] The importance of creating a safe space for black men to share their experiences and heal Scott’s story of feeling like a failure as a man, feeling isolated in his struggles, and his journey towards mental wealth Breaking the stigma surrounding mental health in the Black community.The struggles that men face these days [10:43] The pressure to be an ideal spouse on social media The disconnect between marriages on social media vs. marriages in real life  The idea that there’s only a certain level of happiness that men are allowed to have Our continual journey towards “learning themselves” [15:47]  Learning not to love excessively Setting boundaries  Having empathy and openness within relationships  The whole journey of healing is learning ourselves for the first timeWhat men want women to know [21:31] There’s power in admitting that “I’m still learning myself”  Getting rid of toxic masculinity Accepting that men can be emotional The struggle of “assertive communication” Balancing love with boundary Grace with guidance [31:57] Gathering and talking with people navigating the same journey  Having a brave space that holds each other accountable  Choosing to have difficult, honest conversations rather than developing resentment Biggest lessons around healing as a Black man [39:53] The answers are not required  Honor whatever you have—especially when there were moments that you didn’t have any There is joy to be found and being able to be on the journeyIf you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at [email protected] THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: Rate us on Apple or you can follow and subscribe to us on YouTube  Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend* Purchase our merch, there’s a lot of selection on our website**A portion of our proceeds are going towards therapy for Black adultsRESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:Listen to Out Of My Mind, song  by Erykah BaduListen to It's A Man's World, song by James BrownListen to Come to the Light, song by Jill ScottListen to Slowly Surely, song by Jill ScottTO STAY CONNECTED: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music for this moment. Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at ⁠[email protected]⁠.