The number one relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. It influences how you experience and engage every other relationship be it with people, situations, or resources. Interestingly though, your relationship with yourself is also built by all your other relationships. Most of the dynamics of your self-relationship happen in the background of your mind, unconsciously influencing what you notice around you, how you feel about what you notice, and how you then show up to those things. One step to feeling more in control of your life is to bring those self-relationship dynamics to consciousness and make active choices in how you develop this super important relationship.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into some tools to unlock awareness and taking charge of your relationship with yourself. Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Identifying obstacles like toxic individualism and comparisonitisThe stories you tell about who you areLearning about yourself through othersIdentifying actions to retrain your brainThe people you want on your support team  Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:#23 How to Plan for the Future AND Enjoy the PresentSusan David The gift and power of emotional courage TEDTalkIn and Of Itself by Derek DelGaudio on HuluSchedule a call with me CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Money stories. Many of the ones our society is swimming in are toxic. In order to change those stories and create healthier structures, we need to consciously engage them as individuals. I have many clients who are working to step out of lack mentality and create a greater sense of abundance in their life. They come from a variety of backgrounds and make anywhere from $0 staring out to 6 figures. The woman I’m coaching in this episode is a current client. She signed up for this session because, though we’ve already done a fair amount of work around money, she was still finding herself triggered in certain situations and wanted to dig in further.In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us explore internalized societal money stories and unlearning them to create mental freedom and empowered choices.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Fear of disappointing familyThe difference between effort and sufferingDefining work and what’s valuableChoosing your relationship with moneyIf you want to join the Life Visioning Workshop mentioned in this episode you can sign up HEREWant to come but can’t make it? Email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander to let me know you’d like me to host it again!Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Life Visioning WorkshopCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Growing up we learn to follow the rules, hustle to create success, if we make enough money we'll be happy and valuable... Most of these stories are rooted in toxic systems that reinforce harmful ways of engaging money and people. This doesn’t make money bad. But it does mean that we need an additional level of mindfulness to engage running a business that is sustainable and ethical in practice as well as product.  It takes cutting out the noise from all the “right way” gurus and following a path that you create based on your gifts, interests, and values. AND doing your own work to deprogram the unavoidably internalized hustle culture.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Erika Tebbens to join me in a conversation around being sustainable AND ethical as an entrepreneur.Creating systems that are aligned with your gifts and interestsMindset around pricing to be sustainableTapping into your intuition to build your businessReleasing shiny object syndromeLearning how to trust yourself and live in integrityAnd so much more!Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH ERIKA TEBBENS:InstagramSell It, Sister PodcastNo-Sleaze Sales GuideRad Clients On RepeatWork with Erika! CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!Life Vision Workshop

Money is a topic we are obsessed with in this society. It’s incredibly sensitive, so we rarely talk about it directly. Yet we’re constantly surrounded by conversations related to it. Part of the reason is that there is a great deal of shame surrounding it – mostly in not having it, though for some there’s shame in having it that leads them to not have it. All this emotional weight and avoidance creates a very disempowering dynamic.  In order to reclaim this tool to build sustainable lives and businesses we must start by intentionally engaging our relationship with money.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Ornella E Yovo to join me in a conversation around developing tangible financial empowerment.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Why we avoid dealing with money and what avoidance can look likeBuilding your financial musclesThe problems with trying to “mindset” your way to wealthCreating sustainable habits around moneySetting boundaries to strategically engage goalsAnd more! Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH ORNELLA E YOVO:Instagram with OrnellaInstagram with OsqrdWork with Ornella!CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

We're taught from a young age to look toward the future. That life really begins once something in the future happens, such as once you become the person you're going to be when you grow up. The problem is that this sets us up in a pattern of chasing, not having. Many clients come to me saying they have big dreams and want to make an impact in the world but they don't want to sacrifice the present moment. They believe both is possible but don't know HOW. It starts with relearning how to vision in a way that supports both the goal AND the journey.  In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to engage visioning in a way that supports both achieving your goals AND enjoying your life.  Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:What exactly IS visioningWays we learn to vision that actually sabotage usOvercoming fear of failure/fear of successThe importance of having a purposeful visionWays to engage creating a vision effectively for yourself or with othersI'm particularly passionate about this topic because it's been a big learning for me personally. I spent years building the life I thought you were supposed to have to be happy. I spent more years working to be in the present moment, not getting caught up in the future or the past. I ended up becoming really good at tolerating life, instead of fully living it. Learning how to vision as I describe in this episode was pivotal for me in feeling like I was truly owning my life.Want support to create a vision that motivates you to action with both future goals and present enjoyment? Sign up for my Life Visioning Workshop HEREThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Episode 7 – Can I Make Plans YetEpisode 22 - Creating Your Ideal Day YOUR WayLife Visioning Workshop CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

