content: Jan 11, 2023 Video (MP4): 20230111 - The Sleepless Moons Audio (MP3): 20230111 - The Sleepless Moons It’s an older, original song but it still checks out 🚀 definitely share this with your friends 👽 I am ready to go back to outer space. It’s my place, recognize the faces, the foreign shapes. I know the people of my race. And you are catching there at home plate and I’m clear off in left field. Not at the second stupid base waiting to make a double play. I’m out in orbit waving goodbye as I rocket far away. Rain delay. Too much dumb, damn static in our game. Can’t hear the signals, too much atmosphere. Houston, we have a problem: I’m burning up here. Arm’s singed to rubber. Bottom of the ninth and I’m patrolling Pluto. The only way to win… Lover, you just never knew what it was like to kick around in my shoes, sleep with my childhood rules learned in Sun, Sunday school. And I won’t count the sleepless moons I tried to appeal them for you. The shoes are broken in, the fans have gone. The laces are long, the currents are strong and I could drown in my freezing swimming, swimming pool. Behind in the count. Risky day for lift off, stars dealigned. Three balls and two strikes, zero gravity. Jammed comms, windshield cracked from your impact. Who’s that in the dugout? Guess I struck out. Broken hearts hemisphere. Tears in space… #diariespodcast #diariesvideo mitch · Jan 11, 2023 at 11:05 pm i love it! especially the end when you’re spinning around in the chair 😁🔭 your singing voice sounds very different from your speaking voice. if you didn’t tell me i might not have guessed it was you $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Jan 11, 2023 at 11:07 pm I think that’s why it’s so hard for me to hear my singing voice played back to me. It sounds like a completely different person. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; mitch · Jan 11, 2023 at 11:08 pm i agree, but i don’t think it sounds bad at all $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Jan 11, 2023 at 11:08 pm Thanks $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; jimi hindrance experience · Jan 13, 2023 at 12:13 am Love the viddy. washed out color looks cool $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Hater McGhray · Jan 13, 2023 at 3:31 pm It’s great! I love it, great guitar riff. Very catchy And of course I love your weirdo freaky video $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Jan 14, 2023 at 9:14 am Thanks! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Apr 19, 2019 · podcast: Jul 21, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20190419 - Back to regular life Do you know what I really hate? When somebody is being over-the-top nice after they’ve fucked something up. Do you know what I really like? When someone offers up a sincere apology and then gets on with the day. Own it. Regret it. Forget it. Take five minutes, have a real conversation, and then go back to regular life. If I don’t acknowledge I can come across like an unsympathetic magician. Trying to trick you into paying attention to my magic rabbit and hat. All the while my other hand is holding a bloody knife. I’m not fooling anyone. And then if I’m dancing around like an out-of-the-ordinary, out-of-control ballerina with an obviously fabricated sugary song and dance, it only makes whatever transgression worse. It prolongs the distress. Elaine said to me seven years ago, “…and don't grovel.” I get “wanting to make it better” with flowers from up my sleeve and I’m sure I’ve tried to pull rosy ruses myself. But keep it to a minimum. Otherwise it’s a black reminder. The fuck up lingers like a red rubber band, stretching the hurt out for way longer than it needs to. Humility. Brevity. Authenticity. I won’t go wrong with these. #relationships #advancedsoul #diariespodcast Momma J · Apr 19, 2019 at 11:08 am Great philosophy $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Apr 20, 2019 at 12:47 pm Learned the hard way 😉 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; jimi hindrance experience · Apr 19, 2019 at 4:21 pm 😎 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Sep 27, 2019 · podcast: Jul 18, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20190927 - The summer of 2019 Peeps, it was a busy summer. Most of it was spent cleaning and packing up my house. That was a lot. I lived there for 11 years, the longest place I’d ever lived in my life. I threw away countless bags of trash, of life debris and clutter. ⛸ In June Sara and I went to see Ludovico at the Cadillac Palace in Chicago. Maggie and I went to Gay Pride in Aurora. Sara took all of us to Cantigny Park for my 47th birthday. We played mini golf in the dark during Swedish Days. In July there was the case of the stolen bicycle and Maggie turned 14. We went to Minneapolis to check out the Mall of America and Paisley Park. Maggie started high school in August, too. 😳 Five chipmunks were caught and released over the summer. I took over 450 photos. I didn’t keep track of how many restaurants that Sara and I went to. This month of September we went to Nebraska for Sara’s sister’s wedding. During the sermon or whatever the pastor shared a story about an older couple with a successful marriage. When asked how they had stayed together for so long the husband replied, “I always figured it was her turn to get what she wanted.” That’s how you win. In healthy relationships life isn’t all about getting what we want but most of it is giving people what they want. Keeping that Christmas spirit of giving all year round is one of the foremost keys to happiness. In a similar thread Jimi messaged me not long ago, shared something that Cokie Roberts’ husband had said regarding their marriage. It was that the most important life choice we can make is who we spend it with. So in August Maggie and I moved in with Sara and her kids. It wasn’t on accident or on a whim that I chose Sara. She’s beautiful, kind, selfless, and intent on everyone having a good life. 💝 Speaking of life choices, today is/was my last day at the job I’ve had for the last 13 years. See, I could’ve stayed at my job and in my house in Geneva and been mostly comfortable. But then again and I hate to say this but life can suck when you’re stuck in second place. I’ve lived much of my life in the moment, in the here and now, but sometimes it’s better to look bigger picture. What we’re doing and what we really want to achieve. Where we’re going and where we really want to be. Who we’re with and who’ll really give us the fairy tale. I’ve gotten divorced, I’ve moved, and I start a new job on Monday. Go team. 💪 #photos #lettherebehope #diariespodcast Botsford · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:08 am Life is good! Enjoy the ride😊 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:38 am 🎡 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Pelletier · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:09 am Can I give you BOTH a “Happy” and a “Sad” like?…… Gonna miss you at the office. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:25 am Maybe we’ll all hook up again at MATS next year!! 