Being healthy selfish means taking care of yourself first so that you can show up with presence and power in your life.

Connection is a huge part of every relationship and human interaction in your life. We cannot have healthy, authentic, meaningful relationships without connecting on some level. And those connections are a huge part of what makes our lives happy and fulfilling. Whether it's your coworkers, your boss, best friend, partner, spouse, kids, whoever—communication is key to connection. Do you ever find yourself struggling to speak up and voice your opinion? Or maybe you feel that even when you do, you’re misunderstood? Do you ever find yourself communicating ineffectively because you’re too reactive? We as human beings have a deep desire to be loved and understood, to feel heard and seen. It’s impossible to do that if we are unable to communicate effectively in order to connect with those around us. In this episode, Kass and Steve discuss how to connect on a deeper, more authentic level through effective communication.

How to stop getting stuck in the decision making process, and take action instead!

As we travel through our day to day lives, we all experience a myriad of emotions! Whether you’re happy, sad, content, angry, frustrated, joyful, or whatever it may be—it’s important to pay attention to how you are expressing that. Saying things like “I am mad” or “I am frustrated” comes pretty naturally to most of us, but is that the most effective or healthy way to express or think about your emotions? When we use “I am” statements with negative emotions, we are labeling ourselves as a fleeting emotion, something that we don’t want to be forever. You are not mad, you feel mad, and though that may not seem like a big difference—changing the way you think about and vocalize your emotions can help you take back your power. In this episode, Kass and Steve talk about the difference between “I am” and “I feel” statements, and the power behind the words you use to describe yourself.  After all, we are the creators of our lives. So what you say matters, because it dictates your future.

Kass and Steve share what works for them and give a few suggestions on how you can keep your energy and productivity up!

Sometimes we get wrapped up in our responsibilities and life seems to drift into a mundane routine. We’ve got work and family responsibilities and all the day to day tasks to keep up on. But life should also be full of excitement and passion!  So what can you do when you feel stuck in this heavy rhythm? It’s time to revitalize and refuel with a passion project! I know you might be thinking, “How could I possibly find the time for another project??” The thing about passion projects is that the return on investment is so much higher than the cost! A passion project can re-introduce a level of excitement and drive into your life that you may not have felt in a long time. It’ll yank you right out of that feeling of being stuck and maybe even bored, and give you something to look forward to each day. Plus, you get to decide how much time and effort you put into it. Passion projects don't have to be a huge, all consuming thing. In this episode, Kass and Steve talk about finding time for personal projects, shifting your mindset to make space for them, and aligning your passion with purpose.

Have you ever gone to a restaurant, a store, or a service provider and had a really sub-par experience?  Maybe you’ve even had one of those experiences that was so bad, you just had to get on Yelp or Google and leave a one star review. On the flip side, have you ever seen a really good movie? The kind that makes you want to share it with everyone, and you can’t stop talking about how good it was with all your friends? We’re constantly reviewing the experiences we pay for, whether we actually write a review or not, but when was the last time you did this in more personal aspects of your life? Do you ever leave a get-together with a friend and wish you’d just stayed home? When you get off work do you feel totally drained and discouraged thinking,“Wow, this is really what I spend 40 hours of my week doing.” In this episode, Kass and Steve talk about writing a review of your own life. Learning to take inventory of and analyze your experiences, relationships, your job, and the activities you participate in is vital to a happy life.  When you learn to analyze that way, you learn to find solutions and you learn to take positive steps forward in your life.

These days, it can kind of feel like everything is a tough topic! Speaking your mind can be a scary thing, especially lately with the world feeling unstable or out of wack with the pandemic, the political climate, and growing division in our communities. We’re living in a world where it feels like speaking your mind will separate you from those that have a different opinion, even if you love them. It doesn’t have to be like this though!  Part of the beauty of this world is the diversity of its people. If everyone was the same, the world would be grey instead of color. There is power in recognizing that your world and the way you view it, is not the only world or the only way… and that’s okay. That’s good even! In this episode, Kass and Steve dive into why it’s important to use your voice, and how we can do that without devaluing the opinions or experiences of others. Let’s seek to understand others the way that we hope they will try to understand us!

Society has conditioned us to believe that we can’t have it all. It’s either this or that, not both. You can have a career OR you can have a family. You can make a lot of money OR you can have a job you love. You can have this OR that, you have to choose. But do we really have to choose? Or can we have this AND that? In this episode, Kass and Steve talk about the limitations that we sometimes place on ourselves and our expectations for life. They talk about breaking out of a “this or that” mentality and living with the mindset that you don’t have to choose between two great things, you can have them both. You can have a happy home life AND a thriving career. You can have a job you love AND make good money. “Your brain always finds solutions to what you are planting the seeds for. It'll always be looking for solutions.” Don’t get stuck in the “it’s not that bad” cycle that leads to settling for less than what you want and deserve. Stop compromising on things that you don't HAVE to compromise on. Stop placing limitations on your happiness and embrace a life where you can have this AND that.

Learning to ‘block the haters’ and move forward, loving ourselves with all our imperfections