In this video, Tom explains four ways to ruin your relationship, even if you don't mean to. Defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling all can harm your relationship. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.comTom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear more from Tom and engage in the next steps towards a trauma-free relationship, visit traumafreerelationship.com.