The topic of shame has been coming up for me a lot lately. It’s often such a deeply ingrained, insidious and in my opinion, largely unhelpful emotion because of the way it tends to run on a loop and feed on itself…unless of course we have the ability to recognise it and learn to build, what my guest this week, calls shame resilience. Kyira Wackett is a licensed mental health therapist who specialises in shame and anxiety, eating disorders and trauma. Kyira is also the survivor of complex childhood trauma, in recovery from PTSD and a severe eating disorder and a mama to a 3 year old girl. In this deeply personal and insightful chat, Kyira shares her thoughts and expertise on shame including: The concept of shame, including how to build what she describes as shame resilience Having deep conversations in both formal and informal settings, asking for help and building connection with other humans Accessing therapy and support, including alternative methods other than therapy (especially within a heavily burdened health system) and some of the pro’s and con’s of accessing help, particularly in the online space How, when seeking help and it doesn’t working out as we hoped can lead us to think it’s us that’s broken, when that’s certainly not the case Super helpful and practical tips on how to choose the right support for you The impact of childhood trauma, insecure attachment and how our sense of self is developed from our core beliefs and subsequent shame identity. Parenthood and the importance of making shame resilient choices that work for you and don’t reflect the views (and/or shame and judgement) of others. Kyira Wackett is a licensed mental health therapist specialising in shame and anxiety. She is the owner of Adversity Rising, a company who equips people with the confidence and skills to write their own stories. Her work ranges from one on one coaching to corporate wellness packages with a focus on what she calls the anti-band-aid movement or resisting the quick fix in favor of doing the work necessary to make meaningful and sustainable change. The highlight of her work is her signature program, That Life AR, where she walks people through her 5-step therapeutic process she believes can combat any pain point that comes our way because we all deserve to live a life in which we can thrive. The resources Kyira mentions in the podcast can be found here: Blog post: Choosing a therapist versus coach: www.adversityrising.com/blog/finding-support Video: Finding the right fit for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXrD_ilclfITo get the FREE handout with all of the points mentioned in the video plus a few other logistical notes and lots of blank space to add in your own questions and notes, go to https://adversityrising.com/handouts/ and enter code "RIGHTFIT" at checkout.   Connect with Kyira here Website: www.adversityrising.com YouTube: www.youtube.com/@adversityrising LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kyira-wackett-86004279/ Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

Growing up I knew a lot about crystals. I loved saving up my money and picking out a new crystal. I had a pink laminated card, kind of like a crystal "cheat sheet" and I learnt all about which crystal was for what. But over time, I lost connection to that part of me, only coming back to it in the past few years, re-discovering the wonderfully sparkly and high vibe world of crystals. Having a crystal expert has been high on my list since starting the podcast and I’m really excited to share this chat with Sara Bryki with you. Sara is a Certified Crystal Healer, a dog mom to four fur-babies and a lover of all things crystals. Whether you’re new to the world of crystals or a long time lover of these magical gems, I’m sure you will love this high vibe chat.   Sara shares how she came to work with crystals, and some amazing tips on how to work with crystals including: Working through major transitions in life including crystals to support the grieving process and why they help. Not just grieving the loss of a loved one, but also in the loss of relationships, futures, ideas, limiting beliefs, changes in circumstances. Her journey from a 20-year healthcare administration career to doing her souls work Energetics, frequency and the magic of crystals How crystals help us to connect more with ourselves, our world around us, our loved ones. How to incorporate crystals into your everyday practice, including specific crystals to support you at different times. Sara Bryki is super passionate about helping others see and feel how crystals can help them 'remember' and connect with their true selves! Sara is the CEO of Sara Bryki Co. and Bryki Gallery where they specialize in high-end, curated crystals, crystal education and bringing people together in heart-centred communities. Connect with Sara here https://www.sarabryki.com https://www.brykigallery.com https://shop.sarabryki.com https://live.sarabryki.com   Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

I’m so honoured to share this beautiful chat between two mama’s all about healing our heart and body after birth. As a previous Midwife, Registered Nurse, Bodytalk practitioner and now Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner and Restorative Pilates Instructor, Prudence Todd (a mama of 4!) helps women heal their heart and body after birth trauma with her online and in person healing sessions.   Although I wouldn’t have considered giving birth to my daughter to be particularly traumatic in itself, I now acknowledge that there are elements of trauma around my pregnancy and birth that deserve to be honoured, acknowledge and grieved. And you know that I’m so here for sharing these stories and talking about the things we don’t talk about enough! In this episode, Prudence and I chat about:  Our individual and very different birth stories, with both resulting in trauma, grief and requiring significant healing What birth trauma is and why it may be different (or more broad) than what you think How Prudence works with her clients to support them post birth and processing trauma The importance of prioritising ourselves as mama’s including treating ourselves with love and compassion How to tune in and listen to our body and what she needs (including a practical example of how to do this in any moment) Navigating relationships through parenting and dealing with our own layers of trauma Prudence Todd is the Founder of Your Womanhood and deeply passionate about women’s experience of womanhood, birth and beyond. She specialises in guiding women to reconnect with their bodies, access their intuitive wisdom and medicine within and in turn heal pelvic floor trauma and dysfunction. Prudence believes our womanhood is the portal to so much that rests within in us and that birth and pelvic floor dysfunction calls us home to address these issues. Prudence loves to gather women together across cultures and generations to share wisdoms and give language to what women experience in their body’s as a birthing woman. Prudence loves surfing with her family, spending time with their new puppy and being in nature. Prudence has also kindly offered a 10% discount to listeners of This Messy, Beautiful life. Please mention the podcast at the time of booking to take advantage of this beautiful offer.   Connect with Prudence here Intragram: https://instagram.com/yourwomanhood?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/prudence.todd.5?mibextid=LQQJ4d Free fb support group for women want to heal after birth trauma https://www.facebook.com/groups/healafterbirthtrauma/?ref=share_group_link Free 30min connect call for women to debrief / begin their healing https://calendly.com/prudencetodd06/birthinfreedomandtrustconnectcall Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

