On this episode I cover fear and how to reduce it around dealing with difficult people.  I use the "Pink Bow Technique" which is a powerful tool that can be used to manage difficult people and their negative energy. I developed this technique utilising visualisation and disassociation to help individuals protect themselves from the negative energy exuded by difficult people, while also remaining emotionally regulated.  When a difficult person approaches, the first step is to imagine putting out your hands to catch and hold the negative energy that they exude. This visualisation serves as a reminder that you have the power to control your own emotions and that you do not have to allow other people's negative energy to affect you or wash over you and consume you.  As the person speaks and offloads their negative energy, it is important to remain detached and observe without becoming emotionally involved. Imagine holding onto that negative energy, but not allowing it to consume you. This allows you to remain emotionally regulated and avoid getting into a state of fear or anxiety.  Once the person has finished speaking, imagine wrapping up their negative energy in nice wrapping paper and putting a big pink bow on it. This visualisation serves as a reminder that you have taken control of the situation and that you are giving back the negative energy to the person, rather than allowing it to consume you.  It is important to remember that the "Pink Bow Technique" is a tool to help manage difficult people and their negative energy, but it does not mean that we have to condone their behaviour. Once emotions have settled down, and if it is appropriate to approach the person, communication in a clear and assertive manner may help the relationship  When communicating, it is important to come from a place of understanding your own feelings and the impact that the person's behaviour had on you. Instead of blaming or accusing, express your feelings and the effect that the behaviour had on you in a calm and non-confrontational way. For example, "When you did that, I felt disrespected, upset, not valued and I am not happy about it’.  By communicating in this way, you are setting boundaries and making it clear that you will not be happy to tolerate negative behaviour. It is important to remember that setting boundaries is not an attack on the person, it is a way to take care of yourself and create a positive environment for everyone involved.  Additionally, it is important to remember that not all difficult people respond to communication, some may continue with their behaviour and in those cases, it may be necessary to seek support from a supervisor, HR or a therapist.    To stay in the circle you can get free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here http://www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Click here for the episode on Spotify Click here for the episode on Apple Podcast Click here for the episode on Google Podcasts Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator 

How to reduce the fear around decision making A big source of fear for many people is fear around making decisions. This can be big life-changing decisions like deciding whether to take a redundancy, change career, leave a relationship etc or it can be small. If we are having problems making a decision we generally feel very uncomfortable around it and the fear can become paralysing. It is not necessarily a good idea to reduce the fear before the decision is made but rather to support the making of the best possible decision.  In this episode I walk you through a tried and tested decision making strategy I created and have used for many years with clients.  First make sure you are imagining you are in a position on a road before making the decision. Notice how you come to a point in the road where it divides into two roads, one veering to the right and one to the left. Notice how you feel in your body in the flux of not having a decision made. Next, step onto the road to the right which is the road where the big decision is and walk as far as making the decision looking out through your eyes, seeing what you would see, hearing what you would hear and feeling what it feels like to be on that point of the road where you have made that decision. Check in with your body to see what it feels like. Then step out one week beyond that point where you are living life after making that decision and notice what that feels like. How are you acting, behaving, interacting and more importantly, how are you feeling emotionally. Step further out to a month, six months, a year, two years, five years and beyond and check in with how you feel.  Next come back to the point on the road before the decision was made and where the ‘Y’ in the road is. Now do exactly the same think taking the road to the left and feel everything in that scenario too. Then come back to the point on the ‘Y’ in the road.   I have always found that I ask people not to make a definite decision yet but to let that settle with them and over the next day or so to engage their logical mind and look at the pros and cons of their decision options. Next I ask them to decide on a definitive time that they will have their decision made for sure within the next week and max two weeks.  I have used this technique with clients for many, many years and have seen the most unlikely and likely decisions made over the years but what I have to say is that all of those decisions were the right ones and served those people very well.     If you would like to get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training click here http://www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me here:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5VUlQIqnCEsaQeEAEAFxIY?si=ade92df597f0439f  Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/dk/podcast/fear-around-decisions-season-1-ep-7/id1660646733?i=1000601132440  Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hcHAua2FqYWJpLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0cy8yMTQ3NTA1ODA2L2ZlZWQ/episode/S2FqYWJpLTIxNDc4ODQxOTc?sa=X&ved=0CAQQ8qgGahcKEwiQnOLswan9AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQDg  Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator 

