
We had the absolute pleasure of chatting to our friend and fellow Novocastrian Kate Gordon on this episode of the podcast. Kate is known as CFKate on Instagram, and is a CrossFit entrepreneur, with a programming and nutrition business. On the other side of that, she shares about her open relationships, periods, fertility, sex and pleasure on her Insta as well as the podcast she hosts with her partner, Gone Rogue.
And that of course is why we wanted to get her on our show! You know, we CrossFit, however Kate has gone to the games so this episode is strictly the taboo stuff we know you want to hear about.
We started off talking all things periods. Everyone, whether you bleed or not, will want to take notes in this section! Kate recommends a load of great resources, including the Tempdrop which she has an affiliate code for (see the links in her insta bio), as well as Kindara (https://www.kindara.com/) and the book, Taking Charge Of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. She talks about cervix position and discharge and how you can start to chart your own fertility (or window that you can get pregnant if you are avoiding), which is powerful knowledge to have with those who bleed.
Kate touched on female pleasure and her experience at Our Secret Spot, which as you know, we have done an episode or two on before! Flick back to find those, Kate also has an episode about her experience there!
Then, we dive into open relating. We ask about Kate's relationship with her partner Greg, how they started and how they're travelling now. It was super interesting to hear about how they structure their relationship, we definitely learnt a few things. She mentioned having active time and passive time together, and defining some solo days during the week which I think would be helpful for all couples. Kate recommended the Esther Perel card deck which we think sounds great, you can find that here - https://game.estherperel.com/.
Wow, what a conversation! We loved having Kate on the show and know you will too. Find her on Insta @cfkate and @kategonerogue for the podcast!
As usual, you can find us on Insta @consciouscouplescoaching @cindrabanks @lukeskewes
And reach out to us at [email protected]
Thanks so much for listening!
Jun 16, 2022
1 hr 5 min

The second episode of 2022 has arrived! We re talking about self car in relationships & the investment needed to create interdependency. The common blocks, objections and results when we don't prioritise our own growth as individuals when relating. Both Cindra and Luke share times where we have both were either been the asker or denier of investing in self care in the past. Our own experiences with the above blocks/objections/results & where we are at now with investing in ourselves.
In this episode we talk about our high regard for self care being a big driver for some of our business plans this year including Cindra facilitating the WILD WOMAN Retreat, August 12-14 2022 @ Waukivory Estate NSW Australia. A place to find your WILD and get free! A two night/two day retreat to luxuriate in nature with like-minded women.
Unleash your WILD side and step into the highest version of yourself in this safe and supported container with Cindra. Connect to you true self with embodiment practices, activating workshops with special guests, nourishing food and plenty of solo time to reflect and integrate.
More info on the WILD WOMAN Retreat can be found in the link below.
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Looking forward to an epic year with you all, so happy to be back and chatting with you again.
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
May 31, 2022
37 min

We’re BACK for another year after an extended break. We had an extraordinary guest lined up for today who unfortunately had to cancel, however we wanted to show up anyways as it’s been so long.
This year, we’re shaking things up. Fortnightly episodes are going to be more of our focus and bringing super interesting and informative guests on as much as possible.
In the meantime, we share some tidbits of knowledge to get your relationship back on track after the busy Festive season! It’s time to drop the remote and instead focus on connection and intimacy.
February is the perfect time to set intentions for your relationships, to look at what’s working and where there are opportunities for change and improvement!
Looking forward to an epic year with you all, so happy to be back and chatting with you again.
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Feb 3, 2022
1 hr 13 min

We have wanted to do this podcast ever since we came across the amazing Get Naked Australia (GNA) and Brendan who runs the community. We’ve been a part of the community for a little while now and find it really inspiring and liberating to be able to be naked out in nature, without it having to be anything sexual or sensual.
Where we live is quite conservative, there is very limited naked areas in comparison to European countries for example and it’s not looked upon favourable in the general public. With increased censorship on socials as well (as we have spoken about before), we thought this was the right time to release this conversation about non-sexual nudity with Brendan!
The Get Naked Australia Community is a group of people who promote body positivity through the practice of Naturism. Naturism, in the eyes of GNA, is the practice of non-sexual nudity in a private or social environment.
Brendan’s aim for GNA is to connect people who practice or want to practice non sexual nudity through our community group and run events including cruises, hikes, beach days, yoga, retreats and online events.
We spoke to him about how this movement started, what hurdles have gotten in the way over the years and conscious naturism as opposed to the traditional “nudist” groups and resorts that you may have come across over the years.
We personally shared some of our personal experiences with nudity and how amazing and freeing it felt to be out in nature, as we were born to be!
Love what Brendan and GNA do and we hope to see you at an event soon if you live in Australia.
Find more about GNA on their website - www.getnakedaustralia.com.au as their social media has been unfortunately censored quite significantly (as we can relate to).
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
All of our affiliate links are in our Insta bio for your Christmas gifts!
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Dec 21, 2021
58 min

