Untethering Shame
Untethering Shame
Kyira Wackett
When You’re Triggered: How to Recognize and Calm Your Inner Alarm System
9 minutes Posted Jul 17, 2025 at 7:00 am.
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Ever snapped at someone you love or shut down completely, only to wonder later, “Why did I react like that?”

In this episode, Kyira unpacks what it really means to be triggered, why these intense reactions happen, and how you can learn to recognize and respond to them with more compassion.

Using insights from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Kyira guides you through five common signs you’re triggered and offers practical steps to help you pause, reconnect with your body, and soothe the protective parts of you that are working so hard to keep you safe—even when you don’t feel in danger.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What a “trigger” actually is and why it feels so overwhelming
  • How your protective parts shape your reactions
  • 5 common signs you’re in a triggered state
  • Simple strategies to ground yourself in the moment
  • How to start healing shame and building self-trust through radical acceptance


Reflection prompts:

✨ What situations or interactions tend to trigger you?

✨ Which parts of you jump in to protect you—and what are they afraid of?

✨ What might change if you responded to those parts with curiosity and compassion?


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