Black & botched. Last year, Princess got a nose job in South Korea and let’s just say the surgery did not go to plan.  We break down what an 'ethnic rhinoplasty' is, discuss living as a Black woman in South Korea, regret, how her friends reacted to her getting a nose job, not telling family, shady surgeons, the finances and accessibility of plastic surgery, featurism + colourism within Black communities, waking up in the middle of the surgery, not getting the results you asked for, breakups + heartbreak, familial love, whether generic self love advice is bs, celebrity culture, attitudes towards plastic surgery in Black communities in the U.K. vs her experience in South Korea, crying online, healing, and a whole lot more + receipts!  Princess’ Youtube Video: Part 2: MY BOTCHED NOSE JOB  EXPERIENCE IN KOREA (RHINOPLASTY) Related Episodes Subtleties of Looking Average (and an important message): https://open.spotify.com/episode/5JVrktlJfUaA5CY7AfYzx9?si=A8jbpLjDS_aYTBGEsjiGcw  Subtleties of Desirability: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Tl1V6Gkub6WDeoQoWDso1?si=sRvWsaAvRZWZxJELjywqTg  Thanks for listening! Subscribe/follow to stay up to date on episodes this season! Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Twitter: @thesubtletyofit | https://twitter.com/thesubtletyofit  Link tree (with episode transcripts): https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I pay my respects to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I pay my respects to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) The Subtlety of It is created, hosted and produced by Nana. Podcast cover design by Kathleen Page | https://www.instagram.com/kathleenpage.studio/  Podcast intro and outro theme music by @mattymadeit on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mocktails & mental breakdowns. Awura Abena doesn’t drink and we don’t really know why. In this ep, we get to the bottom of it.  We chat about never being drunk before, being the sober friend throughout your teens and twenties, hating parties, being perceived as boring and judgemental, why goon sacks are trash but popular, social anxiety, people asking you why you don’t drink, how not drinking affects friendships + relationships more generally, whether alcohol makes you less attractive, hating the taste of alcohol, what ‘fun’ looks like, normalising going for a smoothie, the romanticisation of alcohol, why boat parties ain’t it, doing you, Awura Abena’s tips for protecting your peace (sober edition) + much more!  Thanks for listening! Subscribe/follow to stay up to date on episodes this season! Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Twitter: @thesubtletyofit | https://twitter.com/thesubtletyofit  Link tree (with episode transcripts): https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I pay my respects to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I pay my respects to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) The Subtlety of It is hosted and produced by Nana. Podcast cover design by Kathleen Page | https://www.instagram.com/kathleenpage.studio/  Podcast intro and outro theme music by @mattymadeit on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Rings & religion. Huda and Katie both got married in their early 20s. We talked about not wanting people to know you’re married, Bridgerton, divorce, fear of doing too many dishes, marriage & dating in a Muslim Pakistani community & a white Evangelical christian community, pressure to get married, fear of being seen as less ambitious, whether getting married young is wasting your 20s, Pinterest boards, love, judgmental aunties, careers, being in an interracial marriage, how their communities perceive single women vs. single men, marriage as a historically oppressive institution, not wearing a ring, equality in the home & gender roles, marriage as a legal contract, feminism, eloping, expensive weddings, finding the right person + much more!  Thanks for listening! Subscribe/follow to stay up to date on episodes this season! Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Twitter: @thesubtletyofit | https://twitter.com/thesubtletyofit  Link tree (with episode transcripts): https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I pay my respects to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I pay my respects to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) The Subtlety of It is hosted and produced by Nana. Podcast cover design by Kathleen Page | https://www.instagram.com/kathleenpage.studio/  Podcast intro and outro theme music by @mattymadeit on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Systems & spices. In this episode, I chat with The Canadian African - Afia Amoako. We talked about being a Black, Ghanaian vegan, the tea on the vegan ‘influencer’ community, the white-washing of sustainability, the power of seasoning, how to navigate eating cultural foods as a vegan, veganism & money, privilege, how it’s disrespectful to reject your auntie’s food, culture aprpopratition and the co-opting of recipes from the Global South, racism, denial & white supremacy within vegan communities, false equivalences, critiquing left-leaning vegan circles, food deserts & accessibility, morality, the wild African peanut stew recipes floating around, re-defining veganism, whether it’s possible for everyone to vegan, and much more!  Thanks for listening! Subscribe/follow to stay up to date on episodes this season! Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Twitter: @thesubtletyofit | https://twitter.com/thesubtletyofit  Link tree (with episode transcripts): https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast Follow Afia (The Canadian African) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecanadianafrican/  Website (with incredible recipes!): https://thecanadianafrican.com  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/thecanadianafrican/?amp_client_id=CLIENT_ID(_)&mweb_unauth_id=%7B%7Bdefault.session%7D%7D&amp_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.pinterest.ca%2Famp%2Fthecanadianafrican%2Flets-get-saucy%2F  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecanadianafrican  The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I pay my respects to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I pay my respects to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) The Subtlety of It is hosted and produced by Nana. Podcast cover design by Kathleen Page | https://www.instagram.com/kathleenpage.studio/  Podcast intro and outro theme music by @mattymadeit on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boredom & baldness. Welcome to Season 3! Last year, Ying was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin Lymphoma at 23. We talked about idleness and boredom, her love for crotcheting, how her diagnosis changed her relationships with her friends, family and partner, whether it’s helpful to frame cancer as a “battle,” being bald, reckoning with death, religion and faith, being called brave and inspirational, visibility of cancer in Singaporean-Chinese communities, luck, pragmatism, having cancer during COVID, beauty & femininity, feeling like a 54 year old woman in her wig, gratitude, embracing stillness and much more! This one is really special.  Thanks for listening! Subscribe/follow to stay up to date on episodes this season! Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Twitter: @thesubtletyofit | https://twitter.com/thesubtletyofit  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I pay my respects to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I pay my respects to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) The Subtlety of It is hosted and produced by Nana. Podcast cover design by Kathleen Page | https://www.instagram.com/kathleenpage.studio/  Podcast intro and outro theme music by @mattymadeit on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fatphobia, colourism & Lizzo. In the Season 2 finale, Sangeetha and I discuss desirability. We talk about Lizzo’s infinite lung capacity, the importance of understanding fatphobia as structural oppression, why conversations about colourism barely go anywhere, the marriage market, Indian Matchmaking, the white-washing of the body positivity movement, skin lightening creams, the erasure of Brown skinned and South Asians from Asian narratives, racism in Singapore, health as a moral good, being dark skinned and plus-sized, who is elevated in activist and social justice spaces, Kanye West, and much more! Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Twitter: @thesubtletyofit | https://twitter.com/thesubtletyofit  Link tree (with transcripts): https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast Find Sangeetha's work here: Instagram: @kaliandkalki | https://www.instagram.com/kaliandkalki/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sangeethathanapal The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I would like to pay my respect to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I would like to also pay my respect to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge of Country and the beauty of their cultures through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. The Subtlety of It is about seemingly small aspects of our identity which affect us in not so subtle ways. Let's unpack these things - consciously, openly and unapologetically. Hosted & created by Nana. Produced by Awura Abena and Nana. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) Podcast Intro and outro theme music by @mattymadeit on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  Intro and outro music: 'Sunset' and 'Biscuit' produced by Lukrembo: https://soundcloud.com/lukrembo  Take care and stay safe! Thanks for listening! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Seasoning & sex education. In this episode, I chat with Peggy and Edwin about home training. We talk about growing up in a Nigerian and an East Asian household, respecting your elders, how anyone older than you is automatically an auntie or uncle, talking about politics with your parents (and the challenges of doing so in a different language), how growing up in a Christian household affects conversations about sex, gender equality at home, cooking, affection at home + more!  At the end, Edwin, a proud Hongkonger, gives his thoughts on what is happening in Hong Kong.  Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast Email: [email protected] Intro and outro music by @mattymadeit on Instagram. The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I would like to pay my respect to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I would like to also pay my respect to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge of Country and the beauty of their cultures through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. The Subtlety of It is about seemingly small aspects of our identity which affect us in not so subtle ways. Let's unpack these things - consciously, openly and unapologetically. Hosted & created by Nana. Produced by Awura Abena and Nana. