Forgiveness can be hard. When someone does something that hurts you, it can be difficult to let it go and move on. Although forgiving others can be a daunting task at times, it is often much easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe you missed your daughter’s winning goal because you left work late, told a lie that caused problems for others, or perhaps your actions resulted in life-altering consequences. No matter what happened, practicing self-forgiveness provides an opportunity for important growth, meaningful change, and improved emotional well-being.
You may feel pressure to set goals and reach them quickly. To know exactly what you want and how to make it happen. To have it all figured out. But rushing may lead to a life you don't truly want. Never learning who you are or who you want to be. It's okay to take your time. That might not be exciting. It might not be sexy. It may conflict with popular messages or narratives. It is, however, often the best long-term strategy. To move at your pace. Getting to know your desires. Your dreams. Your goals. Then, learning how to move toward them on your terms. Not anybody else's. This takes patience. It takes confidence. It takes courage. You might draw criticism. Ridicule. Doubt. From others, and maybe even yourself. You choose what matters more. That negativity. Or moving toward a life in alignment with your truth. You are worthy of that kind of life. Only you can make it happen. You’ve got this. 💪❤️
Why is that so many of us find ourselves limiting our windows of opportunity and potential because we think it’s too late to learn how to start over? When you become stuck in life, one strategy that you have at your disposal is to start over again with a blank canvas. You can hit the reset button and pursue a goal or dream that you’ve never tried before. 💕☺️
You're deserving of love. On your good days, on your bad days, you deserve love. You're worthy of love and compassion. You're worthy of hugs when you struggle and high fives when you accomplish. You deserve happiness. You deserve to be treated with respect. You deserve for someone to fight for you. You deserve kindness. You deserve to be lifted up and encouraged. You deserve to be able to depend on someone other than yourself. You're deserving of love. You're worthy enough to love yourself. You're worth of getting to know and to be understood. You're worth more than the stars in all of the galaxies. You're deserving of love. You are worth a person’s time. You deserve to feel wanted and needed. I'm sorry for the people in your past that have walked away. I'm sorry for the people that have caused you to question love. I'm sorry for people who have broken your soul and left the mess for someone else to clean up. I'm sorry people have taken advantage of your kind soul. I'm sorry you have felt abandoned and feel that everyone will eventually abandon you. But you're deserving of love. Say those words out loud, “I'm deserving of love.” Say it every day if you need to. Say it in the mirror when you wake up. Say it at night before you go to sleep. Say it before you leave the house and when you’re driving down the road. Remind yourself that you are worthy. Surround yourself with people that remind you that you're worthy. There are people in this world that would give their life for you. There are people in this world that would make sacrifices to provide a safe haven for you. There are people in this world that know exactly what you’re worth because you're deserving of love. ❤️
Do you ever find yourself pulled between what you want and what others want for you? Are you too afraid to be your true self or share your real thoughts? Do you care too much about what other people think? 🤔 Let’s talk about learning to live for yourself & not others. 🤗 From childhood, a lot of us begin our lives learning to live for our parent's approval and the approval of those around us—our peers, teachers, or society in general. This comes out of our desire for love and a sense of belonging. We seek love and acceptance from others, which is understandable, as one of Maslow’s psychological needs. Eventually though, we must learn to love ourselves, and find within us the love, approval, validation and confidence we've been yearning for. Thus begins the journey of discovering internal validation over external validation. 😊 Living for yourself means living the life that YOU want for yourself, regardless of the opinions of others. It’s living a life you feel aligned with, a life you love, and a life you are proud of. 😎 Living for others means living to please others, living for external validation & approval, and caring about what others think. You’re setting your goals based on what others want for you (like your parents), or chasing what society deems as success. Living for others can also mean wanting to do things to impress others, please others, or get approval from others, so you're not really being your authentic self and doing what you want. You're doing things because you care about how you appear to others. 😔 Let’s first clarify that “living for yourself and not others” doesn’t mean you should live a selfish life without considering or helping other people. It means learning to put your own needs first, and making choices that align with your values; doing things because you want to, and not because other people are influencing you to. If you want to help others, and it’s coming from an authentic place, then great. But don’t do it just because you feel obligated or pressured to. 🙅♀️ Understand that your life is in your hands, and if you give away that power to anyone else, you’re taking away from your own. 🧏♀️ Listen to Episode 45 to discover some interesting steps to begin living for yourself. 😍
Facing your fears and pursuing your dreams is the greatest gift you can give yourself — and others!
