Do you find yourself attracting the wrong type of person once you start dating after loss? Join us today as Shar Stephenson & Diana Rice unpack how the vulnerability of loss can make you susceptible to attracting narcissists. This impactful conversation includes many tips & tools to help you establish healthy relationships.  Everyone can benefit from this episode, not only those currently experiencing grief. PT. 3 of the 'Dating After Loss' series. Today’s guest is Diana S. Rice, Licensed Mental Health Counselor (MH18034). With over 25 + years caring for high risk, under-served individuals, her vast experience along with her education allows her to help clients GROW through what they GO through! Diana has served as a Crisis Intervention Counselor in alternative high schools & has extensive experience helping teens through grief and trauma. Topics covered:How to safeguard your heart in datingThe individual's unique journey of grief 9 traits of Narcissist Personality DisorderThe value of understanding your history (observe the why behind behaviors)Phases of a relationship with a narcissistic & how to exitBeing comfortable in the uncomfortableUsing your challenges as a tool to healHealthy coping mechanisms that help you go from surviving to thrivingANTS - challenging automatic negative thoughtsDropping shame & blameAnd much more!"There is grief in dating, but the one who has experienced this big "G" grief & then is brave enough to date after, is a hero or heroine." Diana RiceMentions: Grief ShareExplorer ChickToastmastersFind us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Are you thinking about dating after loss? In Part 1 of this series Dr. Deb and Shar discussed how to know if you are ready to date.  If you missed the first episode in the Dating After Loss Series, we recommend you listen to the last episode and then come back to this one."Am I looking for other people & places to fill holes, or where I'm really making a decision that I'm absolutely whole already whether I have a person in my life or not. The other one is rediscovering you doesn't equate to losing you." SharIn this episode, we continue the conversation on dating after loss. The wisdom shared comes from Shar's own experience, as well as some advice from therapists & grief counselors. We discuss these topics: how dating is different nowsome of the things you can expect as you begin datinghow allowing the process to unfold organically diminishes disappointmentthe power of being authentically youthe power of boundaries & knowing your true northwhy having a written action plan for dating is important ideas for what to put on your planhow your kids fit in the planand moreResource: Relationship ValuesFind us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

This episode is the first of a series on dating after loss and what you can expect.   If you have recently experienced loss, this topic may be sensitive.  If so, we encourage you to press pause and jump over to Season 1  and start at the beginning.  In this episode,  Dr. Deb has an open conversation with Shar Stephenson on dating after loss,  why she thought she was ready, the challenges of dating through grief  along with a few pitfalls to avoid.  Information weaved into this discussion is gathered from grief experts, licensed therapists along with personal experiences.Topics include:Why  and when to date after loss - who decides?How emotions can skew Why you need a planOne size does not fit allYou alone get to guide this shipFear of losing againChallenges, tips and advice on dating after lossMistakes are OKAnd more!"I thought I was through my grief when I felt like I was ready to date, but oh how wrong I was." Sharon StephensonMentions:Dr. Andrew HubermanDiana S. Rice, Licensed Mental Health CounselorSigns that you are readyFind us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Do you feel as if you are going backwards in your grief journey?  Where some days are good even great but then WHAM! And grief rushes in again.  It can be challenging to see the progress made in those moments.  In this episode Shar Stephenson shares  raw and transparent talk that will help encourage and remind that you are not alone AND IN FACT you are making steady progress as she offers tools she uses in these moments.In this episode:Understand why we can feel we are going backwardsWays to see progressTools that help and heal through our journeySo settle into a comfy chair or perhaps take a walk with us as you listen into this episode. MentionsPause App  Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