This week’s episode is a very personal and inspiring chat with Carrie Serati Gobble who shares her story of growing up with Cystic Fibrosis (CF) and requiring a bi-lateral lung transplant by the age of 27. Carrie’s optimistic outlook on life in the face of significant health challenges and a shortened life expectancy, is nothing short of remarkable and I’m sure, like me, you will be inspired to go out and make the most of your day after listening to this beautiful, authentic and vulnerable chat. Carrie shares her very personal story, including: Growing up with CF, including how her diagnosis of CF came with a litany of treatments to help keep her alive. Despite CF coming with a shortened life expectancy, Carrie talks about how she lived her life as parallel to other kids as possible. The lead up to her double lung transplant including the fears and reality of facing such a significant procedure at a young age, while knowing it was the thing that would save her life  Life post her double lung transplant and what she sees as her second chance at life, including meeting her now husband Gary who was her mentor (these two have such a sweet love story that will warm your heart!) The numerous complications with her health since the lung transplant, including new diagnoses, but sees her experiences as fuel to help others navigate their own health concerns. Her passion for mentoring, and the volunteer work she does with local chapters of organizations supporting organ transplant, cystic fibrosis and the transplant program where she received her life saving lung transplant. The importance of mental health awareness and professional support in the medical system     Her heartfelt request for people to consider the gift of organ donation. Carrie Serati Gobble is a true warrior and survivor. Carrie uses her health experiences as a platform for personal advocacy when it comes to managing your own health care and is aiming to push for mental health professionals to be a part of the lung transplant program staff. Seeing a real need to assist patients enduring post traumatic stress due to complications with medical procedures as well as to help patients navigate a life they didn't foresee after their transplant. Carries does it all with a sense of humor and humility that has been learned over time. As well as with the support of her family, friends, health care providers, and most importantly her husband Gary. Connect with Carrie here facebook.com/carrie.seratigobble @eyeceebeauty for IG and TikTok Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

Today I’m speaking with Chelsea Webster all about personal power and how we can take it back to find purpose in life. This is such an important topic and something I believe we don’t talk about enough. Giving away our personal power tends to happen over time and can sneak up on us. It’s when we make choices to abandon our own wants, needs and values and put the needs and opinions of others ahead of our own, leading to resentment, frustration and burnout. In this chat, Chelsea and I cover: · Some of the ways we give away our personal power, where it stems from and how it shows up · Some of the signs you may have given away your personal power · Steps to take to start taking back your personal power · The power of epigenetics and clearing limiting beliefs · The importance and value of understanding our individual humanness and unique needs Chelsea is a Mum of two teenagers and a Registered Nurse who has worked in the healthcare industry for 20 years. Over her time in the Health care industry, she’s experienced challenging workplace cultures and personalities which left her frustrated, burnt out and overwhelmed. This led her to gain qualifications in the field of emotional healthcare and to start Create Your Glow. She now works with and empowers frustrated, burnt out and overwhelmed women to uncover and eliminate their limiting beliefs and emotions which allows them to live the life they deserve and find their inner glow! Access Erin’s free Personal Power Affirmation Meditation here Connect with Chelsea here www.createyourglow.com https://www.facebook.com/CreateYourGlowwithChelsea/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/createyourglow/ Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

It's finally here...the long awaited life update, alongside some big life lessons and reflections that have already dropped in for 2023! As you may know, we've been travelling as a family since June 2022 and as the new year was upon us (and the longest time we thought we'd be away was upon us), we had a big decision to make! Where to next? Back to Australia? On to somewhere new? Or commit to settling in the place we've loved most in our travels? I'm sharing the big and exciting decision we made and all of the fun things that come with it! Alongside that big decision, this year has already been a time for deep reflection and big realisations. For taking a further step back from the online world, a pause in podcasting and more time to focus on real life...family, friends and most importantly prioritising me! The online world is proving more and more challenging for many people, and I share my thoughts on what's (often unfairly) expected of us in this world and why I'm taking an even bigger step back.  I also share how I've realised that the amount of time, energy and attention I've been giving to others is partly related to my trauma response and is in at least a small part (maybe more!) allowing me to distract from truly focusing on myself, my self care and my healing. So I'm saying enough is enough and declaring that 2023 is going to be all about me! Connect with me here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

