New Podcast - A Happy Mind with Md Ansar Ali (Starting date TBA) This will be the final episode of this podcast to finish off six seasons. Thank you to everyone that has been listening in and will be in the future. A special thanks to everyone that subscribed and listened to every episode. I hope the content has benefited you in your health, mindset and direction in life. The above link is to my NEW PODCAST which will be a conversational dialogue format covering more exciting topics in life problems with solutions, prevention methods and awesome mindset shifting knowledge.  We may not be responsible for what influences us when we are children. Our circumstances, social background, upbringing, financial or educational means may be inferior to others or can be superior but it doesn't always mean a person that starts ahead in life gets ahead and vice versa. There are many people born into wealth and end up being poor and have huge life problems that develop whilst others start off poor and in weak positions but rise above many. As an adult you are 100% responsible for fixing these influences, amending false ideas and beliefs and reprogramming these to empower your life. It is your choice and it is within your awareness to do so. Either you are lazy or you're afraid. Whatever the reason, it is not an excuse to allow you to continue as you will, so do something as nobody else will do it for you.

People struggle to get to know each other on first dates. They don’t know what to talk about because they don’t know what they are looking for in their life partner. They don’t know what is important for them and what it is they want to find in their partner. If you know the type of life you want, the goals you have and what kind of person you want to share those with, you will have no problem in bringing up questions related to such important questions. If you learn and develop yourself, you’ll find many things to talk about from your own experiences and knowledge. At the least become a good listener as most people enjoy talking about themselves so just by listening your able to learn a lot about someone and which route to take with your questioning.

Why silence is golden. It takes self-control, it takes emotional intelligence and it takes inner strength. There is a reason we have two eyes, two ears and one mouth, we should look and listen more than speak. Being silent keeps you out of blame, allows you to think about what you say. More often than not, prevents regret. It is wisdom and patience leading to better decisions, better articulation of yourself and gives you complete control of how you behave without having the need to be compelled to answer, argue and fight back unnecessarily wasting your intelligence and energy. Learn to observe and you’ll absorb more.

It never ceases to amaze me the laziness of people. People always in the depths of their hearts seek to gain something from doing nothing. I have come across people of faith who want their problems to be fixed with an instant prayer without tracking back the years of incorrect actions. I have found people want to find their life partner and do nothing to find them but hope they will miraculously fall into their laps because they are waiting for destiny or an arranged marriage by parents. I have come across people who say they want to be happy but do nothing to make that their priority and I have come across people who punish themselves with eating poorly all their life and look for a magic pill or quick medical procedure to get away with doing nothing to change their health. I don't feel sorry for these people because they choose not to take responsibility, they choose not to understand that if this was the way of the world, we would never learn anything about consequences. Stop being lazy, stop wishful thinking and go do something that deserves an answered prayer, deserves destiny finding you the perfect partner or the miracle of health.

Being in a relationship with someone should be effortless. Even if there are little disagreements, you should not feel guilt, tense and uncomfortable to talk about your beliefs, goals and desires out of fears of scaring your other half. If this is the case, and you're embarrassed or afraid to be yourself around the person you’re with then it is a sure sign of it not going to work long-term. You should be looking forward to being with person each day and miss them when you don’t see each other for a few days. If you’re arguing more than conversing, if you’re unhappy more than happy then sooner or later it’s going to end, as such a relationship is not sustainable.

Many of us keep looking to stay relevant, trending and up to date in our appearance, subjects we talk about and the social media content we try to put out. Fearing the chance of being forgotten and becoming a story of yesterday. We start go out of our way in trying to learn about subjects we don’t like, understand or enjoy just to stay relevant within social circles and the way the world sees us. But, how relevant are you staying about the information of your own life? Your health, your happiness? Your friendships, networks and relationships? How often do you check up on your own life and where it’s going? We are so busy staying relevant to outside topics that our own lives become irrelevant and ignored.

Don’t put a limit on your abilities by saying ‘I can’t’ when what you really mean is 'I won’t' or 'I shouldn’t'. Unlock your mind’s limit by changing the way you look at a problem by instead saying ‘How can I’. It allows your brain to go to work to make the solution possible. When you make defeatist affirmations to yourself, you stop your progress and give up. When you ask questions, all possibilities open up.

People have become addicted to uppers and downers in the form of medication, caffeine, sugars, energy drinks for the start of the day and glass of wine, watching movies and other distractions to make themselves fall asleep at the end of the day. Why not seek natural uppers and downers in healthy, natural whole foods that give you the energy and the relaxation you need without the consequences of poor health later on in life and the addictive nature of the poor foods that you take in? Isn’t it far better to be able to enjoy the food you eat but also gain long-term benefits at the same time? All it requires is a willingness to want to live better for longer than to suffer longer for short-term pleasure.

Having less friends and people to hang with doesn’t mean you’re boring or unsocial. Intelligent people become more selective of the people they spend their time with than average people. That’s because they understand the importance of time and influences on themselves. They understand the importance of keeping the company of a few high value friends that understand them, their goals and needs than having many which only act as distraction and gaining no benefit. Currently I do not have much time to spend with the many friends like I used to when I was younger, firstly because I get more done when I'm not wasting my time socialising for the sake of socialising and second, because I have become someone with a different mindset than I had many years ago before I started my journey of finding happiness.

Success requires not quitting. Its not about not making mistakes or failing many times over but not quitting, staying down. You can quit at any time so why don’t you quit after you’ve accomplished what you set out to do? If you quit now, you'll just go back to the beginning. If you’ve watched the Rocky Balboa series you’ll learn the power of being an underdog, not staying down and reaching your dream. Sylvester Stallone says ‘It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!”