] Don’t let your trauma become who you are Healing yourself first gives you the opportunity to have healthy relationships with others  You show up differently when you’re healed Being intentional with the way you talk to yourself and to others The value of saving yourself—the hard parts [7:06] How people show up could be a reflection of the demons they’re fighting  Being careful with you who you emulate  The importance of communicating what you need  Realizing that you are enough is they key to a healthy relationship with yourself and others The moment you stopped trusting yourself What happened that made you second guess yourself?The value of saving yourself—the healing [15:13]  Having the mindset to move towards the life you aspire  Setting a vision and relentlessly working make it happen  It’s hard when the villains seem to be winning  The tedious journey towards that realization that you are valuable and worthy By not communicating what you need in a relationship, you are doing yourself a great disservice What makes healing harder than you thought [23:17]  Setting boundaries and seeing it through (it’s  hard!)  Choosing yourself could feel uncomfortable  You DON’T need to hold yourself to impossible standards Biggest lessons around healing yourself [31:10] Choosing yourself needs an every day practice  Your relationship with yourself is the most important one  Healing yourself is a continual process RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:The Love Haze: Episode 55, "SOS...Saving OurSelves"Listen to On & On, song by Erykah Badu Listen to I’m Doin’ Me, song by FantasiaListen to They Just Don’t Know, song by GyftTO STAY CONNECTED: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music for this moment. Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at ⁠[email protected]⁠.