Did you know that social media has been described by many experts as being more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol? Yikes!   Listen in to this Glow Up Season episode as I explain what the social media comparison trap is, the detrimental impact it has on our self-esteem, how I’ve fallen into the trap, and how I pulled myself out of it. Then, I share 7 tangible tools, tips and strategies for avoiding the comparison trap, limiting screen time, and reducing the negative effects of social media. You’ll also hear shocking data from current research on social media usage and mental health.   Social media is a norm in our society because we use it so much, but in reality, it hasn’t been around for that long. That’s why I feel called to shed light on the dangers of social media, and the impacts of it, especially on our self-esteem, that we tend to ignore or not be aware of.   When we get to the root of why we compare ourselves to others, become aware of the key habits and harmful self-talk to look out for, and implement tools to stop the comparison, we can begin to use social media more intentionally and healthily.   Remember, it’s glow up season and if there’s something that could get in the way of that, we need to address it head on, sis!   In This Episode You Will Learn:   The benefits and harms of social media and comparison & Why people compares themselves to each other (8:03)   How social media affects the brain & The harmful effects of social media addiction (14:04)   7 ways to limiting your social media usage and reduce its negative effects (17:42)   An overview of all 7 tips and strategies (56:04)   Join our new Facebook group for fun challenges and a supportive, healthy online community! (57:42)   Questions Answered:   What is social comparison and the social media comparison trap? (07:09)   What is self-esteem? (09:07)   If social media is so bad for our mental health, why am I so addicted to it? (13:25)     Download and stream Glow Up Season on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify!     Resources Mentioned: 10 Ways to Protect Your Energy: www.theglowupseasonpodcast.com/podcast-notes-004 Upworthy: www.instagram.com/upworthy Global Positive News: www.instagram.com/globalpositivenews   Connect with me: Join our new Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/theglowupseason Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com

Are you stuck in survival mode as a child of an immigrant? Do you feel a strong desire to heal and to rest?    Listen in to Part 2 of this Glow Up Season discussion as I welcome my friend Mariela, a Life Coach and Certified EQ Leadership Coach who helps women of color become purpose-driven leaders. We continue this discussion by talking about ways you can heal as a child of an immigrant and how to increase your sense of self-trust, self-confidence, and your right to DO YOU, SIS!   Mariela and I provide tangible tools and insights that will help you heal and find peace on your journey in this world as an empowered child of an immigrant.   Rest is no longer a privilege for you. Rest is revolutionary and should be indulged in because you deserve it. Healing, rest, and accepting help will not only fill up your tank, but allow you to go out into the world, create more change, and do more good for others. It’s not always easy, but it’s SO worth it. When you heal, you heal everybody around you.  In This Episode You Will Learn: How to shift out of survival mode as a child of an immigrant (05:04)   Tangible tool #1 for shifting your worth away from achievements: How to become intrinsically motivated (16:14)   Why self-trust is so important (18:24)   Tangible tool #2: Journaling your judgmental thoughts (23:52)   Tangible tool #3: Write a letter to your childhood self (27:51)   5 ways to give yourself what your parents weren’t able to give you (33:12) Questions Answered:   Why do children of immigrants desire perfection, over-performance, and achievement? (02:49)   Why should we rest and invest in ourselves? (08:57)   What is reparenting? (30:34)   What advice do you have for women struggling with self-sacrifice? (38:23)   What do you do as a life coach and leadership coach? (40:56) Stream Glow Up Season on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Resources Mentioned: How to Do the Inner Work by The Holistic Psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera: www.theholisticpsychologist.com/book    Connect with Mariela: Follow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/mariela.delamora  Join Mariela’s 8-week journaling challenge: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60cb8c4a58d33f0b0624829a    Connect with me: Join our new Facebook group:  Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com 

