
Welcome to a new month, and if you're here, you're already taking a step towards creating a life that aligns with your true self. In this episode, we delve into the excitement and challenges of February. If you started the year with ambitious goals, now is the perfect time to evaluate whether they resonate with your authentic desires. Reflection and Redefinition: Discover the joy in evaluating and dropping goals that don't align with your passion. Episode reference: Explore choosing goals that feel easy and fun, avoiding the burden of heavy expectations. February Focus: Relationships After Infertility: February is all about relationships, especially for those who've undergone fertility treatments without becoming parents. Relationships change post-infertility, causing unease or a sense of detachment. Throughout the month, we'll explore managing and redefining relationships with partners, friends, family, and colleagues. Fluidity in Relationships: Challenge the idea that relationships must last a lifetime; fluidity can lead to personal growth. Embrace change in relationships; it might open new opportunities or redefine existing connections. Finding New Connections: Discuss the challenges of making new friends when childless. The importance of seeking like-minded individuals, leading to the creation of supportive communities like Lana's Chicagoland meetup group. Wardrobe Analogy: Relationships as Clothes: Relationships, like clothes, can be go-to staples or items you cycle out over time. Embrace change, allowing relationships to evolve or gracefully conclude. Invitation to Free Coaching Sessions: Lana is pursuing an advanced certification in post-traumatic grief. Seeking volunteers for free coaching sessions to strengthen her skills in supporting those experiencing grief after infertility. Reach out via Instagram DM or email to participate. Thrive After Infertility Program: Lana announces the start of her Thrive After Infertility program. A unique approach, different from previous classes, designed to support personal growth after infertility. Encourages those who couldn't join this round to consider future classes. Others Day Brunch: Mark your calendars for the Others Day Brunch on May 11th in Chicago. A gathering for women facing various challenges related to motherhood, including those without a mother or strained relationships. Book your ticket or join the waitlist for an elegant, champagne-filled event. Closing Thoughts: Emphasizes that it's never too late to discover your meaning and encourages listeners to embrace change. Expresses love and wishes for a beautiful week. Join us next week for more insightful discussions. Until then, remember, it's okay to evolve, it's okay to embrace change, and it's never too late to redefine your path. Have a wonderful week!
Feb 7, 2024
13 min

Introduction: I want to share a part of my personal journey, the return to work after realizing motherhood wasn't in my cards. It was a challenging transition, and I struggled with anxiety, questioning my alignment with my career path. This episode is about recognizing your worth beyond predefined roles and titles. Segment 1: Redefining Success: Reflecting on my career achievements, regardless of winning titles or contests, I've come to understand that success goes beyond external validations. It's about being proud of your journey and acknowledging your accomplishments. Segment 2: The Deservedness Dilemma: Let's talk about why many women, especially those who've faced infertility, feel undeserving in various aspects of life. We explore the self-doubt, the questioning of worthiness, and the societal influences that contribute to these feelings. Segment 3: Unpacking Deservedness: Breaking down the belief that some are more deserving than others, we discuss the defense mechanisms we adopt and the impact of societal conditioning. What if we embraced the idea that every individual, regardless of their past, deserves everything they dream of? Segment 4: Claiming Your Deservedness: Exploring the power dynamics we create in our minds, we challenge the idea that certain dreams are too big or unattainable. I share insights on claiming your deservedness, even if your path to motherhood took an unexpected turn. Segment 5: Embracing a New Narrative: Life without children doesn't mean a life without fulfillment. I discuss the transformative experience of discovering a more meaningful and purposeful life beyond the traditional expectations of motherhood. Closing Thoughts: I encourage each one of you to recognize your inherent deservedness. Whether you're secretly dreaming of something big or navigating a path without children, know that you are deserving of every beautiful thing life has to offer. Upcoming Events: Don't forget, the next Thrive After Infertility Mastermind class starts in February. Join the waitlist now for an exclusive one-on-one planning session with me, and let's create a plan for you to make the most out of the 12-week mastermind. Thank you for tuning in, and remember, you are deserving of all the incredible things life has in store for you. Until next time, thrive on, beautiful souls! 🌟
Jan 23, 2024
15 min

