Your Marriage Will Improve When Confidence Does Could you imagine someone praying for your insecurities, fears, doubts, and struggles? Wouldn't just knowing they were lifting you up make a difference? With that in mind, we will pray for our own confidence and insecurities and then for those of our husbands. I needed these important reminders and you probably do, too. Listen to the recent episode of This Grit and Grace Life I mentioned, Get Ready to Break Free of Self-Doubt and Shame – 220, now! Get the full show notes with all the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor: BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by Better Help. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

It's Time To Get (More) Consistent (Without Being Too Hardcore) I found myself craving more consistency because I know it makes me feel more confident and at peace in life, but I also didn't feel the need to launch an intense program (read, 75Hard, or the like). Was there a way to set some goals without becoming too overwhelmed? I created one. I share a simple tracker tool I created to help me be more consistent in the key areas of my life. I hope it helps us all. And bonus-it's definitely flexible (hint, doable)! Get the full show notes with the tracker, all the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

Is your friend newly widowed? There are some things to do and say, and several to avoid. I have been asked countless times how to help a friend who was suddenly widowed. My heart aches remembering the pain I experienced and know there are some practical things that truly do help and many that cause more pain than good. I include wisdom from four of my friends who were also widowed (young), hoping to offer insight into this hard life experience, both for the friend of the widow and some for the widow herself. Get the full show notes with ALL the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

Welcome to my birthday party episode! In celebration of my 39th birthday, I took a personal inventory of lessons I've learned that have served and continue to serve me, and I hope to not forget as I close out my thirties this year! They cover all areas of my life and hopefully will serve to encourage, entertain and maybe even challenge you, too! Get the full show notes with the full list, ALL the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

Every Relationship Has Conflict—But Is it Healthy? If you’re going to be married, you’re going to have conflict. It’s a nice way of saying, you will fight. But can you learn to do it fairly? With respect? Can your conflicts actually build into instead of breaking down your marriage? With prayer and intention, yes. I give several steps that this requires and then we pray for God to show us the way (end empower us to walk in it!). Get the full show notes with ALL the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

Relax and Reset With These FavesWith the kickoff to summer happening N O W I wanted to drop some recommendations in your feed for books, podcasts, bible reading plans, and TV shows I love. Perfect for those travel or lazy days we all hope to get in this much-anticipated season. For this episode, you need to click to get the full show notes with ALL the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

What If You Had to Advocate For Your Spouse's Life? I know what it's like to stand at your husband's bedside, preparing for him to leave this earth. Karen Wilkinson has experienced the stress and pressure of fighting for her husband through a medical crisis, advocating for what he wanted, and they have both lived to tell the story. Her desire is to encourage us to be prepared to face a trial of this kind, while also maintaining a deep faith. She also shares how this near-death experience has affected their marriage and how they invest in it now on the other side of it. This story is heart-warming, gut-wrenching and causes you to be deeply introspective. Get ready. ⁠Last sex episode⁠ ⁠Last #prayingforyourhusbanddaily episode⁠ (his wife), last PFYHD ⁠video⁠ (resentment). Get the full show notes with ALL the links, books, and resources here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Shop my ⁠Amazon Store (bookmark it too!) Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Visit me at thejuliebender.com

Sex Isn't Just For Him. You Deserve Pleasure, Too. In my first marriage (straight out of purity culture!) I didn't enjoy sex. I thought it was my duty, but I wasn't very good at it and didn't desire it. But then I found excitement and passion in my new marriage, so I know (from experience!) that a woman's sex drive can be transformed. We just need education and encouragement to learn and try new things. I interview Dr. Jennifer Degler, a Psychologist, life coach, author, speaker, wife, and mom who gives us practical advice for women who want more out of their sex life. And for women who might not think that is possible. We discuss questions and topics from my listeners including: -How to know your body-Developing a pleasure mindset for mutual enjoyment in the bedroom.-How to talk about what you want/need/like and don't like with your man. -Are there any acts that are “off limits”?-How often is “normal” for sexual intimacy? And more. Dr. Jennifer gives us practical ideas to try right away to spice it up.Last sex episode Last #prayingforyourhusbanddaily episode (his wife), last PFYHD video (resentment). Get the full show notes with ALL the links, books, videos, previous episodes, and other resources here. It's loaded this week! Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It’s not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

You Can’t Pray For Him ‘Til You Pray For Yourself We’re going back to the basics of #prayingforyourhusbanddaily. As much as I strongly encourage you to fervently and faithfully pray for your husband, none of it will be effective unless you pray this prayer for yourself, first. Get ready, this one hits deep, but oh, how freeing it will be. Well, at least it was for me. In this episode, you will hear a truly vulnerable prayer I need to pray more often and the (many) reasons why. Don’t miss the previous episodes I mentioned: Click to hear the first episode about #prayingforyourhusbanddaily Click to hear the KISS method for #prayingforyourhusbanddaily Grab your copy of The Power of a Praying Wife now! Watch the most recent PFYHD video (if you work with your man or own a business) on IG ⁠or Youtube. Get the full show notes here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It's not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com

It's Time To Lower the Bar Hear me out. Your expectations are far too high, so it's time to lower the bar. You deserve the chance to step back, review all the roles you play and the hats you wear, and reassess how you're showing up. It's likely time to give yourself some grace, lowering your standards to an achievable level and simultaneously acknowledging your incredible wins and contributions in countless places. In short, you need to be reminded that you are most certainly enough. Already. Don't miss the previous episodes I mentioned: If You’re in a Funk, Or Even Depressed, You Will Relate to This (Me)! – 066 Watch #prayingforyourhusbanddaily on your differences on YouTube here. Get the full show notes with all the links and videos mentioned, here. Episode Sponsor:BetterHelp This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. It's not a crisis line, it’s not self-help, it is professional therapy done securely online. BetterHelp is committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches so they make it easy and free to change therapists if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Thanks again to my sponsor, BetterHelp who has a special offer for The Julie Bender Show listeners! Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/thejuliebender And try their Christian arm, FaithfulCounseling with 10% off your first month, here. Follow me! Insta Facebook YouTube Amazon Visit me at thejuliebender.com