You may have grown up being taught “don’t do drugs” or “alcohol is bad,” but honestly... most people do one or the other or both! So what’s the big deal? In this episode, we discuss our personal opinions regarding the use of drugs (mostly marijuana) and alcohol, and we challenge some internal biases we probably developed from a very early age. **Disclaimer: this episode could be triggering for those who have experienced abuse or addiction or know someone who has.

In this episode, we welcome back special guest and B’s best friend, Nicole (Nikki) Reed. In her personal and professional relationships, Nicole is an advocate for mental health awareness and conveys the importance of caring for both mind and body. Tune in to hear some of her own experiences with health-related trauma, multiple forms of therapy and coping mechanisms, and some tips for maintaining a positive relationship with one’s self (even if it’s uncomfortable).

Please welcome our FIRST EVER guest on the podcast, Nicole Reed! Nicole (aka “Nikki”) is B’s very best friend, and despite distance and differences, the two have managed to sustain their friendship for almost 2 decades. Listen to hear about the way friendship may take form in multiple phases of life, and the importance of vulnerability in nurturing those relationships through the years.

But first… what about me? This episode talks about prioritizing ourselves in relationships, in our jobs, with our finances and physical health, and in our faith. When is self-focus good, and at what point does it become selfish?

What comes to mind when you hear about someone being immature or CHILDISH? Are you laughing? Do you roll your eyes? This episode we want to talk about the line between maturity and immaturity and the differences as you grow up. We’ll talk about how we interact with childishness around us and how maturity and immaturity fit into being Christian.

Tough love is a gray space. How do we unconditionally love others while also holding them accountable and calling them out for their BS? Who are we “tough” with, and when is it okay to be hard on people? In this episode, we talk about tough love within the contexts of family, friends, work, romantic relationships and faith.

The goal is always to be your best self, right? Easier said than done. But, when is/was/will be your “prime”? In this week’s episode we discuss this notion of being in your prime and doing our best to live our best lives. What does that even mean? When does it happen? We’ll touch on a few categories to measure the prime of your life and we want to hear from you, what your definition of being in your “prime” is. 

Single and ready to mingle… ON THE APPS! This week, we talk about online dating. Can you really find love on these virtual platforms, or do they just fabricate a reality that doesn’t truly exist? You won’t find the answer by listening to us, but you will be entertained as Jess tries to convince B to build her first dating app profile.

How can you be flexible and spontaneous while still having healthy routines and consistency in your life? If you know, help us out because we honestly have no idea. This episode is on the lighter side, but while we joke about the “r” word (routine), we understand that it plays a role in things like coping with anxiety, reaching physical health goals, parenting, education, and strengthening your faith. Do you embrace routine or fight it?   Time stamps- 1:14 what’s in your cup? 2:47 let’s play a game… name that tune! 10:03 Jess and B don’t do routines very well 12:45 structure at work affects structure in personal life 13:40 why are some individuals more inclined to be routine? 18:10 routines can give you peace 21:40 funny tendencies at grocery store /restaurants /kitchen 24:17 living with or dating someone who is or isn’t structured…yikes 29:30 too much routine = bad for romantic relationships? 31:00 B shares insight from research article 35:13 find what works for you! 35:57 consistency vs. routine - words are weird 39:20 moral of the story: “you do you” 40:45 what about routine in religion???

Jess B anti-racist. Because racism is still alive and thriving in this world, even when we don’t realize it. We need to be aware, listen to understand and empathize, and act to make changes! Not being a racist is not enough, because silence doesn’t do anything. We (speaking directly to white women) need to be actively ANTI-racist. Listen to find out why and how.