Ah la zone de confort, un sujet d’actualité pour moi en ce moment… C’est difficile d’en sortir, pas vrai ? Evidemment, personne n’aime être bousculé. Changer ses habitudes fait souvent très peur. Personnellement, je stresse, je doute… Parfois, c’est même la panique totale. Je suis morte de trouille… Est-ce que j’ai pris la bonne décision ? Est-ce que je ne vais pas regretter mon choix ? Vous aussi vous êtes du genre à vouloir tout contrôler ou vous avez du mal à lâcher prise ? La zone de confort, on la reconnaît facilement. Quand vous êtes dans votre zone de confort, vous avez l’impression de maîtriser tous les éléments que ce soit au niveau professionnel ou personnel. Vous ne ressentez pas ou peu d’inquiétude. Psychologiquement, vous vous sentez à l’aise et en sécurité. Ce peut être, par exemple, ce travail que vous effectuez depuis plusieurs années et qui ne vous procure plus de réelle satisfaction, mais vous le connaissez bien. Vous appréciez votre équipe. Vous avez un salaire confortable, une mutuelle d’entreprise, des tickets resto et un bon CE… Peut-être même que vous avez la chance d’avoir un patron en or. Oh bien sûr, votre rêve c’est d’être à votre compte. Vous aimeriez gagner en liberté et en indépendance, mais il y a un hic. Pour ça, il faut prendre des risques… Et puis, un jour survient une opportunité… Une super idée de business, par exemple. Exactement ce que vous attendiez pour vous lancer. Ce dont vous aviez toujours rêvé. Un job qui vous plaît et colle à vos valeurs. Et malgré tout, votre cerveau va commencer à mouliner : et si ça ne marchait pas ? Si je faisais une énorme bêtise en quittant mon poste ? Est-ce que je vais être à la hauteur ? Est-ce que je vais y arriver ? Est-ce bien raisonnable ? Si seulement je pouvais être sûre de prendre la bonne décision… Et la panique, l’angoisse, le stress, les doutes commencent petit à petit à vous paralyser. Vous êtes à 2 doigts de prendre le téléphone pour supplier votre ancien patron de vous reprendre ? Ne le faites pas ! Quand vous ressentez tout ça, c’est que vous êtes à la frontière de votre zone de confort. A moins d’avoir atteint le summum de l’épanouissement, si vous voulez évoluer, vous devez sortir de votre zone de confort ! C’est une manière de prendre confiance en vous et de repousser vos limites toujours un peu plus. Bien sûr, l’inconnu fait peur, moi-même la semaine dernière, je n’en menais pas large. Alors, j’ai listé mes angoisses pour me rendre compte que la plupart étaient sûrement infondées. J’en ai parlé avec certaines personnes qui ont su me rassurer. J’ai enfin repensé à tout ce que je n’aurais pas fait si je n’avais pas surmonté mes craintes jusqu'ici. A de rares exceptions, la plupart des opportunités ne se présentent qu’une seule fois dans une vie, saisissez-les ! D’accord, parfois elles vous prendront au dépourvu. Vous ne serez pas préparés et il vous faudra faire un choix dans l’urgence. Pas le temps d’hésiter ou de tergiverser… Mais finalement, ce sont les situations que je préfère. J’ai tendance à trop réfléchir alors un peu de spontanéité ne fait pas de mal. A trop vouloir calculer, peser le pour et le contre, nous ne faisons plus rien. Dédramatisons, nous avons le droit à l’erreur et ma devise depuis toujours est que je préfère avoir des remords que des regrets. Alors osons ! Réaliser mes rêves me demandera de sortir encore et encore de ma zone de confort. Pour certains, je sais que je ne suis pas encore prête, mais ça viendra… Vous doutez encore ? Pour vous apaiser, écoutez à ma nouvelle épisode ! Dans ce podcast, je vais vous expliquer pourquoi il est important de sortir de sa zone de confort et comment devenir une meilleure version de soi-même, même si ça fait flipper !
