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“In order to be okay in the world and to belong I need to be certain things. The ego tends to protect ourselves. We want to prove we are extraordinary, and we have to hide our weaknesses. Exploring ego touches on our sole identities and being able to speak about our identities.” Carole’s personal mastery journey helped her to reclaim my voice, her agency, her creativity, and her sense of confidence. Her cartoons and creative writing help her to share her thoughts. “I love helping people. I feel good about myself when I have the impression that I've been useful for somebody else. I'm not necessarily the one acting in the world. I don't have a team. I have my little enterprise. I feel that I can help by helping the people who are helping other people to change things in the world. I just love being in a relationship with people and understanding what they are doing and support them to unlock some of their limitations and unlock the potential. That's really what I love doing.” says Carole.

“It's about how can we come together to do really good important things in this world " says Sharon Newport. Sharon has authored content, and provided consultation, expertise and facilitation across four continents supporting and inspiring cultural and strategic transformation. Through the experience of being in sync with each other, I am curious and passionate about what are we getting done together. It can be very simple, but quite broad such as Dignity and Love - how that does or does not show up in relationships, in work, in collaboration, in governance in a lot of different ways “ It starts with dignity and holding the dignity of oneself, and then standing in that to be able to show up in relationship and hold dignity as the key component to any relationship, even adversarial. And being able to honour the dignity of the relationship to help determine how the relationship grows or evolves, including the ones that are adversarial. How we navigate each other while always centering that dignity. And then the impacts of whatever that relationship is, changes what shows up in the world. Ultimately that is an act of love.

“Unlock Your Chains And Unleash Your Greatness. Let's share our voices together”. invites Renee. “You don't have to wait for a new year or a new day. How about the next minute and the next minute and the next minute to do different and be and become different, to who you aspire to be. When you're present in the moment you are stepping into the future, and that very next moment to build the momentum to the next moments.” “Encourage is courage in courage.” What would you do if you lost your voice? And how would you feel if you are isolated from the outside world? A young lady finds herself held captive in her own home, alone and literally speechless. Learn how she finds self-confidence and transforms her life and get ready to feel excited and inspired, as you find your voice! Introducing our guest today, Renee Reisch. We invite you to not just to listen, but to join us as she takes us on her compelling and inspiring journey of turning obstacles into opportunities. Renee's personal story is honourable, and honest, and vulnerable. Renee walks her talk. When Paula and I met Renee, we knew that we had met somebody who has such a gentle, tender, caring, compassionate spirit. Her friend who's watching over her from heaven. And she is the one that helped Renee find and discover the voice from within. This begins when Viral pharyngitis literally took a grip, of Renee’s vocal cords. “I didn't know how to get out of it, to step back into life. I didn't have an answer or just do this, just do that you'll feel better. There was no magic pill. There was no medication that they could give me. The medication was a step out of life” “In losing my voice, it was so I can find my voice.” Says Renee.

Philip Kirkpatrick, deputy managing partner of Bates Wells London LLP offers hope to strengthen governance and balance in expectations of trustees. He feels that an assured unitary governance model offers assurance for boards and organisations they governance. “We all love change as long as it's happening to someone else. No one is very keen to change themselves.” There's not one only one way of doing this, you know. There is a broad structure, and there will be different ways in which people will implement it. Just like there are different ways in which people implement the existing normal charities structures. “When things go wrong, despite the role of the trustee simply being really oversight, and trying to do their best to make sure things are working effectively, and they've got reasonable oversight. When things go wrong, trustees are holed up, trustees are criticised.” Philip likes to find the paths through apparent blockages. With this in mind Philip offers an alternative hope of assurance for boards and the organisations they govern.

Working on or in the business? Offering hacks for entrepreneurs, Deborah Barker FRSA, Director at Field and Folk is a natural dyer and works on regenerative Fibre Projects. Deborah makes a useful distinction between working in the business and working on the business. She explains “Working on the business includes anything strategic. It is when you take a step back and look at the bigger picture. What is the vision? What are the decisions you are making and how do these decisions align with the values? Where do you want to go? What are you're doing? What are you being? How are you thinking about your long-term strategy? What are your plans relating to social media marketing? What is your thinking relating to finance? All these things particularly with creatives are the kind of heart sinking moments. That is why they tend to get relegated”. When working on your business you are intentionally creating the right environment and culture that inspires others and that invites contribution and growth. You are also building value in your organisation or network”.

Balancing Act: Teach, Coach, Mentor, Inspire reminds us that success without balance is often more disastrous than failure with balance. “I'd rather see a fail and learn something from it. Then I can pick myself back up and do better next time rather than build a huge ego that is going to lead to some future disaster that I don't know yet. So opened Dr Andrew Temte CFA. Andrew likes to coach the younger generation, those that are coming after us. “People are watching that light in your eye. Be aware of the light, of your own light. Being aware of your own light gives you all sorts of benefits when you're dealing with other people. Understanding yourself first and then being able to understand others and remember not everybody wins all the time.” And the insights just kept on coming – “Really engage in some very thoughtful, reflective thinking, which is sorely needed in this world. We're far too reactive and just say, whatever comes to our mind and whatever we feel like”.

Steve Morris says “If you want a bit of wonder then think about the people who've loved you and who love you. Be kind because your kindness might be the only book people read today. Hollywood might be able to find something that's a bit more sustainable and that might mean having the camera closer in rather than further out”. During the COVID lockdown it was possible to feel more wonder that lasts beyond fleeting experiences. This informs your whole life. Whatever goes on or goes wrong, there is a common childish sense that the world is beautiful. Things are amazing even when we go through a difficult time. “I just wanted to feel a great deal more wonder in my own life. And so I went on a quest, I decided to go and find out, where is wonder? Who is feeling it? Why am I? it. “It was a noble quest where I set out during COVID. I just wanted to find out more, and it was something”

Desiree Anderson helps others find their purpose in life and their purpose in work and she specializes in business relationships and burnout.

Tomide Awe landed her dream job with Twitter. We invited her to share her journey. “My motto is always believing yourself. Always, regardless of the circumstance. I believe in myself, I believe that I can get to an answer. Believe in yourself, whatever comes your way, you can do it. “ Tomide seeks out projects to let her employers see her value quickly and then picks up more challenging things and learns more. She thinks about quick wins and works really hard as she proves herself. People who are experienced and seasoned have a bit of a leeway because people know what they can bring to the table but they have to continue to be valuable to the company and always evaluate what it is that they are bringing to the table.

We close 2021 with a podcast that made Paula and I laugh so much and learn so much. The amazing Max Ekesi, a superstar, shares with us the importance and impact of agile transformations. Agile Transformations Max Ekesi is an Agile Transformational Leader at Paypal. Max is a problem solver and leads agile transformations. He is pragmatic, energetic, energising, bags of fun and a magnificent Chair. He leads transformations by working with agile mindsets. Changing mindsets is the hardest thing to do. Agile coaches are guides through the change. “If you want to be Netflix rather than Block buster. If you want to be Apple or Samsung rather than Nokia, it matters. You have to adapt to survive. We have to be nimble, agile, adaptive, because our customers need to continually get value and we have to adapt to their needs“ says Max.