Embracing Fulfillment Beyond Motherhood Hey there, wonderful listeners! Last week's episode was a blast, sharing all the exciting things happening behind the scenes: The Other's Day Brunch 2024 My Advanced Coaching Certification in Grief and Post Traumatic Growth The Thrive After Infertility Mastermind in February My First Book! The response to my announcements has been incredible, and I can't thank you enough for your encouragement! Many of you are curious about the timing of the book. I'm aiming to complete the writing by August 2024. If all goes according to plan, I hope to have it on the shelves by the end of 2024 – a perfect Christmas gift for yourself or a loved one. I'll be reaching out to you for support in bringing the book to your local community. If you're interested in hosting a book reading, signing party, or helping me find a location for a launch event in your area, let me know. Your help will be invaluable in reaching those who may need the message. Now, let's chat about something that's been on my mind – our bodies. Do you ever catch yourself comparing what your body can do to others? It's a common struggle, especially for those navigating infertility. We often feel like our bodies should fulfill certain expectations, and when they don't, disappointment creeps in. I recently joined Solidcore, a workout that resonates with my body as I navigate the changes that come with aging. This got me thinking about how we perceive our bodies and the unnecessary comparisons we make. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. As a woman who is childless after infertility, you may compare your life to those with children and tell yourself you are lacking. You may compare your body and be disappointed that it didn’t create a child. Society encourages it, but you can shift your mindset. Instead of feeling less-than when comparing yourself to others, let's explore what you truly want and focus on that. Abraham Hicks teaches us to think about what we don't want in a way that guides us to what we do want. For those facing infertility, it's easy to see your body as a disappointment. But let's turn that around. Identify what you don't want – perhaps loneliness or a sense of purposelessness. Then, focus on what you do want – connection? Fulfillment? Joy? Motherhood isn't your only path to a fulfilling life. I've found my life without it to be unexpectedly rewarding. We often limit ourselves by lumping everything into the concept of motherhood. There are countless ways to find fulfillment beyond external factors. The key is realizing that relying solely on external things for fulfillment leads to a sense of incompleteness. Discovering the beauty within you, tapping into your own resources, is liberating. It's never too late to learn these tools, and if you want to dive deeper, consider joining the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind. Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning. Sending love, and I can't wait to talk to you soon!
Jan 16, 2024
14 min

Hey, beautiful souls! Welcome back to another empowering episode. I'm Lana Mankowski, and this is the space where we delve into the intricate journey of being childless after infertility. Last week, we explored setting attainable goals, understanding their significance, and breaking them down into manageable steps. Today, we're continuing that journey with Part Two, sharing insights on creating accessibility for you, my incredible community. Creating Achievable Goals: Whether your goal is fitness, nutrition, or mindfulness, it starts with small, doable steps. The key is to give yourself wins, building a foundation for the life you want to lead. I've personally experienced the pitfalls of following plans that weren't aligned with my deeper goals, and I'm here to guide you through finding your path. Grief Certification for Coaching: One aspect often overlooked in fertility treatments is grief. I'm thrilled to share that I'm undertaking a grief certification for coaching. Grieving isn't just about tangible losses; it's valid for lost dreams around motherhood too. As a woman who is childless not by choice, I want to offer you the tools to navigate and heal through this grief that is often pushed under the rug and not recognized as grief by those around you. Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: The Thrive After Infertility Mastermind is evolving, becoming even more impactful. If you've been part of Thrive before or are considering joining, exciting changes await. The next class starts in February, and the application process ensures I can tailor my coaching to those who genuinely resonate with my approach. The Other's Day Brunch: Mark your calendars for the third annual Other's Day Brunch on May 11th, 2024. It's a unique event, deliberately scheduled before Mother's Day, offering solace and connection for those who may not fit the traditional celebration mold. Get on the waitlist; you won't want to miss this transformative experience. Book Announcement: In 2024, I'm fulfilling a long-cherished dream – I'm writing a book. This resource aims to represent your journey and provide tools for personal growth. My dream is for it to become a go-to resource to women who find themselves unexpectedly childless after infertility. I will also make it my mission to connect with fertility clinics and healthcare providers to make them aware of the needs their “failed infertility patients” are seeking so they can refer to this book as an offer of support for those navigating life without children post-treatment. Closing Words: This year is about transformation, and I'm here to guide you. Say yes to yourself, whether it's through Thrive, The Other's Day Brunch, exploring my book, or tuning in to the podcast. I've been in your shoes, and together, we're creating a supportive space for growth and healing.
Jan 9, 2024
12 min

