The court system is a whole culture unto itself! It has its own language and customs and procedures, and if you do not understand how the system works, that could hurt you in your divorce case. Kris breaks down what questions to ask when hiring an attorney all the way to what to do when in court. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the family court system and what questions to ask when you go to hire an attorney. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.    

Have you ever had your parent's voice come flying out of your mouth? Nine times out of ten that happened when you were stressed out, and it was a knee-jerk reaction. What can you do when that happens? Are you aware of all of the bad parenting that your dysfunctional family of origin gave you and how that plays out in your own parenting? In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses bad parenting that we experienced from our dysfunctional families of origin and the possible fleas that we picked up. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

For many of us that came out of families of origin that were toxic, we truly do not know what healthy looks like. So what behaviors are healthy? What should we be looking for in family, friends, partners, or even co-workers? What does healthy actually look like? In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses what healthy family, friends, partners etc. look like.  The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. Resource/link mentioned in this episode: Six Characteristics of a Healthy Family

When a person comes out of an abusive relationship, they almost inevitably have anxiety. When a person is stressed out and at survival the amygdala enlarges and the anxiety increases. The good news is that with mindfulness, the amygdala shrinks.  In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses anxiety and why almost every single survivor of abuse has anxiety. She also discusses what you can do to help mitigate it.  Link mentioned in this episode: Signs of Anxiety, PsychologyToday.com The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

Have you ever wondered why the other parent did not protect you? Have you wondered why people just allow abuse to occur? What gets in the way of people acting to protect? These and many more questions will be answered in this weeks episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez discussing When People Do Nothing! In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why the other parent did not protect us and what might get in the way of by standers actually jumping in to help. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. Links to resources mentioned in this episode: When Good People Do Nothing Supreme Court Overturns Stalker's Conviction In First Amendment Case Over 'True Threats' Child Abuse and the Role of Parental Denial

Have you ever wondered why some people just cannot make a decision without asking everyone and anyone? What causes a person not to trust their own judgment? Have you ever met someone who just wanted to be taken care of to the point of clinginess? That would be someone with a dependent personality. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses people with dependent personality. What it is, why it is, and what to do about it! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the smear campaign, why they do it, how it "benefits" them, and who believes it. When a breakup with an abuser happens, have you ever wondered why they suddenly go on a rampage trying to discredit their former target of abuse? What does an abuser get out of such egregious behavior? Why do people believe them? What is a flying monkey anyway? These and many more questions will be answered in this week's episode! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

Did you know that most survivors of abuse, either by the family of origin or by a significant other, have eating disorders or issues with food? Yeah! Yet another lovely side effect of abuse. Survivors of abuse are more likely to have anorexia, bulimia, binge/purge, or overeating issues. How to help yourself is to get with a damn good trauma therapist that understands eating disorders. Write and burn letters to the people who made food/weight/looks, etc., an issue. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. Links mentioned in this podcast:  Your teen wants to get in shape this summer? What to say and when to worry, CNN.com 

Have you ever had someone either pooh, poo, or dismiss or actively destroy your dreams? Have you ever wondered what would possess someone to do such a heinous thing? What drives an abuser to stop their target of abuse from reaching their potential or from doing what they love? Well, wonder no more! Kris will break down what the payoff is for abusers who crush dreams!   The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

This week on We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the trauma response of dissociation and unreality and pretty much normalizes that response for survivors of trauma. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.