On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy finish their saboteur series by discussing the anecdote to the Saboteurs: the Sage.  In his book on Positive Intelligence, Shirzad Chamine explains the mind has two modes: positive and negative.  The positive mode is called the Sage, while the negative mode is called our Saboteurs.  Our Saboteurs are responsible for our feelings of frustration, regret, anxiety, shame, and guilt. They are the voices in our heads that generate negative emotions about the way we handle everyday life.  While our Sage, on the other hand, does the opposite.  It helps us handle challenges by encouraging us to focus on empathy, curiosity, tranquility, productivity, and more. It helps us handle challenges with a clear and calm mind and positive emotions. Ultimately, the Sage helps us to silence the Saboteurs. Listen to learn more about the Sage and how to harness it more when your Saboteurs show up 💪 Haven't taken the Saboteur Assessment yet? To take the assessment to discover what your saboteurs are and to learn more about Positive Intelligence, click here:  https://www.positiveintelligence.com/We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) and as always - thanks for listening!! We will be on a short winter break for the next few weeks and look forward to returning with new episodes and content on January 17th. Happy Holidays from our families to yours 💛 Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss and review the topic of quitting based on the book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away by Annie Duke.  They discuss why quitting can be so hard and how to know when to quit.  We often feel pressure from society not to quit because we associate quitting with failure or weakness.  But not everything we set out to do in life needs to be completed. We set goals, but it's ok if sometimes we don't reach them - in fact, it might be better if we don't.  From relationships that went on too long, to college majors we should have switched sooner, to races we should skip to avoid injury - quitting might actually be the best thing to do.  Ultimately, we have a finite amount of time and resources and by quitting one thing it allows us to get on to the next. We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!For more information on the book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away by Annie Duke, click this link:  https://amzn.to/3Yu2WaKSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the stickler saboteur  - which happens to be another one of Guy's strongest saboteurs.  The 'stickler' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, well-being, and relationships". He defines the stickler saboteur as wanting perfectionism and a need for order and organization taken too far.  The stickler is anxiously trying to make too many things perfect. It can be highly critical of itself and others. It strongly requires self-control. It has high standards and needs to be methodical. There is constant frustration with itself and others. It tends to see the world in black and white. The Stickler can also be a bit of a fixer, believing that they need to fix whatever mess they encounter.Listen to learn how to manage this for yourself or support the ones you love when they feel sabotaged by this way of negative thinking.Have you taken the Saboteur Assessment yet? To learn more about Positive Intelligence and to discover what your saboteurs are, click this link to take your free Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy follow up last week's encore episode about gratitude with the topic of kindness. They discuss the difference between being nice vs. being kind and how kindness comes from an authentic, genuine, and empathic place. They also discuss that is it important to take notice of kindness and that kindness begets kindness. 💛We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

Happy Thanksgiving from our families to yours! This week Jamie and Guy wanted to express their gratitude for all of their listeners and fans. You are so appreciated!! We are taking a break this week but will be back with a new episode next week. Today's episode is an encore episode (#29) on Gratitude.  We hope you enjoy it -again! And don't forget, if you haven't done so already please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much and Happy Thanksgiving!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss phubbing (phone snubbing). Jamie referenced a recent article in Psychology Today on this topic and felt it was worthy to bring to the Davenport.  They discuss what it is, why we do it and the effects it has on connection and communication.  To read the full article, click here  https://bit.ly/3g6gXtHWe hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, in response to a listener's request Jamie and Guy discuss in-laws and boundaries.  With the holidays approaching, they knew several of their other listeners might also be curious about this subject.  Sometimes our relationships with our in-laws or extended family can be difficult but there is a way to navigate your differences and stay generous towards each other.  Jamie and Guy both discuss what has and hasn't worked for them in the past to help you with the upcoming holiday season:)  The following are links to books they recommend on this subject: How to Hug a Porcupine by Julie A. Ross   https://amzn.to/3FX8JyxFierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a Time  by  Susan Craig Scott M.D.  https://amzn.to/3NMw8oe We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss entitlement and how it can creep into our lives at time.  From teenagers who feel entitled to have certain things to adults who feel they've worked hard and deserve certain results or rewards - we've all felt it.  Jamie discusses how entitlement can stem from expectations and an attitude of indifference vs. gratitude. They discuss how to recognize and then manage it when it shows up 💛 We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the hyperrational saboteur  - which happens to be Guy's  2nd strongest saboteur behind his controller.  The 'hyperrational' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, wellbeing and relationships". He defines the hyperrational saboteur as having an  intense and exclusive focus on the rational processing of everything, including relationships. They can be perceived as uncaring, unfeeling, or intellectually arrogant. The over-rational tendencies of this saboteur often come at the cost of not being able, or wanting, to experience deep emotions. They value the intellect above all else.Listen to learn how to manage this for yourself or how to support the ones you love when they are feeling sabotaged by this way of negative thinking.Have you taken the Saboteur Assessment yet? To learn more about Positive Intelligence and to discover what your saboteurs are, click this link to take your free Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of listening.  There's more to it than you think and they break it down into 3 different levels by explaining what each looks like. Jamie explains that listening is a skill that can be learned and takes practice. They both reflected on how their careers as a therapist and coach have helped them improve this skill. We hope you have a chance to listen and reflect how you listen to others and challenge you to improve this skill if you need 💛  We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show