How to Reduce Fear in Relation to Our Problems  This week we are chatting about how to manage fear in relation to our problems. The first step is to explain the concept of Association and Disassociation as I use this in the technique I teach you later in the episode.   When it comes to managing our emotions, one powerful tool we have at our disposal is the ability to disassociate or associate into the pictures we hold in our minds.  Disassociation refers to the process of separating ourselves from the images in our heads that are causing us distress. By doing this, we can distance ourselves from the negative emotions associated with those pictures, which in turn can help to diminish the intensity of those feelings. For example, if you have a traumatic memory that continues to cause you anxiety or fear, disassociating from that memory by visualising yourself as a detached observer, rather than as the person experiencing the trauma, can help to reduce the emotional impact of the memory.  On the other hand, association refers to the process of connecting ourselves to the thoughts, images, and memories that make us feel good. By doing this, we can strengthen the positive emotions associated with those pictures, which in turn can help to increase the intensity of those feelings. For example, if you have a happy memory that makes you feel good, associating with that memory by visualizing yourself as the person experiencing the happy event, rather than as a detached observer, can help to amplify the positive feelings associated with the memory.  It is important to note that both disassociation and association are normal and natural processes that occur in the mind. However, when used intentionally and skilfully, they can be powerful tools for managing our emotions and improving our overall well-being.  The "Problem, Not the Person" technique is a technique I developed that uses association and disassociation to help individuals separate their problems from their sense of self.  The technique is based on the idea that when we have a problem, it can be easy to become absorbed in it and start to identify ourselves with it. This can lead to negative thoughts and emotions such as self-doubt, guilt, and shame. The "Problem, Not the Person" technique helps to separate the problem from the person by teaching individuals to disassociate from their problems as this reduces the fear related to the problem. Next the person can see that the size of the problem is smaller than they thought in relation to the vastness of space where their problem doesn’t exist in. When we have achieved this we can search for solutions to the problem in that space outside the problem or ‘the not problem’. Solutions only exist outside the problem and in the history of mankind there have been thousands if not millions of people who have found solutions to your problem. As well as that we have access to so many answers by using the internet so there is a very high chance that we can all find solutions to most if not all of our problems. Knowing this further reduces the fear related to any problems.  To use this technique, individuals are first asked to identify a problem that they are facing. Next, they are asked to think about the problem as if it were a separate entity from themselves and to move it out in front of them.   Once the problem is imagined as separate from the self, the person is then disassociated from looking at the problem from a distance. As they do this, they can start to notice the problem's characteristics, such as its size, shape etc. By disassociating from the problem, they can start to see it as something that can be managed or solved, rather than something that defines who they are.  After disassociating from the problem and the fear is reduced it is easier to then investigate where the solutions exist which is in the not problem. Then we recognise the solution and decide what action we are going to take to solve the problem.  Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here http://www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0bRE3u8sn4mSv0J8KqrP7s?si=161416540f404411  Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/dk/podcast/reducing-fear-part-2-season-1-ep-6/id1660646733?i=1000598697873  Google Podcast: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hcHAua2FqYWJpLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0cy8yMTQ3NTA1ODA2L2ZlZWQ/episode/S2FqYWJpLTIxNDc4NjA0NTQ?sa=X&ved=0CAUQkfYCahcKEwjYzqr1wIb9AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQAQ  Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator 

On this episode I am speaking about Fear and this is the first of four episodes relating to many aspects of fear and how to manage it. It is important have a definition of fear before we look at how to manage it and for the purposes of this podcast I am using the dictionary definition which is ‘fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or ham’. Fear is not all bad and it is good to acknowledge the benefits of fear in measured amounts when it is being used by us to warn us of danger whether that danger is physical or emotional.   Fear is trigged in our bodies as a physical feeling and all of us are capable of feeling. It can be very debilitating when it is out of control and the good news is that we can control it.   We experience fear when we are in danger or when there is a perceived threat. How that feeling gets created is when we perceive danger based on what we are seeing either in our environment or in our thoughts and we then have a chemical, hormonal and neurological response namely the Fight, Flight or Freeze response, all of which are uncomfortable but warn us and allow us to prepare physiologically to stay and fight, run or freeze or play dead.   When we understand the mechanism of this we can see how the feeling of fear moves from one cell to another creating a sense of movement of the feeling in a particular direction. When we become aware of this, that's the first step in being able to manage or reduce the intensity of the fear. By intentionally imagining the fear feeling moving in the opposite direction, we are able to confuse the neural pathway which in turn reduces the fear feeling and I walk you through how to do that in the video or recording on this page. It is a good idea to measure the intensity of the feeling first so that you can measure the improvement in the reduction of the intensity of the fear feeling.    Using this technique I have guided thousands of clients to reduce fears which were at an intensity of ten on a scale of one to ten, down to a zero. This is a little hack that you can have in your back pocket in times where you think you are going to feel fearful or anxious eg speaking at a meeting, interview, driving test, giving a presentation etc. I hope you take advantage of it and enjoy.  Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here: http://www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Spotify Podcast Apple Podcast Google Podcast Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator 

Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here http://www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  How to stop Overwhelm  What is Overwhelm? Overwhelm is a feeling of being overwhelmed or overburdened by a situation or task.   You will know you are overwhelmed if you have a feeling of stress, anxiety, and a sense of being unable to cope.  Signs of Overwhelm:  It can feel like you have too much to do and not enough time to do it,   Or that you are not able to cope with demands on you.   Negatives it can Lead to:  Decreased productivity as well as   difficulty making decisions, and   it can have a negative impact on your overall well-being.   What can you do about it?  take a step back and assess the situation, identify what is causing the overwhelm, and   find ways to manage it.  Here are some steps that may help:   #1 Identify the cause of your overwhelm ie is it anxiety, fear, or insecurity? Once you know the root cause, it will be easier to find ways to address it.  #2 Identify how many subjects are in the overwhelm eg is it what might go wrong at work, stress around a loved one, fear of conflict in a friendship? Projects at work/college.  #3 Write each subject on a separate dedicated piece of paper and journal on them. Taking them out of your head and putting them on paper helps you disassociate from them which will immediately help reduce your emotional response to them.   #4 Next take some time to pick the subject that needs immediate attention or action  #5 Next, start taking the needed action on this subject knowing all of the others are documented and will be taken care of in time.  #6 If you need it set aside dedicated "worry time". Allocate a specific time each day to worry and think about what may be stressing you. By setting aside dedicated worry time, you can reduce the amount of time you spend overthinking the rest of the day.  #7 Leave all the subjects on the paper and don’t allow them back in your head  # 8 Talk to someone you trust about your worries and concerns. Sometimes, just talking through your thoughts with someone else can help you find solutions and gain perspective.     If you found this helpful and you are listening on Spotify or any other podcasts platforms please follow the podcast and leave a rating and if you are watching on YouTube don’t forget to subscribe. Also if you liked this and would like access to my free 7 Day Positivity Project the link is in the descriptor.    Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here http://www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me:   https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1a1HfgN4O3ujpwA6dpGROG?si=8c5da74b36ca4f5b  Apple Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-stop-overwhelm-season-1-ep-4/id1660646733?i=1000595334490  Google Podcast: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hcHAua2FqYWJpLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0cy8yMTQ3NTA1ODA2L2ZlZWQ/episode/S2FqYWJpLTIxNDc4NTA2MzM?sa=X&ved=0CAUQkfYCahcKEwjogMeQotL8AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQLA  Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator 

The inner critic is a term used to describe the negative and self-critical thoughts that people often have about themselves. These thoughts can be especially destructive when they are harsh, repetitive, and unbalanced, and can lead to low self-esteem, self-doubt, and a lack of confidence. According to positive psychology, the inner critic can be a major obstacle to happiness and well-being. It can lead to negative self-perception, low self-esteem, and a lack of confidence, which can in turn lead to a host of negative outcomes, such as difficulty setting and achieving goals, difficulty forming and maintaining healthy relationships, and difficulty finding meaning and purpose in life. Positive psychology also emphasizes the importance of building strengths and using them to improve well-being. By focusing on and developing our strengths, we can become more confident, resilient, and capable, which can help to reduce the power of the inner critic over time.  Our inner critic can often appear as a result of negative experiences or messages we received during our childhood or adolescence. These experiences and messages can be internalised and can become the basis for the negative beliefs and thoughts that the inner critic uses to judge us.  It is important to recognise when you are experiencing negative inner self-talk and to try to reframe those thoughts in a more realistic and positive way. This can be a challenging process, but it can help you to feel better about yourself and to build greater resilience.   There are also many different strategies and techniques that can be helpful for managing and reducing the inner critic and its impact and here are 7 to get started with:  Awareness. We can’t possibly make effective change if we are not aware that something is present and to what extent it is present. Notice when the inner critic is speaking, how often it speaks.  Pay attention and become aware of what is it actually saying to you?  Acknowledge that the inner critic's thoughts and beliefs are not necessarily true or helpful. They may be based on past experiences or negative beliefs that you have about yourself, but they do not define who you are.  