Today we are going to discuss red flags, what they are and how to determine if there is a red flag in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, these are good to keep in mind when you do enter into a relationship or start dating. Red Flags are a warning sign. They may not be deal breakers, but definitely a discussion would need to be had. There are some red flags that would be deal breakers. Today I am going to share 15 red flags with you. I have created a document with these red flags along with an explanation. Join the waitlist for season 2 of the Accelerated Dating Program. Click here! How to Determine Red Flags in a Relationship Guide. Click here! 10% off AHCC using code NIKKI Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman Questions to ask yourself: Am I making excuses for his behavior? Do I feel uneasy about a behavior of his? Is something inside me trying to tell me I am not in a healthy relationship? Do I feel convicted that something is wrong? Are my friends and family trying to warn me about something in this relationship? Am I looking out for these red flags as I navigate the dating world? What are other red flags I need to be aware of? Write them down. Red Flags: He is not pursuing you you see his potential, but he’s not walking in it Lacks follow through Doesn’t have a relationship with God Says all the right things, but doesn’t act on it. He’s all talk. He asks you to do things for him when he doesn’t do much for you and makes you feel bad about it. Doesn’t treat you with respect and pushes your boundaries Talks about other girls while he is on a date with you or around you He is on his phone most of the time you are together, and isn’t engaging with you. Talks about himself the whole time you are on a date and/or always brings the conversation back to himself He is a jealous type He gets angry or raises his voice at you or others Prioritizes himself and his feelings over you. Talks down to you and doesn’t elevate and uplift you and who you are He doesn’t have a solid group of guy friends

In this episode, I discuss the foundations of marriage according to a book I've been reading. It's call "Happy Wives Club" by Fawn Weaver. If you are a wife and haven't read this book, I encourage you to do so. She visits 12 countries, 6 continents, with 1 mission, to find the secret of marriage. She interviews a number of married couples and they all say the same secret! I dive into what the Bible says the role of a husband and wife are. I mention Ephesians 5:22, 25 saying wives submit to your husbands, and husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church. The world has taken these verses out of context. Women think they don't need a man and can stand in the role of a man. This is a wrong way of thinking. According to scripture, both play important roles in a marriage. If you are single, what I talk about in this episode is important to keep in mind and prepare your heart for what is to come. The way you can prepare is to have an intimate relationship with Jesus. Here is a link the the book "Happy Wives Club," by Fawn Weaver I offer one on one coaching for single women. If this is of interest to you, let's hop on a call to see if working together would be a good fit. Click here to choose a time that works for you. The Accelerated Dating Program is in full swing. We are in week 3 of 4. I had many women interested, so I am going to have a season 2 starting in the spring! This is a group coaching program for single women to learn to love and respect yourself while preparing for a relationship. Click here to sign up for the waitlist so you will be the first to know when the season is available. Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman for videos, updates, advice for dating and relationships, and encouragement for singles. Join my email list to get all the updates. I share healthy habits, free gifts, and encouragement.

You may be thinking, will I ever meet someone worthwhile? Will it ever be my turn? Will dating lead me to meeting someone I want to spend the rest of my life with? The answer is YES! DO NOT SETTLE! I had a coworker tell me I needed to compromise what I was looking for in a partner. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to her. You do not need to compromise or settle. I know it can be hard. I had moments I would meet someone and think, I guess I could date this person, yet they didn’t have some key traits I was looking for in a partner. Do not settle. Do not lower your criteria just to be with someone. It’s not worth it! In this episode I share ways to not settle and to keep your expectations. Dating can be hard and discouraging at times. Don't give up! The right person will show up. It took me 10 years. I have some interesting stories around dating, but now I have the most amazing husband and it was all worth it! I never thought I would get to the point of thinking all the pain and suffering I went through I would be grateful for. But here we are. There were many amazing a good moments as well. During that time I learned a lot about myself, God, and who I wanted in a life partner. Listen all the way to the end because I give practical tips on how to get yourself ready to date. You can start today! The Accelerated Dating Program has started! I'm calling this season 1 because I will be launching season 2 in the spring! Be on the look out. If you are a single woman looking for support and others who are in a similar season as you, you will want to join this amazing group! We meet for one month only- 4 sessions for 1 hour each. Join my email list here to get updates as to when season 2 will begin. Or join the waiting list for the next season here! Share this episode with a friend!

Don't waste away the season you are in looking forward to the next one. Once I came to the realization that I could accomplish many goals I had and work on becoming the best version of myself, the more fulfilled, and purposeful I felt in my singleness. I had a deep desire to be married, so I decided to use the time of singleness to prepare myself to be the best wife I could be one day. I've now been married for 10 months, and my husband and I are happy and have a healthy relationship. In this episode, I share why this is and how you too can start preparing now to have a healthy relationship one day! There are still spots left for the Accelerated Dating Program. If you are single, let's hop on a call together to see if this program would be a good fit for you! If you have a friend who is single, share this link and episode with them! Schedule a call here To learn more about the program, click this link to watch a short 2 minute video! Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman If you want all the updates, encouragement, join my email list!