Are you a child of an immigrant and experience immense pressure to be successful? Do you tie your worth to your productivity?   Well, let’s just say you’re in good company. Listen in to Part 1 of this Glow Up Season discussion as I welcome my friend Mariela, a Life Coach and Certified EQ Leadership Coach who helps women of color become purpose-driven leaders. Together, we talk about how to detach your worth from self-sacrifice and high achievement as a child of an immigrant while sharing a few personal stories that illustrate the unique characteristics and struggles of children of immigrants.   Knowing your family’s immigration story is empowering and inspires so much gratitude, but it can also become a weight that you carry to prove that it was all worth it. Having a great work ethic is important, but we also need to talk about how to rest without feeling guilty. Do you resonate?      In This Episode You Will Learn:   All about Mariela, her mission, and her life as a child of immigrants (08:19)   The differences between a child of an immigrant and a child of a non-immigrant (22:31)   The impacts of being raised by an immigrant on mental health and identity (26:08)   Why Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is significant to children of immigrants (32:37)   Why we are perfectionists and over-achievers (41:04) Questions Answered:   What is self-sacrifice? (17:46)   What are your personal examples of self-sacrifice? (36:47)   What is generational trauma and how does it get passed down? (46:41) Stream Glow Up Season on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Resources Mentioned: How to Do the Inner Work by The Holistic Psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera: www.theholisticpsychologist.com/book    Connect with Mariela: Follow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/mariela.delamora    Connect with me: Join our new Facebook group:  Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com 

Is your dating life exhausting and unsatisfying? Let’s change that. In this episode of Glow Up Season, I talk about intentional dating and share a tool that has helped me change my dating habits for the better. This powerful dating tool is the concept of having non-negotiables.    Companionship is a basic human need… and dating is fun, but it can be exhausting. It can feel like a merry-go-round, am I right?! Until I started dating with intention, I was on and off that ride too many times to count.   So, let’s discuss what non-negotiables are and how to build your own list so that you can have a healthy and happy dating life that makes you feel confident and in control. Plus, I share with you my list of non-negotiables based on past relationships and dating experiences so that you can feel inspired to create your own.   Hot tip: “You can tell what someone prioritizes or what’s important to them by what they spend their time on.”   In This Episode You Will Learn:   The typical stages of dating (3:38)   What a non-negotiable is and is not (08:49)   My non-negotiables and why I’m passionate about them (11:09)   My negotiables in relationships (19:35)   Other ways to improve your dating life (29:14) Questions Answered:   What is intentional dating? (08:08)   How do I define my non-negotiables in relationships? (23:06) “A non-negotiable is not open for discussion or modification, sis. It is unchanging. It is an absolute. It is something that you have to commit to and not budge on.”       Repeat after me: I am not a Build-a-Bear Workshop! Stream Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify!   Resources mentioned: Crisis Text Line: www.crisistextline.org Charity: water: www.charitywater.org  American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: www.afsp.org  Los Angeles Dream Center: www.dreamcenter.org  You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero: www.jensincero.com/shop    Connect with me: Join our new Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theglowupseason Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com 

Do you have regrets in your life? Do you reflect upon your past and wish you could change it? In this episode of Glow Up Season, I talk about what it means to grieve your past self, why it’s so important for your health and wellbeing, and what happens when you ignore or suppress grief. Then, I share a few tips on how to grieve your past self so that you can move on and glow up!   “Grieving is simply the emotional response to a loss.”    It’s okay to want better for your past self… but at what point does it start to hold you back from being present and content with where you’re at now?   Grief can show up in many ways and be triggered by many different events, like a break-up, a haircut, a change in career paths, or even the pandemic. Grieving your past self means you’re allowing yourself to feel the emotions you didn’t allow yourself to feel when you were becoming a different version of yourself.    “We will always go through pain in our lives, sis, we cannot control that… but what we can control is how we choose to respond to that pain.”   Grief sets you free. Grief allows you to move forward in your life while feeling lighter, less resistant, and less guilty of the past. You owe it to yourself to stop being a prisoner of your past. Your past is a lesson, not a life sentence. In This Episode You Will Learn:   A real, personal story showing the importance of grieving your past self (5:13)   Why it’s important to go through the grief process (14:32)   The 5 stages of grief (17:33)   Tips for grieving your past self (21:29) Questions Answered:   What does it mean to grieve your past self? (10:34) Stream Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify!   Enroll in the 12-week Self Love Program:  https://asiahilario.com/work-with/   Connect with me: Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com

