In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:
āMy dad keeps saying I ānever come see himā but heās never once offered to drive to me. Iāve got two kids, a job, and no extra money for travel. Am I really the selfish one here?ā
If youāve ever been guilted into visiting a parent ā even when your life is stretched thin ā youāre not alone. We unpack the expectation that adult children should always be the ones to make visits happen, and why thatās not fair or sustainable.
Inside this episode, weāll talk about:
- Why āyou never visit meā guilt trips hurt more than they help
- The imbalance adult children face when parents expect one-sided effort
- How guilt erodes connection instead of creating it
- Practical ways to respond that honor both your reality and your relationship
If youāve ever felt selfish or ungrateful for saying ānoā to a visit, this episode is for you.
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