As we embrace this new year, we share our gratitudes, lessons learned, and our vision for this next year.  We also offer up some suggestions for dealing with this possibly first new year without your loved one. We remain committed to you, our listeners, as we approach the year anniversary of This Beautiful Ugly's launch. We request your feedback to help us better create valuable content for you. Leave comments and share with us topics you want to hear on any of our social media channels. Thank you!Mentions:Grief ShareLifeThrive (check out the free assessments)Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Do you find yourself stuck in the grief process or just wishing the pain would go away? Join us today for this epic conversation where you will walk away with tools that can immediately transform your pain into more joy & happiness. Sound too good to be true? Check it out to see how it is possible.Mark Scherer is our guest today. Mark developed the QLT (Quantum Leap Technique) after 30 years of studying Consciousness, Language, Spiritual Law, & Quantum Physics. The QLT  has helped thousands of people transform their lives in powerful ways.Our topics today include: The power of your gift of co-creation which is always working whether you know it or notA path to forgiveness Cravings & their causesGood questions to ask yourself in grief to help you move throughA whole new realm of possibility for higher levels of love & enthusiasm“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Albert [email protected] https://www.encompasslife.com/Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Our co-host Dr. Deb Harrell shares a few  quick nutrition tips to help you through the stress of grief, and everyday life.Deb is a Naturopathic Doctor, Speaker, & Author of HEAL: Your Path to Thriving. She is the founder of Well.Farm Retreats & PureLightHealth. She inspires & equips people to thrive - body, soul and spirit through her inspirational holistic classes, talks, and retreats. Deb uses a "food as medicine" approach to health. She is a passionate wellness warrior on a mission to impact future generations.Today you will learn which foods to choose to support your body during this season to help you feel better physically, which will have a ripple effect on your mental health. Nutrition can often fly out the window during grief when people often choose comfort foods. However this is the time when good nutrition matters most. And it is really simple.Check out our sponsors:  Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters:  Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door.  Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational & work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. Superieur Electrolytes - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, and give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.   Use code TBU to get free shipping and help support our podcast.Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Our grief journey is unique to us; we can often feel misunderstood or may not understand why others grieve differently. Our guest, Dr. Chuck Coker, unpacks how understanding our temperaments and mindsets can benefit us and others' grief process.  For more than 30 years Chuck has focused his career on people’s development. Chuck's landmark study released in 2012 capped four years of research in the UK about human data management. He founded LifeThrive to help with the human element in business & organizations. He teaches emotional intelligence worldwide & has authored several books. In this episode:How a tragedy can launch a purposeIncreasing the trust factor in relationshipsBetter understand yourself & othersHow personalities (DISC) & Mindsets affect griefPractical tips for parents who lost a spouse to help the kidsQuote of the Day: “Psychologists have discovered that anything past 1.5-2 years is based more on what you think about it than what actually happened. In other words ,you don't remember things exactly the way they happened. If the conversation is focused on 'how did this person bless me, make my life better, and what are the things I can contribute to society that was given to me through this person', now you're focused on the right direction. Because the more you communicate that, the more it becomes reality."Discover your personality & mindsets with Dr. Coker's free assessments!Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Find our co-hosts Shar & Deb at:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFaFind us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Seasons come & seasons go, but the love for our loved one remains.  At times we see forks on our paths.  With all our entangled emotions through grief, it can be challenging  to know how to make wise and healthy decisions. Decision making can be overwhelming & honestly challenging along the way.  Join co-host Shar Stephenson today for an honest conversation about this beautiful ugly journey where she offers guidance & encouragement.Shar lost her husband/best friend/business partner/soul mate in December of 2020. She birthed this podcast to help other people walking through grief. Shar & her late husband Rick started Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters and Bud & Bloom, a non-profit serving at risk communities.  They have 3 grown sons.In this episode:A little back story on This Beautiful UglyHow wisdom can be your personal body guardDiverging paths that lead to healing or a maze of detours & dead endsThere is no substitute for healing through griefThere is One who is always with you, even in the darknessAnd much more!Quote of the Day: “This is a new season. We will never be the same. We're figuring out who we are now on this journey. But I want you to hold fast to this truth: That you are not alone, that He loves you, and you've got a community that is here for you."Mentions: Dr. Andrew Huberman, Emma McAdam, Dr. John Delony, David Kessler, YouVersion ,  Guided Breathing - Wim HoffFind us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Find our co-hosts Shar & Deb at:Instagram: Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.

Whether you are currently going through the grieving process or not, this episode shows you the transformative power of a hand-written letter or note in this digital world. A must listen for everyone who wants to move through the grieving process in a healthy way or simply add value to other people's lives.Today’s guest is Ashley Davis.  Ashley is the author of A Life Through Letters  and a TedX Charlotte speaker on The Power of Written Communication in a Technological Age. Building & growing relationships is at the core of who he is. Ashley believes it is the relationships we build that enable us to tap into our inner strengths and find success and happiness. He teaches and impacts people worldwide on a life through letters.You can find Ashley at https://www.alifethroughletters.com/In this episode:How a son's revelation birthed a movementLetter-writing as a tool to move through grief & get your feelings outThe transformative power of hand-written communicationHow to leave a legacy through letter-writingConnecting emotionally with others through lettersAnd much more!Quote of the Day: “When you're writing a letter, it's you, a pen, & a piece of paper. There's no deflecting. Whatever is gnawing at you about that feeling & what you want to say either to yourself about the person that passed away, or what you want to say to the person that passed away, there's no filter there. So it really makes you be honest with yourself about that feeling."Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Find our co-hosts Shar & Deb at:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar StephensonFind us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Follow our co-hosts:Instagram: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb HarrellFacebook: Shar Stephenson & Dr. Deb Harrell Our sponsors: Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Use Promo cdoe TBU for 15% Discount. PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Superieur Electrolytes - Use Code: TBU - FREE SHIPPING - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.