When you change the way you look, you also change the way you feel and the way you’re perceived. This week, we discuss our favorite ways we’ve modified our appearance, from tattoos to haircuts to gender-affirming surgeries.Surgeries | Gender Euphoria | Tattoos (Pink Bows) | “Cool Enough” | Hair | Femininity | Partners’ Influence | Committing to an Idea | Threshold for Change | Fear & Apprehension | Criticism | Use Code DILDORKS20 for 20% Off Kate’s Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Can you believe that we’ve done this 500 times?! This week, we reflect on the past decade in our sex lives, reminisce about our favorite guest interviews, and help a listener stock a hanky-code-themed piñata!

If you’ve ever craved a spanking (as a receiver or a giver), what was it that you were craving, exactly? This week we discuss some of the psychological motivations behind our love of impact play, among other things.

Do you like sleeping with people – not having sex, but literally sleeping? This week, we discuss the joys and annoyances of co-sleeping, and how to navigate sleepovers if you’re polyamorous or live with your parents.

Why is it so hot sometimes to take things slow? This week, we discuss the joys of sexual and romantic “slow burns”!

This week we’re discussing interesting fetishes from the internet, including extra-large Fleshlights, opening Magic cards naked, a straight couple roleplaying Heated Rivalry, and more!

Does group sex hit different in your thirties? This week, we reflect on our evolving relationships to threesomes, foursomes, orgies, etc.

How do you maintain a vibrant sex life when tired and in pain all the time? This week Billy interviews Kate about her chronic illness, and the ways she’s used kink to manage it and feel better about it.

Why are we so drawn to sexuality as a discussion topic and field of study, and how are people in our industry treated differently than those with more “vanilla” jobs? This week, we examine the intersections of sex and professionalism!

What is “competence kink,” and why is someone being good at things such a common turn-on? This week, we discuss our favorite competencies in others and in ourselves, and what makes them so hot.