This week on Off Duty, I'm sharing some of the things I've learned about love and relationships... so far.Not because I have all the answers, but because relationships have a way of teaching us things about ourselves that almost nothing else can.In this episode, I'm reflecting on love, attraction, chemistry, compatibility, personal growth and what makes a relationship meaningful. From the role of self-awareness to why the relationship we have with ourselves influences every other relationship, this is a thoughtful conversation on the lessons that have stayed with me over the years.In this episode, I discuss:• Why chemistry and compatibility both matter• The difference between understanding someone and abandoning your own desires• How the relationship you have with yourself influences every other relationship• Why attraction is about more than appearance• The role of masculine and feminine polarity in attraction• Why healthy relationships require two people taking responsibility for themselves• What I've observed about growth within relationships• Why the best relationships bring out the best version of you• Why being in love with your life matters just as much as being in love with your partnerWhether you're single, dating, in a relationship or simply reflecting on your own experiences, I hope this episode offers a few perspectives that resonate.As always, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Send me a message on Instagram and let me know what relationship lesson you would add to the list.If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review and share it with someone who might enjoy the conversation.Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

Colour analysis is having a moment.But is it really about colours?This week I'm joined by Rachel Bilu from The Colour Lab Stylist for a conversation about identity, confidence, self-expression and the women we become throughout different seasons of life.We're talking fantasy wardrobes, glow-ups, why women love reinvention and what people are actually searching for when they book a colour analysis.Because sometimes what we're looking for isn't a new colour palette.It's permission to be more ourselves.Use code OFFDUTY20 for 20% off your booking with The Colour Lab Stylist.Find more on The Colour Lab Stylist at:Website: https://colourlabstylist.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/colourlabstylist/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@colourlabstylistFind more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

If you're the one who thinks three steps ahead, understands everyone else's perspective, keeps the peace and quietly carries more than your fair share...This episode is for you.We're talking about The Responsible Girl.The version of you that learned to be thoughtful, capable and reliable, but in the process stopped trusting other people to meet you where you are.The cost?Resentment.Exhaustion.Overthinking.Feeling like you're carrying everyone and everything.And slowly losing touch with your own needs, desires and feelings along the way.This episode is about what happens when The Responsible Girl stops running the show and you finally go off duty.Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co 

No one wants their friend, partner or lover to be their mother.And yet so many women find themselves managing, organising, anticipating and carrying the mental and emotional load for everyone around them.In this episode, we're talking over-functioning, over-managing and the moment being capable quietly becomes your personality.Because being needed and being loved are not the same thing.Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

I fear my teenage girl self has re-entered the chat.We're talking desire, practicality and the things that make you feel alive.Because somewhere along the way, many of us stopped asking what we want and started asking what makes the most sense.But what if wanting something is reason enough?Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co 

Are you overstimulated, over-caffeinated and approximately one minor inconvenience away from throwing your phone into the ocean?Having 37 tabs open in your brain at all times isn't a personality trait.In this episode, we're talking overstimulation, emotional tabs and the strange relief that comes from admitting you don't actually want, need or identify with everything you're carrying.Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

Congratulations. You're highly capable!The question is... are you having a good time?In this episode, we're talking hyper-independence, emotional self sufficiency and what happens when being the girl who has it together becomes your entire personality.Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

Lift heavier weights, eat more protein, girlies you need creatine now, peptides, magnesium, collagen, electrolytes, sauna, sleep better, regulate nervous system, cold plunge, red light therapy, everything shower, face tape, mouth tape..vibration plates.You know what. I love a good big mac meal. And more things I shouldn't say out loud as wellness expert.Let's chat! Rx Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

We're back with Season 7 of the pod with a brand new title, a new tone and direction. Catch up with me as I take you through what the vibe is and some off duty thoughts of late and what's in store for this upcoming season. Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/racheljay__TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theracheljayWebsite: http://racheljay.coEat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co

Strap in guys. For the final ep of the 2025 season, I am bringing you my top tips for developing core confidence and being 'that girl'.Now, this is one of those conversations that might seem like we're going to talk about your skincare routine but we're going deeper. Because core confidence doesn't come from anything outside you. It comes from going inwards.Don't get me wrong, I love getting dressed up and it always makes me feel amazing. BUT that is not where confidence comes from.In this episode, I'm giving you my favourite hacks and frameworks for developing core confidence.We touch on;The Emotional Reset framework (it's working title). This is the pattern that everyone runs unconsciously and it will help you not take things personally when other people seem like they're doing something to you. But also, it will help you understand why you get triggeredThe Survival to Thrive continuum. You'll figure out where you are on the spectrum and why that makes a difference to your confidenceYour body's wisdom and your mind. How to connect them to each other and stop operating with internal chaos and conflictHow to chill the eff out and why this is the key to confidenceTake a listen!Thanks so much for tuning into this season guys. Feel free to get in touch with any guests or topics you want us to get stuck into next year.Find more on Rach at: IG: http://instagram.com/rachjay__ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@rachjay_ Website: http://racheljay.co The Core Club: http://instagram.com/thecoreclubco Eat Beautiful: http://eatbeautiful.co Get on the EB Insider List: https://mailchi.mp/977ba9259d39/vip-glow-list