If you want to stop chasing men and start attracting healthier love, this episode is for you.In today’s episode, we’re talking about why making men the center of your life often keeps you stuck in unhealthy dating patterns—and why the women who seem to attract healthy, committed relationships usually have one thing in common: their lives don’t revolve around being chosen.We’ll discuss why centering men makes you ignore red flags, overinvest too quickly, and lose yourself in the process. More importantly, you’ll learn how shifting your focus back to your own life, purpose, and peace naturally changes the way you date—and the kinds of men you attract.This isn’t about playing hard to get or pretending you don’t care. It’s about becoming a woman who chooses wisely instead of desperately hoping to be chosen.✨ If this episode helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share it with another woman who needs to hear this.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrTikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

If you’ve been loving harder, explaining more, forgiving faster, and doing everything you can to keep the relationship together, this episode is for you.So many women believe the answer to feeling appreciated is giving more. But what if the very thing preventing someone from appreciating you is that they’ve never had to experience life without your constant presence?In this episode, we’re talking about why constantly rescuing the relationship can actually protect someone from the consequences of taking you for granted.This isn’t about playing games, ignoring texts, or trying to make someone jealous.It’s about understanding the difference between manipulation and boundaries.We’ll discuss:• Why people often don’t recognize what they have until they’re forced to experience its absence.• How anxious attachment can make you overfunction in relationships.• Why constantly fixing the relationship prevents you from seeing the truth.• The psychology behind why some people only realize your value after you’ve stepped away.• How to stop overextending yourself and start protecting your peace.Sometimes the most loving thing you can do—for yourself and for the relationship—is stop rescuing someone from the natural consequences of their choices.You deserve a relationship where your presence is appreciated, not simply expected.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrTikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

In this episode, we’re exploring the neuroscience behind relationship anxiety, attachment wounds, and why so many women lose themselves around men they deeply care about.We’ll talk about:✨ Why your nervous system mistakes attachment for safety✨ The hidden fear underneath relationship anxiety✨ Why rejection feels so painful✨ How childhood and past relationships shape your attachment patterns✨ The neuroscience of self-abandonment✨ How to retrain your brain for healthy love✨ Why you’re not actually afraid of losing him—you’re afraid of losing what he representsIf you’ve ever felt obsessed, anxious, needy, or unlike yourself around someone you cared about, this conversation is for you.Healing isn’t learning how to make someone stay.It’s learning that your safety was never dependent on them in the first place.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (154K followers) https://www.instagram.com/kindall__d?igsh=MWJmZDVrZTYyaTZrbw%3D%3D&utm_source=qrTikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

Trying to love an unhealed man can slowly make you question your worth, your emotions, and even the way you love. In this video, we’re talking about emotional unavailability, ego, intimacy, self-worth, and the hidden damage women experience when they pour love into men who have not healed emotionally.This conversation is not about blaming women for loving deeply — it’s about helping women understand that someone’s inability to receive healthy love is not proof that they are difficult to love.We’ll discuss:• Signs of an unhealed man• Why emotionally unavailable men struggle with intimacy• How loving the wrong person damages self-worth• Why women shrink themselves in unhealthy relationships• Ego vs emotional accountability• Why your love could not heal him• How to stop internalizing emotional neglectIf you’ve ever left a relationship feeling anxious, emotionally drained, insecure, or like you lost yourself trying to love someone, this video is for you.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

Your attachment made him feel more important than he actually was.In this video, we’re talking about anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable men, boundaries, fear of abandonment, and why healing sometimes means letting go of people who were never aligned with you to begin with.Make him come correct—or leave you alone.💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

A lot of women are not afraid of being “mean” to men.They’re afraid of being abandoned, misunderstood, punished, or losing someone they’ve already become emotionally attached to.In this video, we’re talking about:* anxious attachment in dating* fear of running men off* why boundaries feel “mean”* attachment to emotionally unavailable men* people pleasing in relationships* fear of male retaliation/rejection* overexplaining yourself to men* why clarity scares you more than settlingBecause the truth is:You are not losing a good man by having standards.You’re exposing men who benefited from your lack of them.And anxious attachment can make you hold onto men who were never aligned with you to begin with.If this resonated with you, make sure to like, comment, and subscribe for more conversations around healing, self-worth, attachment, boundaries, and dating.

✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

If you’ve ever felt like you had to beg a man to show up, explain your needs over and over, or chase consistency… this is the truth most people won’t say out loud.Men don’t step up because of what you say.They step up because of what your presence requires.In this episode, we’re talking about why over-explaining, overgiving, and overextending actually keeps you stuck in the cycle of inconsistency—and what to do instead.This isn’t about playing games or manipulating him.It’s about shifting out of survival mode in love and into self-respect.You’ll learn: • Why begging for effort lowers your standard instead of raising it • The difference between potential and pattern (and why it matters) • How to stop overgiving access to someone who isn’t showing up • What actually makes a man step up (and why some never will) • How to let his behavior speak so you can see clearlyAt some point, it stops being about “how do I make him act right?”…and becomes “why am I staying where I’m not being met?”You don’t make the right man step up.You become someone who no longer entertains a man who won’t.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrInstagram: (155K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

You didn’t just want love…you wanted to be chosen.And without realizing it, that need can turn into something deeper—an identity.In this video, we’re talking about what happens when your sense of self becomes tied to who chooses you… and why rejection feels so personal, why you stay longer than you should, and why it’s so hard to let go—even when you know something isn’t right.Because this isn’t just about relationships.It’s about the meaning you’ve attached to being picked.At some point, you stop asking “Do I even want this?”and start asking “Why don’t they want me?”And that shift changes everything.This video will help you understand: • Why being chosen feels so important to you • How this pattern shows up in dating and relationships • Why you lose yourself trying to be chosen • And how to rebuild your identity without needing validation from someone elseIf you’ve ever felt like your worth increased when someone chose you… or decreased when they didn’t, this is for you.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

You keep telling yourself it’s love.That if you just give it more time, more patience, more understanding… it will finally feel the way it’s supposed to.But what if the reason you’re still there isn’t love?What if it’s familiarity?In this video, I’m breaking down the truth behind staying in relationships that drain you—and why it can feel so hard to leave even when you know something isn’t right. This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about understanding the patterns we learn, how they show up in our relationships, and how they keep us attached to people who aren’t able to meet us fully.You’re not confused.You’re used to it.And once you see it clearly, you’ll understand why choosing differently feels so uncomfortable—and why it’s necessary.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)