In this episode of Glow Up Season, I welcome my friend, Arielle, a holistic health coach who used to experience several chronic illnesses before embarking on a transformational health journey that saved her life. Ariel bravely shares her story of how she healed 99% of her chronic illness symptoms, reversed all her diseases, and got off all her medications simply by switching to a plant-based diet and approaching health from a holistic perspective. “Every single food that we put in our body is either going to fight or fuel disease.”   - Arielle After struggling with countless invisible symptoms, being put on medication after medication, hitting rock bottom, and feeling like she no longer wanted to live… Ariel took her health into her own hands. Listen in to gain insight into what she does as a holistic health coach and how the plant-based lifestyle holistically impacts your health and well-being.  We discuss the power of the brain-gut connection, the dark side of Western medicine, and the impact of cutting out animal products and processed foods on your mental and physical health. Plus, you’ll learn the best tips and tricks for successfully making changes to your diet to improve your quality of life, even if you’re the most stubborn meat-eater. No judgement! “People don’t realize how good they can actually feel and that is why I do what I do as a health coach… It’s just incredible how, by strengthening your overall health and specifically your gut health, you are also strengthening your mental health.”   - Arielle We aren’t taught this kind of profound knowledge in school and in the midst of a global pandemic, this information has never been more important! That’s why we’re sharing it with you in this podcast.  In This Episode You Will Learn: Ariel’s rock bottom and how she took her health into her own hands (4:55) The effects of going vegan for 30 days (10:22) The connection between the brain and the gut (15:08) Common foods that contain toxic heavy metals & How heavy metals can negatively affect your health (18:33) Why cutting out dairy products improves mental clarity and productivity (28:06) Shocking examples from clients changing their diet and transforming their health (38:34) The dark side of Western medicine and food: Why the US is so sick (47:56) Signs of an unhealthy gut, how to improve gut health, and tips for changing your diet (52:41) Questions Answered: What led you to become a health coach? (00:42) What does it mean to reverse a disease? (11:12) What do you do as an empathic holistic health coach? (12:08) & (1:09:39) How has your mental health transformed since going vegan? (17:45) Stream Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Connect with Arielle: Visit her website: www.livewell-witharielle.com  Follow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/livewellwitharielle  Email her: [email protected] Connect with me: Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com 

Do you find yourself over-apologizing, sometimes for things that aren’t even your fault? Other than habit, there may be deeper reasons for why you do that… In this episode of Glow Up Season, I highlight the reasons why people over-apologize, how to stop over-apologizing, and how saying sorry too much affects us as women. I share some alternative ways to say, “I’m sorry,” along with a fun challenge you can participate in that will help you implement this into your life. “By apologizing, we try to avoid conflict, we try to stop the conflict before it even starts. We apologize so no one gets offended or so that no one gets mad at us. Phew! The tea is scorching today, my sistas!” The need to please people, low self-esteem, perfectionism, a trauma response, or feeling responsible for other people’s mistakes might all be reasons why you say sorry too much. Saying sorry might seem like it’s polite, but it’s actually hurting you and making you appear smaller and more timid that you really are. Are you tired of apologizing for everything?  Do not apologize for your feelings. Do not apologize for taking time for yourself. Do not apologize for being your true, authentic self. Do not apologize for leveling up, growing, and GLOWING UP! Share this episode and challenge your loved ones to stop this habit of over-apologizing! Start TOMORROW. Doing it together will have an even more powerful, healing effect on your life. In This Episode You Will Learn: How over-apologizing comes off and how it impacts us as women (6:18) A tip for easing the anxiety that comes with apologizing too much (16:12) What you should and shouldn’t apologize for (27:12) Alternative ways to say “I’m sorry” (30:56) Questions Answered: Why do women say sorry too much? (9:50) How do I stop over-apologizing? (26:29) Resources: Alternative to saying sorry: https://theglowupseasonpodcast.com/alternatives-to-saying-sorry/ Stream Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Connect with me: Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my blog: www.islahoney.com 

Looking for love? Let’s start with the heart. In this episode of The Glow Up Season, I spill the tea about my NEW relationship and some of the lessons I’ve learned from past relationships, along with 10 ways I opened my heart to love again. This episode is a little different than past episodes, so cozy up and get ready for some juicy storytelling and fresh perspectives! “Throw away the idea that you need to pause your life until you are fully healed. You can simultaneously heal your past while being open to the present.” Trusting the process means accepting that hardships and challenges will happen along your journey to success, happiness, and true love. Every lesson brings us closer to fulfilling our purpose in life and I believe we must surrender to the process and have faith in the unknown. Not all men are the same and you’re not a woman that “only attracts toxic men.” You’re perfectly capable of attracting the perfect person for you, but are you open to it? What identity have you given yourself that interferes with your openness to receive love?  I encourage you to meditate on this question and journal about your response because it just might be as powerful for you as it was for me! Love is risky, but it’s out there for you and you deserve it. You are worthy of love. Take your time, put yourself and your needs first, and love will come at just the right time. In This Episode You Will Learn: A summary of my dating life (4:22) Being successful doesn’t mean you don’t feel pain (6:03) 10 ways I opened my heart to love again (7:31) Stream The Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Connect with me: Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my Website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my Blog: www.islahoney.com 

