The Kink Consultant
The Kink Consultant
Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant
Finding Your Kinky Match: A Conversation with Kink Matchmaker Shea Primus
54 minutes Posted Jun 11, 2026 at 11:00 am.
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Finding your perfect match is already hard enough. Now try finding one who also matches you in the kink department.


In this episode, I sit down with Shea Primus, CEO and founder of Upper Echelon Matchmaking, for a conversation about what kinky dating actually looks like when you get serious about finding the right person. We talk about how she went from vanilla matchmaker to scouting FetLife events and kink parties for her clients, the most common mistakes kinky singles make when dating, and what it really takes to find someone who is compatible with both your lifestyle and your dynamic. We also get into her own kink journey, boundaries, and why knowing exactly what you want is the most powerful thing you can bring to the search.


If you have been navigating kinky dating and feeling like the odds are stacked against you, this episode is going to shift your perspective in the best way. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you.


Connect with Shea Primus  

https://upperechelonmatchmaking.com/

https://instagram.com/shaeprimusmatchmaker


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https://www.amandadames.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/


Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult


Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560


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