I chat with my friend Kristy about entrepreneurship, her business, singleness, and meeting our husbands later in life.  In this episode she shares about how and why she started her business. She had a dream at 15 years old of having a skin care line one day, and many years later her dream became a reality. This episode is filled with lots of wise nuggets and encouragement for those of you who are single and how to prepare.  Some things we shared God doesn't give us desires to be cruel Maximize the season you are in. Be happy in each season. It is not the job of the other person (spouse) to make you happy. Prepare yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be.  Continue to stay in faith. There’s a balance of staying present and wishing for what is ahead. It’s ok to have the down moments, why me? When is it going to happen for me? Trust God’s timing. You may be ready, but the other person may not. Singleness is a beautiful time. Use the time to focus on yourself. Self awareness is key. Allow God to be the author of your story. It's different than anyone else's. Visit Kristy's company and purchase Christmas gifts. They have a holiday sale going on! applerosebeauty.com Follow her company on instagram @applerosebeauty If you would like to join my group coaching, click this link to learn more. Feel free to send me a message on instagram @nikki.houseman or shoot me an email [email protected] if you have any questions. We can hop on a call to see if this program would be a good fit for you! Click this link to schedule a call with me.

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Marriage does not complete you. It does not solve your problems. It does not fix things that need fixing. Single friend, I see you. You are enough. You are not forgotten. You are important. You are in a VERY important season you will never get back! Don't take it for granted. Don't wish it away for the next thing. Now is the time to do the things you've been wanting to do. You have no distractions, you don't have another person you need to split your time with. Now is the time to dive deep into your relationship with Jesus. He is waiting for you. Questions to reflect on: What is God teaching me in this season? Am I wishing away the season I am in? Am I focusing on my purpose, goals, dreams? Do I have a plan to accomplish those goals and dreams? The wait list for my Accelerated Dating Program is open for limited time! If you are a single woman and would benefit from group coaching to help you eliminate limiting beliefs, to become more confident in yourself, to prepare for a healthy relationship. This is for you! By joining the wait list, you will get first dibs when the sale goes live for Black Friday! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE WAIT LIST Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman for more encouragement for singles.

If you don't know Sylvia, you will want to listen and learn all she is up to! She and I met going on a mission trip with Athletes in Action. We went to Barcelona, Spain with a group of D1 collegiate women basketball players. She was their coach and I went as the Athletic Trainer and one of the leaders. It was an incredible trip and we learned so much about ourselves and God! It's time for a reunion! Sylvia has a wellness collection, co-owner of Monarch Magazine, she played in the WNBA, and she has played basketball in about 16 countries. She is a family woman, married to an amazing man, and a coach to athletes all around the world! Follow Sylvia on Instagram @coachcrawley Make sure to check out her wellness collection @crawleywellness She is the co-owner of Monarch Magazine She has an etsy store with all of her creations https://www.etsy.com/shop/CrawleysCreation It's special to know people like this. People who are going after their passions and living in their sweet spot! As for me, I am passionate about coaching women through singleness and preparing for their life partner! I offer one one one coaching. It's helpful to have someone to help you navigate the dating world. It can be overwhelming and discouraging at times. I've got you! Schedule a call to see if coaching with me would be a good fit! nikkihouseman.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram @nikki.houseman

Addy and I talk about all things in this interview. We share about how we met going on a unique mission trip to Barcelona, Spain. How she is now a business owner of Add to Life, an online platform for fitness coaching, after being a D1 Collegiate Athlete. She asks me about my business and what I have to offer, and we talk about the book that I published. It's neat we can support and promote each other's businesses. This is how it should be! I am so proud of her and all she has accomplished! There are more exciting things coming with her company she will be adding and she shares a little about what that is. If you want to work with either of us or get more information on what we are doing, check the links below! Check out her website addtolife.com Follow her on Instagram @add.tolife Here is my website https://nikkihouseman.com/ My Instagram @nikki.houseman FREE guide "6 Keys to Attract a Life Partner" My book "A God You've Never Met: Who is the Holy Spirit"

Jess and I talk about singleness, dating, and how she helped me through the mastermind to become clearer on my business plan. I thought I was going to work with a different demographic, but through her guidance, I realized I wanted to work with singles to help them thrive and prepare for a relationship. You are in for a treat! I am now offering one on one coaching! Click here to learn more! nikkihouseman.com/coaching If you want to start your own business or nonprofit, Jess is opening up another season of Dreams to Reality. Click here to learn more. Her website with all the info is jessdahl.com