Alison (Certified Mindful Habit Coach) and Sandy (Certified Mindful Habit Coach and Registered Psychotherapist), both ex wives of po-n and sex addicts, touch on a variety of treatment and recovery program models for both partners and sex and po-n addicts, and talk in depth to a wonderful caller about her personal experience.  A great conversation as she tells us how shifting her focus from him to her has changed her life and empowered her! Below describes part of this episode...part 2 will be next week!  Thank you, caller, for sharing your story with us and the world...our stories empower each other! Let's face it.  Therapeutic re-traumatization is rampant in the world of partners of po-n and sex addiction.  It happens when our feelings are invalidated by uneducated and inexperienced professionals, when we are called co-addicts or co-dependant, when we are told to "stay in our own lane", and more.  We will give you partners information to use in order to select the RIGHT help for you and protect yourself from this huge phenomenon! We touch on a few of the different models of addiction recovery currently available for the afflicted and break it down with a touch of reality...statistics.  Some of the most popular treatment models are incredibly ineffective and we tell you why!   Don't miss this one - this is armour for YOU and your husband or boyfriend.  Take action to protect both of you and give you both the best chance of success, whether you stay together or not.  Raw, real, passionate and highly informed.  Our mission here is to protect YOU. Partners join us, because together, WE ARE THE BUTTERFLY NATION!

Alison (Certified Mindful Habit Coach) and Sandy (Certified Mindful Habit Coach and Registered Psychotherapist), both ex wives of po-n and sex addicts, expose the truth and answer the quetion:  What is po-n and sex addiction?  Is it an addiction?  Is it a disease?  When does it start?  Is it the partner's fault?  What's it REALLY about (hint - it's NOT sex!)? What does it take to recover?  How can I convince him to get help?  Why is it so bad?  So many questions and so many answers - the above is just the tip of the iceburg,.  This controversial topic is faced fearlessly and without shame.  It's time to talk about it!   Partners of po-n and/or sex addicts are encouraged to call in with their own questions and stories - to share, be validated, and BE HEARD. Partners join us, because together, WE ARE THE BUTTERFLY NATION!

Alison (Certified Mindful Habit Coach) and Sandy (Certified Mindful Habit Coach and Registered Psychotherapist), both ex wives of po-n and sex addicts, dive into their own histories to reveal what it was like to stay in their marriages after they found out their husbands were po-n and sex addicts.   Hear both coaches discuss in detail what life was like for each of them while they stayed in their marriages and tried to support their ex husbands with hopes of them getting professional help.  Learn of the continued abusve and manipulative behavior they experienced, how that changed them, and more shocking details about their ex husbands' truth that they found out after Discovery (the time in which a partner is finding out what's really going on in her marriage, vs. what she thought was going on in her marriage).  Each will also go even deeper and discuss the effects this had on her own sexuality. .   This is an intense hour of introspection, reflection, and vulnerability that you don't want to miss. Partners of po-n and/or sex addicts are encouraged to call in with their own questions and stories - to share, be validated, and BE HEARD. Partners join us, because together, WE ARE THE BUTTERFLY NATION!

Alison (Certified Mindful Habit Coach) and Sandy (Certified Mindful Habit Coach and Registered Psychotherapist), both ex wives of po-n and sex addicts, dive into their own histories to explore what it was like when they first found out their husbands were po-n and sex addicts.   Listen as both coaches discuss and reveal what it felt like when they first learned about it, and how the intensely abusive time period following (called Discovery) severely traumatized them and shattered their perception of their entire reality.   Learn how they were treated, how they responded, and why this situation is considered to be one of the most severely traumatic life experiences possible.  It's said that the only thing more traumatic is the death of a child; find out why. Partners of po-n and/or sex addicts are encouraged to call in with their own questions and stories - to share, be validated, and BE HEARD. Partners join us, because together, WE ARE THE BUTTERFLY NATION!

Alison (Certified Mindful Habit Coach) and Sandy (Certified Mindful Habit Coach and Registered Psychotherapist), both ex wives of po-n and sex addicts, dive into their own histories asking "what signs of po-n and sex addiction did we not recognize because we didn't know this was a real thing?" Both coaches interview each other and discuss other stories they know of to reveal signs and symptoms of po-n and/or sex addiction that were present but unrecognized in their marriages before the truth came out. Both give details about how their ex husbands' addictions effected them over the years and how they reacted to the various forms of abuse that usually accompany this addiction. Partners of po-n and/or sex addicts are encouraged to call in with their own questions and stories - to share, be validated, and BE HEARD. Partners join us, because together, WE ARE THE BUTTERFLY NATION!