Challenge the inner critic's words by looking at the evidence for and against what it is saying. Is it balanced and realistic, or is it overly negative and distorted? Start reframing the inner critic's thoughts in a more positive and accurate way. Using sentence starters like ‘at least…..’ and ‘yes but…..’ will help you get started. For example it your inner critic is saying ‘look at you, you messed up again’, you can reframe that with ‘at least I gave it a go’, ‘got it started’, ‘won’t do it that way again’ etc, you get the gist.  Know that your inner critic is not the only available voice in your head, you also have your superhero, practice engaging it!  By practicing self-compassion, which I know can sound a bit lofty, you can learn to be more accepting and forgiving of yourself and develop a more positive and supportive inner voice as well as learn to be kinder and more supportive towards ourselves.     There have been many studies done on the inner critic and self-compassion and below are some of the findings:  One study by Gilbert (2009), explored the role of compassion in mental health and well-being. The study found that cultivating compassion can lead to improved mental health and well-being, and that self-compassion, in particular, can be a powerful tool for overcoming the negative influence of the inner critic. Another study by Neff (2003), defines self-compassion as "extending compassion to one's self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering" (p. 86). The study found that higher levels of well-being and lower levels of negative emotions, such as depression and anxiety were associated with self-compassion  A third study, by Neff (2011), also found higher levels of well-being and lower levels of negative emotions were associated with self-compassion. The study also found that self-compassion was a better predictor of well-being than self-esteem, which could suggest that self-compassion may be a more important factor in well-being than self-esteem.  Don’t forget that everyone has flaws and everyone makes mistakes, none of us are perfect nor will we ever be and by challenging the inner critic on this you can begin to weaken its power and influence over you.  Gilbert, P. (2009). The compassionate mind. London: Constable.  Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85-101.  Neff, K. D. (2011). Self-compassion, self-esteem, and well-being. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 5(1), 1-12.    How to stay in the circle:  Facebook Group for live chats with me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UAKpnEkvZgcoVE2wcJA2f?si=c4f5f2ab14ca466b  Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-quieten-your-inner-critic-season-1-ep-3/id1660646733?i=1000592511758   Google Podcast: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hcHAua2FqYWJpLmNvbS9wb2RjYXN0cy8yMTQ3NTA1ODA2L2ZlZWQ/episode/S2FqYWJpLTIxNDc4NDQwMzE?sa=X&ved=0CAUQkfYCahcKEwjgreOQ7K78AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQNQ   Website: www.moirageary.com  Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator 

Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  On this podcast we are going to cover  What is self-confidence?  6 Factors that affect it  6 Tips on how to build self-confidence    What is Self-Confidence?  Self-confidence is the belief you have in yourself and your abilities. It is an important quality to have because it can help you feel more capable of dealing with challenges and achieving your goals.   When you have self-confidence, you are more likely to take some risks and try new things, which can lead to positive personal development.    Factors that affect self-confidence  Lots of things can affect self-confidence and I am going to share 6 with you in a moment. First it is important to outline that some people might have developed lower levels of self-confidence because of conditioning or genetic influences or past experiences, while others can have higher levels of self-confidence but can still have it knocked by negative experiences or situations.  Here are 6 things that can knock confidence, but this is not an exhaustive list:  Negative feedback or criticism from others  Failure or setbacks  Lack of support or encouragement from others  Comparison to others  Lack of success in achieving goals  Difficult life experiences or challenges    It is important to remember that self-confidence can be improved and strengthened over time. This can involve working on:  Building a positive attitude,   Setting and working towards achievable goals and  It can also be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if you are struggling with low self-confidence.     How to build confidence  Here are six tips for you to practice to help building your confidence:  Set realistic goals and celebrate your accomplishments.   Practice self-care. Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential for building confidence. This means eating a healthy diet, getting regular exercise, and getting enough sleep.   Choose who you spend time with wisely. The people you spend time with can have a big impact on your confidence. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who believe in you and encourage you to be your best.  Be positive and avoid negative self-talk but for now remember it's important to stay positive and avoid negative self-talk, which can be detrimental to your confidence. Instead focus on the good things in your life and remind yourself of your strengths and things you have achieved.  Take risks and try new things. Building confidence often means stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. This can be scary, but it's also a great way to learn and grow and to gain new skills and experiences, which can boost your confidence.   Practice self-compassion. Being kind and compassionate with yourself is an important part of building confidence. When you make a mistake or face a challenge, try to talk to yourself in the same way you would talk to a friend.     To summaries all of that, Self-confidence is the belief you have in yourself and your abilities. Building confidence is a process that takes time and effort. Things you can do to get started, set goals, practicing self-care, surrounding yourself with positive people, and being kind to yourself. Starting with these few tips will get you on the road so you can gradually start to build your confidence and feel more capable and self-assured.    