What if the relationship you’re trying so hard to move on from is still shaping who you’re attracted to today? Joshua Jones sits down with healer and meditation teacher Ben Oofana for a raw conversation about heartbreak, attachment, ghosting, closure, and why we can keep repeating the same relationship patterns with a different face. Ben shares the unconventional path behind his work—from a deeply dysfunctional childhood in Southeast Texas to training with Native American elders, completing vision quests, and studying practices designed to help people move through grief rather than simply think their way past it. We get into why understanding your pain isn't always the same as actually processing it, how attachment wounds influence who we choose, why ghosting can hit so deeply, and what it really takes to let go when part of you still doesn't want to.Joshua and Ben also explore why we sometimes romanticize emotional unavailability, how dating apps and screen addiction can make genuine connection harder, and how breathwork, meditation, body awareness, and sustained practice can change the way we experience emotional pain. Most importantly, they ask what happens when you stop trying to escape the feeling and finally learn how to sit with it. If you've ever said "I'm over it" while secretly knowing you're still carrying the relationship, this episode is for you.TikTok

What do heartbreak, 30 years of dating, and two sticks of butter have in common? Julie Seyler.Julie joins Joshua Jones for a funny, honest conversation about dating, heartbreak, being single at 59, and what happens when you stop chasing the life you were told you were supposed to want. From ignored red flags to questionable romantic decisions, Julie proves that sometimes the best stories come from the relationships that didn't work out.In this episode, we get into:The biggest dating lies women tell themselvesHow many red flags Julie ignored for the "storybook ending"Heartbreak at 25 vs. heartbreak at 55Whether being single feels freeing, lonely, or a little bit of bothWhy chemistry and compatibility aren't the same thingWhat dating apps hide beneath the surfaceWhat 30 years of dating taught Julie that relationships never couldHow heartbreak became a memoir—and somehow involved 40 dessert recipesBecause sometimes healing requires perspective.And sometimes it requires two sticks of butter.Listen now—and tell us: what's the biggest lesson dating ever taught you?

Do you constantly put everyone else first, avoid conflict, and wonder why you feel exhausted or disconnected from yourself?In this episode of The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad, Kori Strobel breaks down one of the most overlooked relationship killers: self-abandonment. What looks like kindness, selflessness, or being "easygoing" is often rooted in anxiety, fear of rejection, and the belief that keeping everyone else happy is the only way to stay connected.Kori shares her own journey from chronic people-pleasing to authentic self-trust and explains why boundaries alone aren't enough if you haven't developed the emotional tools to support them. We also explore how social media has intensified our need for external validation, making it even harder to recognize who we are beneath everyone else's expectations. In this episode, we discuss :The hidden difference between healthy compromise and self-abandonment.Why people-pleasing is often driven by fear—not kindness.The subtle signs you've lost touch with your own needs.Why boundaries can actually increase anxiety if the inner work isn't there.How childhood experiences shape people-pleasing patterns.Practical ways to regulate your emotions instead of shutting down or checking out.How grieving old wounds helps you build healthier relationships today.If you've ever struggled to say no, felt responsible for everyone else's emotions, or found yourself chasing approval instead of peace, this conversation will give you practical tools to reconnect with yourself without sacrificing the relationships that matter. Connect with Kori StrobelWebsite: koristrobel.comInstagram: @koristrobelFacebook: Kori StrobelLearn more about her coaching and courses on recovering from people-pleasing at her website.If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop living for everyone else and start showing up authentically.

Most couples don't lose desire because time passes—they lose it because they stop pursuing it.Sex and relationship expert Caroline Hood joins The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad to challenge one of the biggest myths about long-term love: that passion naturally fades. From the hidden impact of the mental load to why women often disconnect from desire, Caroline explains what's really happening behind closed doors—and what couples can do about it.We dive into:• Why "sex begets sex" may be the key to reigniting attraction• The relationship habits that quietly kill intimacy• Why flirtation, novelty, and curiosity matter more than grand romantic gestures• The surprising connection between fantasy, desire, and emotional safety• Practical ways to build a relationship that feels exciting years down the roadWhether you're single, dating, married, or wondering where the spark went, this episode offers an honest, refreshing look at what it actually takes to keep attraction alive.Guest: Caroline Hood, LICSW, certified sex therapist and author of Sex Begets Sex.🎙️ If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad for weekly conversations on dating, relationships, sex, health, and becoming a better partner.