There are tons of books all about creating an ideal day or how to start your day so that you set yourself up for success. The problem with all these strategies is that they often tell you to do things that may not fit YOU and instead leave you feeling more frustrated and less productive. The truth is that your level of productivity will look different on different days and how you support your day needs to meet you where you’re at. At the same time, outlining what you want and creating routines are definitely helpful for productivity and life enjoyment. So, what’s the happy medium?In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to create supportive foundations for making the most of your day.  Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:How to bake flexibility into your plansDetermining routines that support youMeeting yourself where you’re at in creating new habitsUnderstanding the relationship between time and energyExercises to assess where you’re spending your energyI went into survival mode with my time when Covid locked us all down, mostly feeling like all I had space for was whatever felt most pressing in that moment. Living like that can become a habit without you even realizing it isn’t necessary anymore, that you actually have at least some of your bearings back. It takes pausing to notice, assess, and envision something different in order to start shifting that way of being. Hopefully this episode helps you begin that process.If you're interested in judgment-free support to holistically realign life and work to the person you want to be, let's talk. Just schedule a time on my calendar HERE Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: Episode 7 – Can I Make Plans YetCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Have you ever really wanted to do something yet kept not doing it?The woman in this session came to me because she wanted to write a book and she couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t. All her natural obstacles were gone, and she had the perfect conditions for finally doing it: stable income, older kids, stuck at home… yet she still didn’t write. In this episode of Unlimited, we dig into what creates “stuck” and develop practical steps to taking action with added inspiration from a surprise visitor…Some of what we engage in this episode include:Creating clarity to motivate actionHow we create obstacles to actionTapping into current habits to lean into new thingsReleasing control & attachment to outcomeDeveloping self-trust through actionUtilizing your stress response to get things doneThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: Sign up for a fitting callCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

You can follow all the strategies but ultimately, success is multi-faceted and can only be defined by you. Yet authenticity is vulnerable and comes with greater risk, especially for people who are marginalized in our society. Stepping into greater alignment with your true self involves letting go of pieces of your life that you were previously defined by. It’s never comfortable, often messy, and there is no perfect – only progress. In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Ellie Dote to join me for a conversation exploring understanding and embracing your identity.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Accepting yourself and owning your storyWhy we seek other people’s style and strategiesIdentifying YOUR successKnowing and honoring your valuesCelebrating yourself and others Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH ELLIE DOTE:InstagramFacebook TwitterBlogDesign WebsiteSupport Ellie's work via Venmo: @Ellie-Dote CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Toxic positivity is a hot topic right now because the growing awareness of its presence in the health and wellness industry. It’s used as a way to spoof life coaching in the media and I’ve even had someone at a networking event assume I’d agree that a positive attitude would cure illnesses such as Covid. (That’s a no BTW – less stress helps but it’s not a cure). Based on personal and professional experiences, I’ve come to believe that it is one of the biggest blocks to personal and societal progress.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into when positivity is toxic and what you can do about it.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:What is toxic positivity and spiritual bypassingWhat causes toxic positivityWhat toxic positivity sounds likeThe importance of emotional intelligence and self-loveWhat is healthy positivityThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Staged on HuluToxic Positivity | The Psychology Group (article)Spiritual Bypassing And How 'Wellness' Excuses Racism | ELLE Australia (article)Stop It (video)Toxic Positivity – Positively Living PodcastsEpisode 18 – What Do I Really Want?Episode 11 - Relearning Self-LoveEpisode 9 – Reflections and A Way Forward Episode 10 – Change and Getting Comfortable in the UncomfortableSchedule a call  CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

A single woman in her early 40’s who loves to sing, dance, craft, and cook was contemplating starting a business in performance until the Coronapocolypse began. She’s trying to use this time now for introspection and personal development while also balancing a fulfilling but low paying day job with paying student loans and renovating a house. She signed up for this session because she has a history of people pleasing and wanted support to learn how to identify her own wants and needs more quickly and develop new habits that allow self-love and success to thrive in her life.In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us journey through unlocking what’s kept her from what she really wants and a motivation to take action to achieve it.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Motivation blocksSelf-fulfilling propheciesCelebrating to build confidenceResisting more than “good enough”Building self-worthThis episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled to know what you really wanted beyond what people said you should do or things you were just good at. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Sign up for a fitting callThe Flow Mastery Group infoApply for a podcast coaching session  CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!