If you claim not to have a “worst” character trait, you can probably add dishonesty to the list. I think almost everyone has struggled with at least one bad trait. The good news is that those negative traits we fear may be holding us back can actually end up being the unlikely driver that propels us forward. But how do we learn to love the very characteristics we like least? How to transform those negative quirks into sources of strength and self-love? How can we change for the better? Like many women, I was afraid of my own voice. I was scared of what would happen if I acknowledged and expressed my feelings. Above all, I feared people would leave me if I shared my deepest feelings. The need to voice out was natural and necessary, but my belief that it was wrong prevented me from taking ownership of my voice. So, instead, I communicated in unhealthy ways. I was passive-aggressive, I had anger outbursts, and many times, I would play the martyr. And as I tried to suppress and control that side of me, it came out in waves of anger and pain. After years of transformation, I now understand that many of my behaviours were based on my belief that things are either all good or all bad. So how did I unlearn this belief and learn to express my authentic voice? By learning how I played the black and white game. When we are young, we are taught that some aspects of our personality are bad or inappropriate, while others are good and helpful. And like most things we learn as children, we have to unlearn them. So to fit in, feel loved and be accepted, we deny the ‘bad’ qualities we think we have and try to express those considered ‘good’. This polarised mindset forces us to see the world in terms of black and white, good and bad, or right and wrong. And in this game of black and white, the only rule is that white must always win. Unfortunately, the world is not that simple. Most things exist on a frustrating spectrum of grey. Fortunately, we can learn to re-train these repressed qualities and turn them into qualities that benefit ourselves and others. Listen to Episode 42 and make the first move to get out of your head and get where your heart has always hoped to be.
Kill that part of yourself that still wants to save someone after they've walked away while you were drowning. Don’t let that one person who doesn’t care about you live rent-free in your mind. They’ve taken enough. Re-claim your power by redirecting your focus to those around you who love you and care about you. Your worth has nothing to do with how others treat you. How others treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. As soon as we realise those two things, it becomes easier to see the situation for what it is: a hurt person projecting their hurt onto us. You’re a beautiful being with so much love and empathy in your heart. Honour that you care, honour that you put yourself out there. Rejection doesn’t have to harden us; it can make us stronger, kinder, and quite frankly unstoppable.
Listen to the second part of Episode 38. Missing Them Doesn't Equal Getting Back Together. There are people out there who will make you feel uncomfortable whenever they are around. It is as if they were born to humiliate you, distract you, and get in the way of your success and happiness. And even if you've kicked them out of your lives, they always find their way back to you. The worst part of all these is that you let them back in your life again, thinking they have changed for the better. And each time, you end up getting hurt. But you should not keep allowing toxic people to rent space in your head again and again. Instead raise the rent and kick them out for good. It's high time you achieve your highest potential by eliminating one of the major stressors in your life—toxicity. If you want to free yourself from unnecessary stresses and hassles, it would be best to drive out whomever and whatever is pulling you down. It may seem difficult in the beginning, but it will be worth it in the end, I promise. Your own battles are already enough to handle—you don’t need someone else’s baggage as well. Cutting people out of your life doesn't necessarily mean you hate them. It means you respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. It means you are protecting your space and prioritising your mental health. ❤️🌟🧠 After you successfully remove these people and their negativity from your life, you will be surprised at how healthy and happy you can become. Life can be tough, so you need people who can bring out positivity in you, and not the other way around. While getting rid of toxic people is important, getting rid of your own toxic traits is equally important. Stay tuned for "My Personal Development Diary - A Journey to Changing My Toxic Behaviour" podcast where I'll do a deep dive in topics like self-development, self-introspection, self-awareness and so much more. Loving yourself isn't only about telling how awesome you are or defending your boundaries, it's also holding yourself accountable for your actions, not blaming others for things that don't work out the way they should and not feeling like a victim. Yes, it's the foundation of all personal development and growth because it gives you a reason to change and improve yourself for the better. It's the kind of love that gives you true fulfillment and peace. It's a form of unconditional love for yourself. No matter what you do, no matter what happens to you, no matter how other people treat you, there is a part of you that says "I respect myself and accept myself fully and completely." ❤️