenges such as single parenting and finding self-worth are explored alongside the importance of building a supportive network. Trigger warnings for themes of emotional and religious abuse are provided.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to [email protected]  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:17 Special Episode: Ex-Mormon Round Table 02:43 Personal Stories of Emotional Abuse 05:10 The Pressure to Conform in Religious Communities 08:08 Sexual Expectations and Marital Struggles 10:36 The Burden of Religious Guilt 13:54 Breaking Free and Finding Support 17:27 Reflecting on Past Relationships 48:17 Cognitive Dissonance in High-Demand Religions 48:44 Recognizing Emotional Abuse 49:56 Gendered Expectations and Patriarchy 51:35 The Burden of Household Responsibilities 59:41 Struggles of Leaving a Toxic Marriage 01:12:46 Financial Abuse and Control 01:33:46 The Fear of Being Alone 01:35:28 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham has a candid conversation with her friend Kurstin, who reveals her deeply personal experiences of emotional abuse within a toxic marriage. Their discussion highlights the influence of their Mormon upbringing on their relationships and Kurstin's struggle with manipulation and isolation. They explore the taboo of divorce in their faith, the psychological impact of staying in an unhealthy relationship, and the eventual empowerment Kurstin found in reclaiming her life. Her story offers profound insights and encouragement for those facing similar challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and the strength required to pursue happiness and freedom.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to [email protected]  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Upcoming Episodes and Guest Introduction 01:52 Kurstin's Story: Religious Upbringing and Marriage 03:09 Struggles and Realizations in Marriage 06:09 Emotional Abuse and Breaking Points 13:45 The Decision to Divorce 42:43 The Stigma of Divorce in the Mormon Church 44:19 Struggles and Personal Losses 45:41 Separation and the Fight for Independence 46:11 Rediscovering Self-Worth Through Modeling 47:06 Confronting the Emotional Manipulation 49:42 The Legal Battle and Emotional Turmoil 51:02 Family Dynamics and Support Systems 54:58 Breaking Free from an Abusive Relationship 01:10:19 Post-Divorce Healing and Self-Discovery 01:17:28 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this revealing episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham converses with an anonymous guest about their painful experience in a manipulative and emotionally abusive 'situationship.' The discussion touches on themes such as breadcrumbing, love bombing, sexual coercion, and stalking, illustrating the complex dynamics and red flags prevalent in abusive relationships. The episode highlights how the guest was initially groomed and betrayed by a manipulative individual, their connection with other victims, and their journey toward healing. Emphasizing the importance of therapy, self-worth, and support systems, the conversation gives listeners insights on recognizing abuse, listening to intuition, and making safety plans. The episode concludes with encouraging advice on self-love, healing, and rediscovering joy and trust after trauma while also cautioning listeners on the triggering themes discussed.   Sexual Coercion article: https://medium.com/@karly-latham/sexual-coercion-e643a72b197f    If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to [email protected]  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham        00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Guest Introduction and Initial Story 02:55 The Situationship Unfolds 05:22 Red Flags and Realizations 09:09 The Betrayal Revealed 11:28 Emotional Turmoil and Manipulation 13:42 Confrontation and Confusion 26:32 Understanding Sexual Coercion 45:17 Healing and Moving Forward 52:31 Reflecting on a Toxic Relationship 53:53 Uncovering the Truth 57:18 The Power of Silence 01:00:10 The Impact of Betrayal 01:01:33 The Cycle of Abuse 01:07:50 Digital Stalking and Its Effects 01:13:45 Finding Support and Healing 01:26:54 Moving Forward and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham interviews Juan Ferrer, who bravely shares his experience of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship. This discussion emphasizes the often overlooked experiences of men in abusive situations, detailing manipulative behaviors, trauma bonding, and societal expectations. Juan reflects on his struggles with low self-esteem, the control exerted by his partner, and his transformative journey to self-discovery and healing. The episode underscores the importance of storytelling in reversing power dynamics and highlights the path to regaining self-worth and embracing vulnerability as pivotal in overcoming abuse.   Please support Juan's spiritual journey at https://www.instagram.com/scorpse_revival/ and his woodworking business at https://www.instagram.com/spoon.and.board/   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes please write in to [email protected]  For in depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:18 Highlighting Male Voices in Abuse 02:10 Juan Ferrer's Story Begins 06:30 Early Signs of Abuse 13:35 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse 41:05 Finding Solace in Woodworking 49:24 Escalation of Drama and Self-Defense 51:00 Physical Abuse and Emotional Scarring 54:17 Societal Dynamics and Personal Struggles 58:12 The Breaking Point and Blackmail 01:06:59 The Final Arguments and Breakup 01:14:14 Post-Breakup Challenges and Self-Discovery 01:18:58 The Return and Final Confrontation 01:28:12 Healing and Moving Forward 01:37:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham talks with an anonymous guest who shares a powerful story of overcoming emotional and physical trauma. The guest reveals the challenges of enduring emotional abuse in a domestic partnership, dealing with chronic health issues, and coping with the loss of a parent to cancer. The narrative addresses the subtle dangers of emotional manipulation, the toll on mental and physical health, and the arduous path to recovery through creative outlets, spirituality, and online community support. The episode also explores the influence of tarot readings, the journey of recognizing abuse, and the importance of self-care and finding a support system. Ultimately, it provides encouragement for listeners to trust their instincts and seek help if they face similar struggles.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes please write in to [email protected]  For in depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 00:55 Meet the Guest 01:56 Early Relationship Dynamics 03:20 Signs of Manipulation 04:19 Isolation and Control 06:00 Gaslighting and Emotional Abuse 08:17 Intimidation and Health Issues 10:51 Financial Dependence and Health Crisis 54:17 Realization of a Stroke and Seizure 54:55 Partner's Dismissive Reaction 55:58 Struggles with Medical Appointments 57:12 Doubts and Self-Reflection 59:00 Impact of Emotional Abuse 01:09:51 Caregiving and Personal Health Challenges 01:14:29 Finding Support and Coping Mechanisms 01:26:46 Reflections and Advice for Others 01:47:16 Conclusion and Outro