I said it- a mani and pedi for "self-care" is bull-shit. Now, I'm not one to shy away from gorgeous and well-manicured toesies and nails, etc. - but I cannot lie to you and praise these kinds of practices when despite doing this for myself for over 3 years... I was STILL emotionally panic-stricken to be vulnerable with my husband and mentally exhausted with limiting beliefs about myself. 
I was STILL trying to people-please and feel accepted by my family after my affair - trying to PROVE to them I was a worthy human to still be married to a great guy. 
I was STILL hurting so bad inside about my mom anger issues that a 45-minute nail session, that I finally didn't feel guilty about doing for myself,  just didn't cut it... 

My 'self' was crumbling at its core and no one would know the difference, and I had no idea how to 'care'  and love on myself first and foremost - outside of getting my nails done. 

But I called all those pampering-type actions "self-care" until ... Now. 

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