Men are often taught that being good in bed means being ready for sex, knowing how to perform, and making sure their partner is satisfied. But how often are men actually encouraged to think about what they want? In this episode, I’m exploring the different flavours of male desire, why your pleasure matters too, and how knowing what genuinely turns you on can help you get out of your head and have more immersive, authentic sex. I’m also introducing a different way to think about your des...
Sep 30
30 min
I’m back! After a couple of months away from the podcast, I’m finally behind the mic again. In this episode, I’m sharing where I’ve been, what I’ve been working on, and the story of why, even when I was dating a hot, well-hung doctor, I almost gave up on sex entirely... We talk about why “doing sex right” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having sex that actually works for you, the shame I used to carry around my fantasies, and the moments that helped me finally understand what made my whole bo...
Sep 9
36 min
What’s the difference between degradation and humiliation? While these kinks often get grouped together, they actually tap into very different emotional experiences. In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores: the difference between degradation and humiliation playwhy these dynamics can feel so intensely erotichow old emotional experiences can sometimes shape our fantasieswhy consensual kink can feel healing, freeing, and empoweringHarley also shares personal experiences with degradation play, d...
Jun 3
25 min
Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one. Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and it's so much better. I've added four brand new erototypes (hello Monkey, Horse, Octopus and Stag 👀), made some tweaks base...
May 13
29 min
This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including steel, and possibly Formula One cars. Whether you've got a fetish you've never quite understood, or you're...
Apr 22
22 min
Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of sever...
Apr 1
27 min
Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroti...
Mar 25
21 min
Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rul...
Mar 11
19 min
Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down ...
Feb 25
58 min
Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been wove...
Feb 18
20 min
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