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) Take care and stay safe! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Decolonising institutions & protecting your peace. In this episode, Nana chats with Keeaira, Patrick and Karri about their Aboriginality. They discuss being Aboriginal in institutions, whether decolonising spaces is their work, whether Acknowledgements to Country have become reduced to a check box, the absence of Indigenous/Bla(c)k history in schools, feeling like the token Aboriginal person dangled in front of white people, being a light-skinned Aboriginal person, how stories about Aboriginal people are told for settler audiences, solidarity with non-Indigenous settlers, healing within community, Black Lives Matter in Australia, Indigenous people leading the way, protecting your peace + more!  Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  I do episode follow ups with resources on IG + other things!  Links to resources by and for First Nations Peoples! https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast Email: [email protected] Intro and outro music by @mattymadeit on Instagram. The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I would like to pay my respect to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I would like to also pay my respect to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge of Country and the beauty of their cultures through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. The Subtlety of It is about seemingly small aspects of our identity which affect us in not so subtle ways. Let's unpack these things - consciously, openly and unapologetically. Hosted & created by Nana. Produced by Awura Abena and Nana. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) Take care and stay safe! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Rest, respect and radical rudeness.  In this episode, Nana chats with Nyadol Nyuon. They talk about Black exceptionalism, selling out, being a public figure, being legally Black, being rude to men, the expectation to pursue social justice full-time, reconciling making Australia home as a Black African settler on stolen Aboriginal land, how being outspoken affects your relationship with your community, the shallowness of ‘African Australian’ storytelling in Australia, feeling like a fraud in the work place, generational survivalist mentalities, unearned respect, radical rudeness and the importance of rest!  Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/ I do episode follow ups with resources on IG + other things!  Twitter: @thesubtletyofit Email: [email protected] Follow Nyadol on Twitter: @NyadolNyuon Intro and outro music by @mattymadeit on Instagram. The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I would like to pay my respect to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I would like to also pay my respect to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge of Country and the beauty of their cultures through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land. The Subtlety of It is about seemingly small aspects of our identity which affect us in not so subtle ways. Let's unpack these things - consciously, openly and unapologetically. Hosted & created by Nana. Produced by Awura Abena and Nana. Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :) Take care and stay safe!   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A non-exhaustive list of places to donate and support justice for Bla(c)k lives here in Australia and the U.S. If you can, please donate. If you're unable to donate, please sign the petitions: https://linktr.ee/thesubtletyofitpodcast  -------------- Scarves and spectacles.   In this episode, I chat with Melissa and Emily about wearing a hijab. We talk about being Asian and muslim, how airports are a mad ting, feeling like a spectacle, modesty, safety, how and why they decided to wear a hijab, re-defining femininity, being a plus-size hijabi, feeling beautiful, islamophobia, feminism, judgement, wearing a hijab at work, fear, pulling men, consciousness, being a proud muslim woman  + more!   The Subtlety of It is recorded and produced on the stolen land of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. I would like to pay my respect to the Ancestors who protect this sacred land and live and speak through community members. I would like to also pay my respect to Elders and community members who are the ongoing custodians of this land and pass on knowledge of Country and the beauty of their cultures through generations. Sovereignty was never ceded. This land always was, always will be, Aboriginal land.   The Subtlety of It is about seemingly small aspects of our identity which affect us in not so subtle ways. Let's unpack these things - consciously, openly and unapologetically. Hosted & created by Nana. Produced by Awura Abena and Nana.   Enjoying the podcast? Please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts :)   Instagram: @thesubtletyofit | https://www.instagram.com/thesubtletyofit/  Email: [email protected] Music by Matt Gray | https://www.instagram.com/mattymadeit/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.