Most people think they're ready for a relationship because they reached a certain age. Kameran Alareqi disagrees.After experiencing divorce, reconciliation, and rebuilding her own marriage, Kameran believes healthy relationships aren't built on luck—they're built on emotional maturity, self-awareness, and learning the skills most of us were never taught.In this episode, we unpack why emotional safety is the foundation of every great relationship, why vulnerability feels so difficult, and why the strongest couples don't avoid conflict—they learn how to repair it. We also dive into Kameran's practical "Play Baseball" framework for building connection, the five-step apology that actually rebuilds trust, and why growing older doesn't automatically make us better partners.In this episode:Why emotional safety matters more than always being rightThe apology framework that helps rebuild trustWhy vulnerability creates stronger attractionHow couples accidentally drift into the "roommate phase"The biggest myth about emotional maturityWhy great relationships are built—not found

Most people think relationships end because the love fades. Relationship coach Kameran Alareqi says the real problem starts long before that.After surviving infidelity, divorce, infertility, and rebuilding her own marriage, Kameran joins Joshua on The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad to unpack why good men shut down, why couples drift into the "roommate phase," and how emotional safety—not perfect communication—is the foundation of lasting intimacy.In this episode, we explore:• Why men often express hurt as anger• The "Play Baseball" framework for rebuilding connection• The apology that actually restores trust• Why emotional safety comes before passion• The habits that keep relationships growing instead of survivingWhether you're single, dating, or married, this conversation is packed with practical tools to help you build stronger, healthier relationships—one conversation at a time.🎙️ Follow for more honest conversations about dating, relationships, and becoming the best version of yourself.

Why do so many people crave deep connection while hiding who they really are?In this episode of The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad, Joanna Shakti joins Josh to explore authentic intimacy, conscious dating, vulnerability, self-love, and the relationship patterns that keep us stuck. We dive into how social conditioning teaches us to wear masks, why unspoken resentment quietly destroys relationships, and how embracing your authentic self can transform the way you love and connect.You'll learn how masculine and feminine energies influence attraction, why vulnerability is a strength—not a weakness—and practical ways to navigate conflict, build confidence, and create deeper emotional intimacy.Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you stop performing, start connecting, and build relationships that actually last.

What if kink isn't really about sex?In this episode, Joshua is joined by Amanda Dames—sexologist, relationship coach, and former professional dominatrix—breaks down the psychology behind desire, power, attraction, and human connection. From ghosting and modern dating to dominance, submission, and emotional safety, this is Kink 202 the conversation most people skip and the one everyone needs.

Most people think women want less sex than men.Courtney Fae Long says that's not the problem.Many women don't have low libido—they feel unseen, undesired, and emotionally disconnected in their relationships. It's a concept she calls Erotic Abandonment, and it's affecting more couples than anyone wants to admit.In this episode, we unpack why highly sexual women are often labeled "too much," the hidden cost of unmet desire, and how loving relationships can still leave someone feeling sexually alone. We also dive into sexual compatibility, why some women experience a surge in desire during perimenopause, and what it actually means to feel wanted by your partner.If you've ever wondered whether the issue is low libido—or something deeper—this conversation might change the way you think about intimacy forever.Josh YouTube TikTok

From farm life to Playboy, Michelena Rose has never been afraid to do things her own way.In this episode, we talk dating, sexuality, confidence, motherhood, boundaries, and the surprising freedom that comes from being unapologetically yourself. Plus, Michelena shares some of the wildest stories from her unconventional journey.