On today's podcast episode is a heartfelt discussion on setting resolutions, especially after navigating the complexities of infertility. It's a topic close to my heart, and I want to share my perspective on how we can approach the new year with authenticity and self-compassion. But before we dive in, let me update you on my journey. I recently wrapped up a successful year in my corporate sales job and eagerly await the news on my President's Club nomination. Winning this award holds immense significance for me, representing not just professional success but a personal triumph after facing the challenges of infertility. For those who've walked a similar path, you understand how infertility can impact career choices and personal goals. It's a unique journey filled with unexpected twists and turns. Winning President's Club is more than a title; it's a symbol of resilience, recommitment, and the belief that life after infertility can be fulfilling and purposeful. On a related note, I'm excited to announce the upcoming round of the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind in February. This program is designed for those seeking to create a life they love without children. If you've been feeling stuck or weighed down by the challenges of infertility, consider joining this transformative community. Visit lanamanikowski.com/thrive or reach out on Instagram @Lana.Manikowski for more information. Now, let's delve into the heart of today's conversation—setting resolutions after infertility. The pressure to conform to society's expectations can be overwhelming, especially when it comes to New Year's resolutions. Many may feel compelled to announce jaw-dropping goals, but I advocate for a different approach. After facing infertility, the journey to motherhood may have taken unexpected turns, leaving us questioning our purpose and direction. I've been there, and I understand the struggle. When it comes to resolutions, I encourage you to focus on what feels authentic to you in this moment, not who you were during fertility treatments or before. Infertility can leave us feeling lost in our careers and hesitant to pursue new goals. For me, winning President's Club is not just about the title; it's about rediscovering my strength and committing to a path that aligns with who I am today. As you contemplate your resolutions, consider starting small and focusing on achievable milestones. It's not about impressing others but about honoring your unique journey and celebrating the wins, no matter how small. The key is to approach your goals in a way that feels nourishing, aligned, and, most importantly, true to your present self. Infertility may have altered the course of your life, but it doesn't define your future. Embrace the opportunity to set resolutions that resonate with the person you are now. Small, meaningful steps can lead to significant transformations, and it's never too late to create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. So, as we step into this new year, let's navigate our resolutions with compassion, focusing on what feels right for us on this post-infertility journey. Remember, you're not alone, and your journey is uniquely yours. Wishing you strength, resilience, and the courage to embrace the possibilities that lie ahead.
Jan 4, 2024
14 min

Reflecting on Resilience: As the year comes to a close, I've been reflecting on the resilience that comes with the journey of being childless after infertility. It's not just a personal triumph but a testament to the strength and courage you've displayed throughout your unique path. Acknowledging Achievements: This year, my focus has been on closing it out strong both in my career and in supporting the Thrive After Infertility community. I attribute much of my success to life coaching, which has allowed me to manage challenges with excitement and abundance. This is a significant accomplishment for me, considering the emotional toll of my fertility journey. Gratitude for Community Connection: Amidst the holiday hustle, I've had the pleasure of participating in a heartwarming childless/child-free gift card exchange aand also hosted an innagural gift exchange for my Childless and Childfree Meetup Group. The connection with other women who understand the journey has been truly uplifting. Navigating the Feeling of Invisibility: Now, let's delve into the heart of today's discussion – navigating the feeling of invisibility during the holidays. Many women who are childless after infertility may find themselves feeling unseen, especially in gatherings where conversations often revolve around family and children. Recognizing Your Strength: Feeling invisible may stem from not recognizing the strength you've shown throughout your fertility journey. This episode is an invitation to reflect on the incredible journey you've been on – saying 'yes' to treatments, facing uncertainties, and ultimately finding resilience in being childless. You Are Seen and Valued: Regardless of whether others understand your journey, know that your visibility begins with acknowledging your own strength. This holiday season, let's shift the focus from what others might see to what you see in yourself – a woman of immense strength, courage, and purpose. Closing Words: As you navigate the festivities, embrace the truth that you are seen, valued, and deserving of joy. Whether you choose to share your story or keep it close, remember that your journey is meaningful, and you are not alone. Wishing you a holiday season filled with self-love, connection, and the knowledge that you are truly seen. Until next week, take care and much love!
Dec 19, 2023
10 min