We loved sitting down (early) with Alexa Bowditch, otherwise known as That Sex Chick, to talk all things conscious relating and expanding intimacy on this episode.
Alexa is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her.
She is known as @thatsexchick across social media and is the founder of That Sex Group, a NY Times featured community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa speaks and teaches internationally on the subjects.
We love Alexa’s vibe and the way she talks too, this was a really enjoyable and organic conversation which we think you will all get so much out of! We had a ball with this recording.
We dive into Alexa’s experiences with a previous toxic relationship, which broke her down whilst simultaneously waking her up to the world of self development and conscious relating! I’m sure many of you can relate to this process and the gratitude that can come with it.
Alexa talks about her current relationship, the tools they use to keep it fun and sustainable, and how they approached marriage and will continue to expand in their future together.
We know you will enjoy listening to this episode as much as we loved recording it! Follow Alexa on Insta @thatsexchick to dive into there epic content.
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
All of our affiliate links are in our Insta bio for your Christmas gifts!
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Dec 7, 2021
1 hr 13 min

Our fave guest ever to be on the show is back! We’re so pumped to present this special episode with the Fish, James Fish Gill. Resident conflict and communication specialist, Fish appeared on episodes 62 and 69, so go and listen to those if you haven’t yet!
Fish is a heart coach, giving couples communication tools to transform relationship conflict. He is a yoga teacher as well, and runs retreats for individuals and couples which we’re sure are beautiful experiences.
We get deep into conflict communication on this episode, as always using some recent examples from our relationship to get an insight into the work. As always, we’re blown away with the tools Fish shares, this really resonated with us.
He talked about the concept of no-one being wrong and no-one being right and conflict and how if we can get our heads around this, conflict won’t get to the crisis stage. Fish spoke about honouring the other party’s pain, as well as understanding that they never set out with an intention to hurt you, even if it feels like it.
This really hit with us, especially the part about holding your own pain as well as opening to the other party’s intention. Woah. This is something we will be focusing on in our interactions. Wouldn’t you just love a Fish in your back pocket?!
We hope to collaborate with Fish in the near future, however in the meantime, seek him out for wisdom and guidance around conflict in your relationships - @james_fish_gill on Insta and leadbyheart.com
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Nov 23, 2021
1 hr 18 min

This episode is brought to you by Cindra's Self Pleasure School! For vulva owners to reclaim their pleasure and unleash the magic of the pussy. Starts 15th November, enrol here - conscious-couples.com/shop
What a pleasure it was to have the handsome @tyran.mowbray on the show today! I am solo hosting today as Luke is off doing his NLP Masters training and I was so pumped to ask all of my masculinity questions to Tyran.
There is a little bit of an internet issue during this episode, however bear with us because this episode is so worth it. What we talk about may be polarising and/or triggering, however this conversation is important and we know it will help many couples, especially those that relate with men.
We dive straight in and talk about how it has been stigmatised how men come into the work and even though Tyran and Luke both present quite masculine, the "tradie" types still struggle to put their hand up and ask for help. Maybe you can encourage your partner to listen to this episode!
Tyran and I talk a lot about relationships, specifically male/female however it could be applied to the broad spectrum of humanity. Everyone has both masculine and feminine energy (yin/yang).
I ask him about how men can best create safety for their partners, especially when they are in their unhealthy masculine energy. He explains the concept of creating safety as being non-judgemental, which is such an easy way to explain it. We also talk about anger, controversial I know, how holding on to that emotion is not going to serve anyone, especially men.
Tyran talks about how to hold space for men's emotions, or anyone that struggles with showing and moving through their feels. This is really important to pay attention to.
Go and follow Tyran for all of his amazing content and work @tyran.mowbray on Instagram!
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Nov 9, 2021
1 hr 2 min

