] The realism of divorce and the emotional toll that comes with divorce.[04:82] How emotions get in the way of making good legal choices when you are stuck in emotional turmoil.[06:37] Letting emotions get in the way of making decisions about your children.[08:34] Advocating for clients and giving them a reality check to make sure the client understands the process.[10:43] Looking at the facts and law when creating your divorce decree.[11:54] The cost and process of litigating a custody case.[15:32] Kate’s emotional attachment to her home and why you shouldn’t fight for your house.[17:75] Considerations when budgeting for two households instead of one household after divorce.[19:72] Collaborative divorce as an alternative to litigation.[21:82] DIY divorce and the loopholes associated with handling your divorce on your own[23:47] What you need to know before you file for divorce.[26:42] The list of what’s important to you in your divorce.[28:47] Meeting people where they are emotionally.[29:62] Some jurisdictions require a waiting time when you are separated.[31:37] Choosing how your relationship looks after your divorce.[34:72] Giving time to catch up with the emotional shock of divorce.[36:57] Being flexible and not shattering your partner.[37:42] When a partner could be physical, make sure to have another person present when talking to your spouse[39:57] Basic checklist of what you will need to consider during your divorce.[42:32] Do the emotional work to create a better you to not pass on personal trauma to your children and break the cycle.Links and Resources:Kate’s show: The Divorce Survial Guide PodcastBe a guest on Kate’s podcastTake Kate’s 2 minute quiz here