Are you a religious women over 40? It behooves you to practice abstinence until married and insist on a very public engagement. Finally, keep your money under maiden name separate from him. Put it in a Certificate of Deposit for 5 years with your name and your mothers (or other trusted person) incase marriage does not pan out. (Research Community property states as well.)

Ask for the HIGH AMOUNT dowry, especially; if you are new to religious community or not as educated. Give 10% of dowry amount to your family and place the rest in savings bond with your government for 5 years. Keep these funds separate and private from household funds in HIGH INTEREST accounts or start a business with other women to get percentage of profit in return. DO NOT Invest with the Groom or his family! This is a trap! Stop.

Women over 40 are more likely to suffer homelessness after divorce, or theft from joint bank accounts by spouses, or violence concerning money issues. Cut out the bums in your religion and DO NOT Take vow of poverty. The Upper Income household exist for the wealthy and righteous. Get your money from the start.

Remember NO State Certificate of marriage then NO Marriage at all. He is hiding and needs your money to do it. Do not be duped because of loneliness and religious guilt tripping. Ask for the money or property before the marriage NOT after. Be Wise.