This is the second to last episode of this podcast and we are in our feelings about it. BUT before we say goodbye, we have one last Carl Jung quote to unpack with you: "Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically...on their children than the unlived life of the parent." We go pretty deep on how to hear your own desires, what reparenting yourself actually looks like, the brain development behind why your life becomes your child's model for their own...and a ton of other stuff. If there has to be a second-to-last, we're glad it's this one.Note: there is a gentle but audible hum throughout this episode--it's an air purifier, we recorded this during the LA fires.Related Episode: Mothers Not MartyrsJoin ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Instagram:Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠

Welcome, dear friends, to the first of three final episodes of Very Good Enough. After a long break, Jess and Layne are back together ready to share what this journey has been like from each of our perspectives and how we independently arrived at the conclusion that, well, it's time to conclude. We recorded these conversations during the height of the fires in LA so you'll hear about our experiences with that in real time. Then we get into how to know when it's time to let something go, how to celebrate the ending of something good, and how to trust your life direction even when you don't totally know where it's taking you.Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Instagram:Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠

Jess and Layne take some time to reflect on the conversations we've had with you over the course of this season. While Very Good Enough is on hiatus, you can still find us in REAL LIFE inside the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)! Find Jess at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jessica Hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Youtube and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on Instagram Find Layne ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram

This episode digs into the isolating world of early parenthood. Jess and Layne explore why connecting with other moms (or literally anyone) is crucial for your mental and physical health and offer practical tips on building your support network. Learn how to combat "must be nice" syndrome--that creeping resentment towards partners or friends who seem to have it easier--and how friendship can help you identify these feelings and transform them into productive conversations about your needs. Whether you're a seasoned mom or new to the game, find out how to create meaningful connections and build community. Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠

Drawing inspiration from a scene in "The Crown," Jess and Layne explore the idea of stepping into your own authority as a parent and trusting yourself to make choices. Key topics include: Dealing with guilt and second-guessing yourself The importance of flexibility and learning from experiences Communicating confidently with your partner and family members We offer practical advice on how to build confidence in your choices and accept that mistakes are part of the journey. Whether you're struggling with mom guilt, feeling overwhelmed by decision-making, or frozen with anxiety about the future, this episode is a reminder that you're uniquely equipped to wear the crown in your own life and motherhood journey. Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠

Jess invites Layne's husband, Conner Cherland, into the studio (it's our living room) for a discussion on time management and life balance. Conner's unique perspective as an artist and entrepreneur offers fresh approaches to common challenges faced by busy moms. We talk about: Practical time management strategies when you're overwhelmed How to prioritize your goals (even if your goal is simply "sleep more") How to break down large tasks into manageable steps Embracing imperfection and celebrating small wins Layne and Conner share how they navigate gender roles and work toward equity in their relationship. Conner advocates for dads making sure moms get the time and space they need to de-stimulate and connect with themselves so they can identify what they really want. Conner teaches us how to manage our energy throughout the day, and why sometimes doing less can actually help you achieve more. Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco

With the upcoming election adding extra tension to our lives, Layne and Jess dig into the challenge of maintaining relationships when core beliefs differ. We discuss: How to maintain relationships when we disagree on parenting styles, politics, or worldviews? Strategies for having meaningful conversations about sensitive topics Navigating family dynamics when personal beliefs evolve over time How to approach differences in parenting choices (e.g., co-sleeping, vaccinations) Dealing with the impact of social media on our perceptions of others Learn how to create understanding, set boundaries when needed, and find common ground even when viewpoints clash. Because at the end of the day, if we all love our kids and try hard, we actually have a lot in common. Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco

You FLOODED our inbox over the last month with responses to our episode, "Fear + Force | Why we're leaving old school discipline styles behind." This week, Layne digs into your stories and questions. We cover: Is yelling ever ok as a parent? How do I get my toddler to listen? Is spanking child abuse? How to be in charge as the parent while still respecting my child's personhood How to manage power struggles with my toddler My 3-year-old gives me the silent treatment. What should I do? And much more! Huge thank you to everyone who shared their stories and thoughts. Listen to the original "Fear + Force" episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2FcVJJ1VaqsWFyrogKEj8p?si=GAYjpbKURzO_VhtHvLImxg Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco

Is your little one starting preschool soon? Jess and Layne share their strategies from both the experienced mom and preschool teacher perspectives. Learn how to: Prepare your child (and yourself) emotionally for the first day Handle separation anxiety and tearful goodbyes Communicate effectively with teachers Create a smooth drop-off routine Understand your child's behavior before and after school Use transitional objects to provide comfort Connect with other parents and build your own support network Whether you're feeling excited or anxious about this new chapter, we have you covered with practical strategies, insider knowledge, and empathetic support to make your child's transition to preschool as smooth as possible. More from us about preschool: Youtube video from Jess' channel - https://youtu.be/jYchyCQYtzc?si=sxEiAkWpJIedSBiyS1 E2 His First Hard Thing - https://youtu.be/JCBj8odSbkw?si=EKt1LuzaRp2QI0lCS5 E6 Childcare vs. Mom - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5HrZKzYul8hXKYD894s9dS?si=PrMFXGzcRWSa-YG1-Vj8DwBonus | Pooping at preschool - https://open.spotify.com/episode/23Uayk97l6CAr49NrGmh7y?si=ZkvsizQ4Sau4masvqGEKjgBonus | Is preschool important? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6048h6fxgUWo2EJoTpgTyD?si=XxJnx0pEQmy49wulYgBFoQ Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco

Join us as we unpack a real-life playground incident and explore why labeling toddlers as 'mean' or 'bullies' misses the mark. We discuss why your little one's pushing or hitting is actually a direct route to getting what they want, not intentional meanness. We offer practical strategies for responding to aggressive behavior, setting boundaries, and teaching better tools. And we address the importance of healthy aggression in child development and how to channel it positively. Whether you're the parent of the 'pusher' or the 'pushed,' this episode offers compassionate insights and actionable tips for navigating this very normal developmental stage. Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on Instagram: Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco