Join us in this episode where we discuss the debilitating role that shame plays in our lives. Shame is the most destructive emotion we have and it is intimately tied to relational trauma. We dissect and explore the difference between shame and guilt, and discuss the 4 ways that shame gets tied to trauma. We also walk through many ways to begin healing from shame. A must listen to episode!

Join us in this episode were we discuss the importance of feelings. We talk about primary and secondary emotions and how to tell the difference between them. We also discuss the three reasons why feelings are important, not only in therapy, but in life. If you have ever wanted to know why therapist place such importance on feelings, then you need to listen to this episode.

Join us in this new episode where we discuss attachment injuries. What is an attachment injury? It is a special kind of wound that often emerges in an attached relationship when one partner fails to 'show up' or be there for the other partner in a critical moment of need. This leaves the injured partner saying, "never again." It shatters the assumptions about having a partner to rely on, and therefore, shifts the relationship from a source of comfort and soothing, to one of danger. A must listen to episode! Download our FREE workbook for Couples: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609

Join us in this episode where we breakdown and discuss how to resolve conflict with an anxious attachment partner. We review with anxious attachment style, put it into context of the relationship and provide advice on how to best resolve conflict. A great compliments to Episode 62 on How To Resolve Conflict With An Avoidant Partner. Listen to both episodes with your partner for the greatest impact! Download our FREE Couples Workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609

Join us in this episode as well discuss the importance of playing as a couple. We outline different ways couples can play, such as sharing hobbies, creative outlets, or physical activities such as hiking or camping. We also discuss the benefits of relearning how to play as a couple. This episode hopes to inspire you to let go of your problems for a little while and create some shared play experiences that create a deeper bond and some joy in your relationship.

Join us in this episode where we break down and discuss how to resolve conflict with an avoidant partner. Partner's who lean towards the avoidant style of coping, often deal with their anxiety over ruptures to the relationship by shutting down, dismissing their partner's feelings, and generally moving away from the conflict. This can be extremely frustrating for the more anxious partner who is seeking connection. We take a look at several ways to help resolve conflict by creating safety for the avoidant partner. Download our FREE Couples Workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609

Join us in this episode where we unpack how to provide your partner with a corrective emotional experience. When trauma creates a negative self concept, it often takes a new "corrective" experience in order for the person to heal. Our partners and spouses are ideal to help us heal by providing us with a new emotional experience that doesn't repeat past traumas. We define what a corrective emotional experience is, talk about the essential qualities that need to be in place in order to have an impact, and I provide some examples of actually phrases that have transpired in the therapy room with other couples. FREE Couples Workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609

In this episode we discuss the creative coping mechanism of dissociation. We unpack it's features, symptoms, and put into context how our brain creates this option when other coping options are not available. We dispel some myths around dissociation, and we discuss how to pull back into your sense of self when you are dissociating, thereby helping you return to the here and now in your relationship. FREE Couple Workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609

Join us in this episode where we learn about some of the most important cognitive biases that act as a lens in our relationships. Trauma distorts our perceptions of others at times, and when it does, he can fall prey to certain cognitive biases in order to manage our self image and our self-esteem. We break down a list of the common cognitive distortions, how they work, and how we can ultimately pull our of our distortions and get back to a place where we can see other and ourselves more clearly. FREE Couples Workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609

Join us in this episode where we break down the concept of Window of Tolerance. This is as device used to describe how we manage, and ultimately regulate our emotions. Trauma disrupts our ability to tolerate strong negative emotions without going into fight, flight or freeze. We discuss ways to regulate ourselves, and ways to increase our Window of Tolerance so that we can increase our capacity to feel calm, confident, and connection. A can't miss episode! FREE Couples Workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609