Here’s another fabulous guest episode that was originally recorded in my (now closed) Facebook Group, The Consciousness Collective and now coming to you via the podcast! Talking and learning about energy is one of my favourite things, because for so long I had no idea about the importance and existence of energy. Finding out about it explained a lot of previously inexplainable things for me; like why I seemed to feel other people’s emotions or why some environments made me feel really icky (and not because I was some precious princess!). This episode will especially resonate for those who sit on the more sensitive and/or intuitive end of the scale, but I think everyone will enjoy this chat with Sam, Energy Healer and Psychic where we talk about how energy really is everything! Sam and I cover: Energy healing modalities Being your own energy healer The importance of decluttering things (and people!) from your life to call in wonderful and aligned abundance including money, jobs and relationships Tips for tapping into, and managing your own energy The book Sam references in the episode, It’s Not Your Money, can be found here https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Your-Money-Abundance/dp/1401954731 Sam has limited availability for her distance Reiki and Psychic Healing sessions (that I highly recommend, they are SO powerful!), however you can make contact with her via DM on Instagram (details below). Connect with Sam here Instagram: https://instagram.com/reiki_with_sam Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_odonoghue_ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

Ok, so I know I've been promising a life update for a while now, but TBH life and things are changing at such a rapid pace I'm just not in a position to properly share. BUT, I promise when I'm ready I'll be in here to share with you all the updates, along with the inevitable life lessons that come along with it! In the meantime I wanted to share this short episode with you. It was originally recorded as an IG live around the time when we were preparing to leave Australia last year,  with the lessons contained in it, just as relevant to this day. I talk all about the notion of busy-ness and how changing my mindset and the stories I was telling myself about how busy I was, has contributed to changing the way I operate in life and business. It was off the back of a very "busy" week, where I gained some incredibly valuable insights and in real time was learning how to let go of the "busy badge" that I held on to for so long. Perfect for anyone who gets caught up in the busyness of what needs to be done, or a nice little reminder for those of us who have made conscious changes in this space, but slip up from time to time ;)  Connect with me here: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_hivecollective/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au (also go here to join my mailing list!) Email [email protected]

This week we’re back with my first guest episode for the year, a positive and abundant chat with Petia Kolibova, an alignment women’s coach who guides women to intuitively connect with their inner vision so they can experience personal and professional magnetism and become unapologetically abundant. In the earlier decades of her life, Petia let the stories about who she was and how she came to be overshadow her, leading to unhappiness, unhealthy relationships with others and herself and a lot of time running away. It wasn’t until she realised that these stories were not her truth that she began to heal and open herself up to remembering who she truly was. Petia and I talk all about: Shedding the stories that shape us, because we are not our stories, but if we let them they can take over our life Creating sacred pause in our day, week and life (I simply love this notion, you're going to want to implement this one!) Choosing how we feel in any moment and using this to guide us in our dreams, goals, and actions Starting the year with intention, while also being gentle with yourself and doing it in a way that works for you Creating balance between the sacred masculine and feminine in life and business and why it’s so important Petia’s mission is to empower visionaries who are on the path to embody their fullest self-expression to soulfully expand into a quantum leap in all dimensions of their lives. Petia gives immense clarity + exact steps to unlock women’s divine feminine and abundance mindset. Through subconscious work as a certified breathwork facilitator, reiki, NLP & Human Design practitioner, she leads her 6 and 7 figure clients to their next level in life and business. If she is not interviewing fellow experts on her podcast Unapologetically Abundant, you’ll find her traveling the world with her husband, hosting retreats, or reading. Connect with Petia here Abundance Activation Process: https://petiakolibova.com/abundance-activation-process/ Website: www.petiakolibova.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/petiakolibova Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_hivecollective/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]

Hello 2023, and welcome back to Season 2 of This Messy, Beautiful Life! I have a beautiful visualisation meditation to share with you and support you in your 2023 visioning and goal setting process. No matter where you are in the process, this meditation will provide you with an opportunity to reflect on the year that’s been, leave it behind (with love) and welcome 2023 with a clear vision of what you’d like to achieve this year. (Also, if you're listening back to this episode, it's relevant for any new year and/or at a time when you're honouring endings and beginnings) I recommend finding a quiet space and at least 30/40 minutes, which includes time after the mediation do some journalling. In your journalling, reflect on what came up for you during the visioning visualisation. Let it all flow out and this can either be the beginning of your 2023 vision, or support the work you've already done. The meditation starts at 06:21. Rest & Reset Retreat - 27 -31 March 2023 I'm excited to announce that the Rest & Reset Retreat is now on sale! If you're ready to honour your need for rest, join us in Bali from 27 -31 March 2023 for a five day luxurious and transformative experience, focused on slowing down and nurturing your mind, body and soul.  First release Early Bird Tickets are available, and you can save up to $350 off the full ticket price by using the code "EARLYBIRD". Check out all the details here https://www.hivecollective.com.au/retreats Connect with Erin here Instagram https://www.instagram.com/erin_hivecollective/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-o-donoghue/ Website www.hivecollective.com.au Email [email protected]