In this episode of The Glow Up Season, I talk about the power of feeling through our emotions and realizing that there are no positive or negative emotions. I explain the role emotions play in our lives, especially anger and sadness, as well as how to feel through them.  These ideas I share with you have helped me better connect with myself and others, which has resulted in healthier relationships, enhanced inner peace, improved decision-making and problem-solving abilities, reduced stress and anxiety, decreased depression, and improved resilience.  Ultimately, I felt more powerful.  “The most beautiful thing about us humans is our capacity to overcome, to endure, to transform, and to be greater than our pain.” Explosive emotions or suppressed emotions often begin early in life and are carried into adulthood because we weren’t “allowed” to express our emotions growing up. Expressing emotions is a skill that we must work on and practice. It can be difficult at first, but it’s so necessary for living a healthy, balanced life! Emotions are there for a reason. They hold messages for us. Listening to those messages and feeling your emotions fully is not being weak, it’s being courageous. What are your emotions telling you?  “When we take the labels off, we are able to experience emotions just as they are and we’re able to allow ourselves to feel them without shame.” In This Episode You Will Learn: Why we shouldn’t label our emotions as positive or negative (4:38) The role of our emotions (7:36) The difference between dirty pain and clean pain (16:44) Questions Answered: What happens when we label our emotions as good or bad? (6:05) Why is it important to feel your emotions? (20:34) How do I feel through my emotions? (28:52) Blog Post - Dirty Pain & Clean Pain: https://islahoney.com/2020/01/09/the-best-tip-i-learned-about-dealing-with-emotional-pain/ The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg: www.charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit  Stream The Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Connect with me: Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my Website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my Blog: www.islahoney.com 

In this episode of The Glow Up Season Podcast, I dive deep into abandonment issues. Listen in as I enlist the help of an expert to break down what fear of abandonment is and some of the signs and behaviors associated with fear of abandonment. My lovely guest, Dr. Christine Coleman, shares her story with abandonment issues and how she overcame them, then shares tangible tools you can use to move past your struggles with abandonment and anxiety. To top it all off, she offers insight into how to find closure.  Dr. Coleman is a family and marriage therapist, a professional in the field of psychology, and to be honest, she’s kind of my idol! She’s a philanthropist, consultant, and speaker who specializes in gender and racial justice and has been serving women, adolescents, and BIPOC on issues of attachment trauma for many years.  Do you find yourself committed to or attached to people very quickly?  Do you sacrifice your own needs in order to fulfill your partner’s needs? Have you stayed in neglectful or abusive relationships, doing anything to make it work? Do you avoid emotional intimacy? You’re not the only one.  Abandonment issues may be rooted in different kinds of trauma or difficult experiences prior in life. If you’re not shown what healthy and respectful love looks like while you’re growing up, it’s going to be more difficult to emulate that in your relationships as an adult.  When Dr. Coleman was fed up with the fear and generational trauma she was carrying with her, she made a declaration to do the work that was necessary to heal. No joke, three weeks after she made that shift, she met her husband! Healing is powerful, ladies, and it’s so attainable!  “Our trauma, our hurt, is not our fault all the time but it is our responsibility to heal.” -   Dr. Christine Coleman In This Episode You Will Learn: All about Dr. Christine Coleman (4:29) Signs of fear of abandonment in relationships (7:52) How Dr. Coleman experienced abandonment issues (14:06) The 3 styles of attachment + Taking responsibility for your healing (34:04) 6 ways to work through abandonment issues (44:49) Tips for finding closure (1:01:43) Questions Answered: What was your family dynamic like and how did that impact you? (17:06) What caused you to heal your fear of abandonment? What changed once you started tackling your abandonment issues? (21:16) What are abandonment issues and where do they come from? (30:00) Should I confront the person that abandoned me? (59:19) What would you say to someone who feels like they can never break free from their abandonment issues? (1:05:00) Stream The Glow Up Season NOW on iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Pandora, YouTube, and Spotify! Connect with Dr. Christine Coleman: Visit her website: www.drchristinecoleman.com Learn more about Sol Sisters: www.solsisters.org  Follow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/drchristinecoleman  Connect with me: Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/asia.hilario  Visit my Website: www.TheGlowUpSeasonPodcast.com  Learn more about Self-Love Coaching: www.AsiaHilario.com  Visit my Blog: www.islahoney.com