Embracing Value in Childlessness: A Journey of Self-Discovery This week I found myself reflecting on the values that truly matter, particularly as someone who has faced the challenges of infertility. In today's episode, I invite you to explore the profound topic of self-value and the treasures that lie within us, often unnoticed. Discovering Personal Values: Let's take a moment to reflect on what we truly value about ourselves. Often, we spend time dwelling on what seems unfair or what we lack. But, this week, I encourage you to shift that focus onto the unique qualities that make you who you are. In my own journey, I've come to cherish lessons learned, the knowledge acquired, connections made, and the intuitive wisdom that guides me. The Symphony of Breath and Intuition: One aspect I want to delve into is the power of breath and intuition. Have you ever tuned in to the rhythm of your breath, especially during moments of discomfort or joy? It's a subtle yet profound guide, revealing insights about our inner state. Similarly, the voice of intuition often goes unrecognized. Today, let's celebrate these gifts and acknowledge their immense value in shaping our experiences. Navigating Life's Crossroads: When faced with significant decisions during my fertility journey, I discovered the importance of trusting my judgment. Whether contemplating adoption or getting and egg donor, the key was recognizing that every decision made was right for me at that moment. I encourage you to revisit your past decisions, acknowledging the strength and wisdom that guided you through challenging times. Valuing Infertility's Unexpected Gifts: A surprising revelation on my journey was coming to value my infertility. Beyond the struggles and heartaches, it opened doors to new perspectives and opportunities for personal growth. I've found fulfillment and meaning in unexpected places, and I want to encourage you to explore the unique gifts that your journey has brought into your life. Embracing Childlessness with Purpose: Embracing childlessness doesn't mean settling; rather, it's about recognizing the opportunities and desires unique to your path. I invite you to consider what you have, be it relationships, personal strengths, or unexplored possibilities. It's about finding joy and purpose in the present moment. Conclusion: As you embark on this journey of self-discovery, remember that your story is still unfolding. It's never too late to find meaning and purpose. Embrace what you have, stay open to new possibilities, and fuel your life with the things that truly bring you joy. Wishing you a beautiful week filled with self-discovery and love.
Nov 28, 2023
11 min

Navigating Thanksgiving with Gratitude: A Guide for Women Childless After Infertility Introduction: Hey there, it's Lana Manikowski, and welcome to another episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast. Whether you're tuning in on your way to Thanksgiving festivities or catching this afterward, I've got some tools that are universally helpful, especially for women navigating Thanksgiving without children after infertility. Acknowledging Your Feelings: First and foremost, let's acknowledge that your feelings are valid. There's no right or wrong way to feel during this time. If you're like many of the incredible women I work with, you might be feeling a mix of emotions—maybe some anxiety, discomfort, or even a sense of being stuck. The key here is to recognize and accept where you are without judgment. Preparing for Family Gatherings: As you gear up for Thanksgiving, imagine yourself driving to the celebration. Picture the house, the driveway, the familiar faces. Anticipate potential questions about your motherhood status. This mental preparation can help soften the impact of uncomfortable moments when they arise. Crafting Your Responses: Consider how you want to respond to those inevitable questions. It's entirely up to you. Whether you choose a straightforward "thanks for asking, but I prefer not to discuss it" or a bit of humor, having a prepared response can give you a sense of control over the situation. Changing Your Perspective: Now, let's shift our focus. Instead of dwelling on what's missing, explore gratitude for what you do have in your life. This isn't about comparison; it's about recognizing the blessings that may have been overshadowed by the grief of infertility. From the strength to face each day to the relationships that bring you joy, find gratitude in the present moment. Creating New Traditions: Embrace the opportunity to start new traditions. Maybe it's playing turkey bingo or introducing a board game to the family gathering. Creating fresh experiences can bring a sense of joy and fulfillment that transcends the challenges of your fertility journey. Communicating with Allies: If you have supportive family members or friends, communicate with them beforehand. Let them know if you might need a subtle rescue from uncomfortable conversations. Having an ally can make a significant difference in navigating tricky situations with grace. Conclusion: As you approach Thanksgiving, remember that it's never too late to discover meaning and joy in your journey. I'm grateful for this ongoing conversation and the beautiful community we're building together. Wishing you a Thanksgiving filled with moments of gratitude, new traditions, and the support of those who truly understand. I love you, and remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning. Talk to you next week!
Nov 23, 2023
11 min
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