Untethering Shame
Untethering Shame
Kyira Wackett
The Problem Isn’t Your Standards—It’s the Context
5 minutes Posted Jun 19, 2025 at 7:00 am.
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If you’ve ever been told your standards are “too high” or felt like backing off meant giving up, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, Kyira unpacks the real issue behind perfectionism and burnout—not the ambition itself, but the context in which our standards are created. We’ll explore how shame, external validation, and scarcity shape our goals, and how radical acceptance can help you rewrite the script to live more aligned, sustainable, and whole.

In this episode, Kyira explores:

  • Why high standards aren't inherently bad

  • The hidden cost of overfunctioning and performance-based worth

  • The difference between narrowing your focus and broadening your view

  • How to identify the areas of life you're starving while feeding others

  • Why tending to “low ROI” roles like rest and creativity is essential to thriving

Reflection prompts:

  • Which “plants” in your life are you overwatering—and which are being neglected?

  • Whose approval are your standards designed to earn?

  • What would it look like to set goals rooted in your truth, not your shame?


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