Before I reveal what you will learn in the next episode remember as always   make sure you get your free access to the 7 Day Positivity Project video training if you haven’t already www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Remember we leave ‘no soldier behind’ so please share this with anyone you know needs it and invite them to join the project.  Stay in the circle ie you can find me in lots of places Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, podcast, email round ups, so find your preferred medium and if you want to join me in free live conversations all links below    How to stay in the circle:  Get your free access to The 7 Day Positivity Project video training if you haven’t already www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCne8d8FxIjyMBqrorDUXdBQ  Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4VBKzjnRFwwcmuZ7b1E4nI?si=645ca8f9e3724218 Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-confidence-season-1-ep-2/id1660646733?i=1000591531305   Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator            On our next episode I will be supporting you with your inner critic:   What exactly is your inner critic?  I will share 4 ways to recognise it and  5 ways to manage it 

Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  The Truth about Positive Thinking which includes Toxic positivity and What is it? Three ways it can be harmful and how to identify it The flip side ie Positive Thinking 4 Major benefits that research is showing us about Positive Thinking and 5 Actions steps to help you achieve those benefits Toxic positivity is the idea of always trying to maintain a positive attitude, even in difficult or negative situations. This can involve downplaying or dismissing negative emotions or experiences, or pressuring others to always think positively.  While it's important to have a positive outlook on life and to try to find the good in difficult situations, toxic positivity can be harmful in several ways.  First, it can invalidate people's feelings and experiences. When someone is struggling with negative emotions or a difficult situation, it's important to allow them to feel and express those emotions. Dismissing or minimizsng their feelings can make them feel unsupported and isolated.  Second, toxic positivity can create an unhealthy pressure to always be positive, which can be emotionally exhausting and unsustainable. It's okay to have negative emotions, and it's important to allow oneself to feel and process them in a healthy way.  Finally, toxic positivity can also prevent people from seeking help or support when they need it. If someone is constantly told to "think positive" or to "just be happy," they may feel like they can't ask for help or support when they're struggling.  In short, while it's important to try to maintain a positive outlook, it's also important to allow ourselves and others to feel and express a full range of emotions and to look for help when needed.    On the Flip Side:  What research shows on positive thinking  There is some research suggesting that positive thinking can have a range of benefits, including   improved physical health ie better immune function and a lower risk of developing certain health conditions, such as heart disease.  Improved mental health, ie lower rates of depression and anxiety and are more resilient when facing stress.  Better decision-making skills and problem solving skills. People who are more positive tend to approach problems with a more open-minded and flexible attitude, which can lead to better solutions. increased life satisfaction.  However, it's important also to note that positive thinking on its own is not a cure-all, and it's not always possible or healthy to try to always maintain a positive outlook. It's important to allow yourself to feel and express a full range of emotions, and to get help when needed.    Four action steps that will support you:  Make a decision ‘is this what you want yes or no’?  Get access to the 7-day Positivity Project (moirageary.com)  Hourly chime to get a yard stick measurement  Journal/ask yourself the following 3 questions   How badly do I want positive change?  If I was to make positive changes what could life be like for me?  If I decide to stick with Moira what area do I want to start with?    Before I reveal what you will learn in the next episode remember as always   Make sure you get your free access to the 7 Positivity Project video training if you haven’t already www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Remember we leave ‘no soldier behind’ so please share this with anyone you think may need it.  Stay in the circle ie you can find me in lots of places Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, podcast, email round ups, so find your preferred medium and if you want to join me in free live conversations links to everything will be around the page somewhere.  On the next episode I will be supporting you with self-confidence:   What it is.  6 Factors that affect it   6 Tips on how to build Self Confidence  Until then, again remember, stay in the circle to be supported and all links and info are below.    How to stay in the circle:  Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here www.moirageary.com/pos-proj  Facebook Group for live chats with me and other like-minded people: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1002878506405145  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moirageary_  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@the-positivity-project  Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Mtt9dqieaRbuBsbakMGVm?si=162d5cb0537f4d67  Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-positivity-project-podcast/id1660646733  Website: www.moirageary.com   Email List: https://www.moirageary.com/stay-connected  Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/recombobulator  Get your free access to the life changing 7 Day Positivity Project video training here www.moirageary.com/pos-proj