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The Modern Dating Show

Ben Z

Join Ben and Trevor as they navigate the pitfalls and perils of online dating. We answer your listener questions, share our most intimate and absurd dating stories, and find answers to the question, "How the hell do I do this?" A few years ago, Ben came out of an 11-year relationship. Using his performance marketing background, he dissected every aspect of online dating, and A/B tested his way to the love of his life. Trevor recently ended his 8-year relationship and is dating for the first time. Join us as we follow along in real-time on his dating journey.

16: Passion vs compatibility, keeping the spark alive, and Ben's naked day

On this episode we cover: + What's more important for a long term relationship: passion or compatibility? + How to keep the spark alive after you've been with someone for awhile + How to tell your partner you're concerned about their weight We also discuss: + Trevor's development with his 8-month relationship + Ben's experience at a nude spa in the woods + Trevor's new girl that could be the one If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your questions to [email protected].

Mar 20, 2020

1 hr 7 min

15: Threesome etiquette, meeting quality guys, and Trevor's condom problem

On this episode we cover: + Where to meet quality guys as a woman + How to handle long distance relationships + How to handle having a threesome with your partner We also discuss: + Trevor's Hugh Grant date + Ben's Bikram discovery + Trevor's questionable finish If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your questions to [email protected].

Jan 29, 2020

45 min

14: Dealing with creepy guys, naughty Aussies, and augmented photos

On this episode we cover: + How to tell if a guy is creepy before going on a date + How to date if you’re going to be moving + How many group photos should you have We also discuss: + Trevor’s trip to New Zealand + Trevor’s 3-way date idea + Trevor extends the deadline with the foreign girl If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your questions to [email protected].

Jan 21, 2020

31 min

Special: Our FIRST guest, initiating the first kiss, and avoiding jealousy

On this episode we cover: + How to initiate the first kiss + How to stay out of the friend zone + How do you deal with jealousy We also discuss: + Howard (our first guest) getting seduced on Instagram + Trevor’s purple-haired wine date + Ben’s missed kiss If you want Trevor to make his Dating Guide or have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your vote or questions to [email protected].

Jan 10, 2020

1 hr 4 min

12: Return of speed questions, winery girls, and Trevor gets duped

On this episode we cover: + Another speed round of questions + How to drink less while dating + How do you ask someone if they have an STD We also discuss: + Trevor getting duped by an intelligent woman + Ben's aversion to girls posing at wineries + Trevor's desire for kids If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to [email protected] and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

Dec 20, 2019

56 min

11: Unhealthy detachment, double texting, and Trevor gets an ultimatum

On this episode we cover:  + Setting your desired height on dating apps  + How often should you text someone? + How to deal with the unhealthy detachment of online dating  We also discuss: + Ben's girlfriend has a height mishap  + Trevor is confronted with an ultimatum + Ben puts up some shelves If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to [email protected] and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

Dec 7, 2019

50 min

10: 1940's Chile, first date outfits, and billion dollar dates

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + Are slow jams still a thing? + What should you wear on a first date? + And how should women approach men? We also discuss: + Trevor's new favorite music streaming app + Ben's use of American stereotypes + Ben's billion dollar fantasy date If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to [email protected] and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

Nov 30, 2019

48 min

09: 17 Essential questions, dating coworkers, and chivalry's consequences

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + 17 "Essential" questions according to the internet + Traveling with your significant other + Should you be honest about hooking up We also discuss: + Trevor's new profile picture + Ben's thoughts on chivalry + Trevor's tripping technique If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to [email protected] and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

Nov 19, 2019

41 min

08: James Bond in the bedroom, impressive women, and boyish men

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + What makes a woman impressive + Do men need to act more like men + Dating on the road We also discuss: + Trevor's dating comeback with the bedroom girl + Ben's love affair with his Buddy + Trevor's distaste for pessimists If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to [email protected] and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

Nov 9, 2019

45 min

07: Does negging work, are guys too nice, and dating older women

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + A speed round of questions including heights, smells, and sneezes + Does negging (negative manipulation) still work + When should you bring up having kids We also discuss: + Trevor's college course on the rhetoric of seduction + Ben's advice to nice guys + Trevor's strong views on dating someone who has kids If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to [email protected] and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

Nov 1, 2019

43 min