On this episode, we dive into the magical world of sex magic with Sara Elice (@sacred__embodiment)! This is something we have played with and have been wanting to get a guest on to go in deep on for ages, so here we go.
We get juicy on this episode, talking about what sex magic is and how it can be used. We discuss our experiences with sex magic and how this is just the tipping point for this epic practice.
Sara is the sacred embodiment of sensual expression and a visionary in the space of sacred sexuality and conscious relating. Sara’s journey of overcoming her own toxic patterns in relationships and intimacy led her down the path of becoming a sexuality and relationship educator and coach.
On this episode, Sara talks about the "death" that can be moved through with sex magic - Moving emotions, old ways of being and negative patterns in your life through by harnessing sex energy.
She shares her experiences with this and how moving from your eros (sex/sensual energy) transforms your life into something that is divinely different than the out of body hustle most of us seem to be on!
We talk about embodiment, how this is imperative to living a sustainable, successful and satisfying life and how to start bringing this sex magic into your world!
Sara has some amazing events and offerings, find her on Insta @sacred__embodiment and get stuck into her epic work.
If you would like to harness sex magic and bring more pleasure into your world and you identify as a woman, then Cindra has her Self Pleasure School open and ready for enrolments! Enrol here: conscious-couples.com/shop
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Nov 3, 2021
1 hr 10 min

Our Patreon platform is all about honouring our Patrons, those that support us and giving them what they want. The full length episode is For Patrons Only and available at patreon.com/thehotshit
Once a month we release a juicy podcast episode for our Patrons and this episode was inspired by some of our recent personal experiences sharing and receiving expressions of desire.
Luke and I had so much fun producing this episode, sharing some of our favourite tips and tools around how to open about wanting to fuck, how to create safety and how to go for a yes, whilst respecting boundaries and consent.
These are conversations we have (which we share) and that we encourage our clients to have in our coaching programs...If you aren’t asking for what you want and going for the sex life you desire, what’s the point?!
Hope this episode inspires you to have these challenging, revealing and SEXY convos with people you know! We give some great pointers on this episode so keep your ears out.
Patreon podcasts are accessible for all investment tiers, along with our weekly blog and so many other benefits. Come play in this expansive space - Choose your tier from as little as two coffees per month.
Thanks to all our Patrons for your support! Find us at patreon.com/ thehotshit
Oct 12, 2021
6 min

This episode is brought to you by our couples intimacy program, Turn On! If you are in a relationship where you and your partner are CRAVING a deeper connection with yourselves and each other, then this program is for you. Twelve weeks to reignite the pleasure inside of you and gain the confidence to share this with your partner! Pleasure is powerful. Jump on an enrolment call with us ASAP, program starts whenever the F*CK you decide to say yes to having better more connected sex - conscious-couples.com/turnon
This episode sees Luke and Cindra talking with Sabby in making erotic adult content for individuals, couples and creators in a conscious ethical vision of helping people live out their sexuality and break down the paradigms around owning your own sexy pleasure.
This conversation with Sabby was one of our absolute favourites in the history of the podcast, we have spoken about it to friends, clients, strangers and had many conversations about the possibilities for our relationship and business. Sabi is a creative powerhouse, I met her last year on a speaking tour and what she told me changed the direction of my life in such a beautiful way, she is a gem and what she had to say on this show is SO important. If you have watched porn, made porn, love porn, hate porn, know nothing about porn at all then PLEASE listen to THISSSS! This human knows her stuff.
Find the magic created by Sabby and her team at https://llfilms.com.au/ and connect with them if you have any questions about the podcast episode.
We'd love you to be our patrons over on Patreon! We’d love you to support us and in return, get access to all of our juicy and bonus content, from secret podcasts, to chats, workshops, discounts and so much more. From just $11.11 AUD per month, get on the Patreon train -
patron.com/thehotshit
Of course, find us on IG @consciouscouplescoaching and check out our website conscious- couples.com You can also find us individually @cindrabanks and @lukeskewes
Please do share with anyone you think may benefit from hearing this episode, spread the love and let's change the world together. If you have a moment and are listening on Apple Podcasts, we’d love if you could rate and review our podcast so more people can find it and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
We’re always open to feedback and suggestions, so connect with us on IG, we love hearing from you all.
Thanks as always for listening, we love you xx
Oct 5, 2021
1 hr 14 min
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