🚛 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Rich J · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:17 am Who’d a thunk it. Your life change has led you on an incredible journey so far, hasn’t it? $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:26 am It most certainly has 💫 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Laurie · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:21 am I am so very happy for you! You are a great guy! ♥️ $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:26 am Thank you! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; asquared01 · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:23 am Sounds like a fantastic summer! Congratulations on the move and the new job! :) $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:27 am Thanks!! It was pretty fantastic. 🎉 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; flood · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:40 am It’s so great to hear how well you are doing- congratulations!! 😊 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:32 am Hard telling where I’d be at if it wasn’t for the good people at the Kane County Judicial Center! 😊 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; flood · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:58 am 😊 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; sprout · Sep 27, 2019 at 10:50 am Congrats, old friend. Happy that you’ve found the happiness you deserve. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:36 am Thank you. The last time you were in Chicago was November 2013. I think you’re overdue. 😉 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Ritter Parcel · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:35 am So happy for you and Maggie! You both deserve happiness. Cant wait to meet Sarah hint hint lol $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:37 am So when are you and Mike coming to visit? Bring Justice, too!! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Ritter Parcel · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:45 am Mike, he has spoken lol $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Lewis · Sep 27, 2019 at 11:49 am Very cool…best wishes to you and Sara. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 5:36 pm Thank you! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; cormanang · Sep 27, 2019 at 12:09 pm TEAM TCR rules. I am happy for you my friend. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 27, 2019 at 5:36 pm Thanks!! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; jimi hindrance experience · Sep 27, 2019 at 12:44 pm 😎 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; DeeDee · Sep 27, 2019 at 1:52 pm $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Momma J · Sep 27, 2019 at 2:36 pm I’m so happy for you, so proud of you! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Raes · Sep 27, 2019 at 2:41 pm Life is a journey…and new beginnings to look forward to. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tism · Sep 27, 2019 at 4:29 pm W00t! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; franh · Sep 27, 2019 at 4:56 pm Couldn’t be happier for you buddy. Life is good. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; elaineorr · Sep 27, 2019 at 5:26 pm Lots of good thoughts $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; edox · Sep 27, 2019 at 5:34 pm $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Irene · Sep 27, 2019 at 9:59 pm Were you able to transfer within your company or is it a brand new job? Best wishes to all of you on your new beginnings !! How exciting, how fantastic, make the best of everything… Much love! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 28, 2019 at 10:10 am Whole new company, fresh start… And thank you!! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Irene · Sep 28, 2019 at 12:50 pm Good for you. Good luck! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 28, 2019 at 10:50 am PS- there’s a lot of false starts in life. Keep going… 💖 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; annekothe · Sep 28, 2019 at 11:29 am 😘 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 28, 2019 at 1:02 pm 😘 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Mar 23, 2017 · podcast: Jul 15, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20170323 - Whether alcoholism is an actual disease or not I have back and forth feelings of whether alcoholism is an actual disease like hepatitis or something. I guess at the end of the day it doesn't matter to me, doesn't change that my soul was sick. Emotionally distraught to the point it was affecting everything from my sleeping to my shitting to my relationships with Maggie and my cats. You that know me personally know my story. Did you ever see Back to School with Rodney Dangerfield? It's from the mid 80s, light hearted, goofy, classic Dangerfield. There's a scene where he's arguing with his professor about selling widgets. Dangerfield gets hung up on what exactly a widget is and the professor exasperated finally says... It's a fictional product, it doesn't matter. That's a powerful train of thought for me. Sometimes I can get hung up on wanting to debate a topic and often it's because I'm wanting to deflect looking at my own issues. I resist so I don't need to peer inward. When I'm deflecting I need to remember to self-critique. Maybe there's something I'm avoiding. And if so, the debate "doesn't matter." It's weird how I remember these lines from movies and they graft themselves into, make up part of my spiritual being. 😉 Anyways. Is alcoholism a true medical disease? I don't care. What I do care about, what does matter is that I can't drink responsibly. I drink irresponsibly to the point of excess. I get frantic when I don't drink. It becomes the only thing I care about. Above all else. That's what does matter. Also, as a last thing. I do think it's a proper medical illness. The way alcoholics are utterly consumed by the cravings and will drink to literal death, well that's just not a lack of willpower. #alcoholism #healthnews #protip #diariespodcast zumpknows · Mar 23, 2017 at 9:44 am This may have been a stumbling block for me when I was trying to bargain with alcohol, but there was no doubt that it was an addiction. Maybe it was a selective addiction, but it was my addiction to battle. And the battle became easier once I surrendered. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; coolcrosby · Mar 23, 2017 at 12:22 pm I agree that alcoholism is a disease; moreover, and more importantly all the overwhelming scientific and medical consensus is that alcoholism is a disease. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; SOmuch2learn · Mar 23, 2017 at 3:47 pm I agree that alcoholism is a disease. It helped me understand and accept my alcoholism after I read Under the Influence by Ketcham and Milam. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; gafflebitters · Mar 23, 2017 at 12:22 pm Thanks for this post, I agree with you and I have similar movie experiences. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; LokiGrue · Mar 23, 2017 at 3:54 pm As the long suffering spouse of an Alcoholic, I am sick of the “It’s a disease” mantra—it’s an excuse to not make the fucking choice to stop fucking drinking. It’s a “Disease” so it can get an ICD-10 Code, and people can get Insurance paying for treatment. Follow the fucking money. I’m sorry. She’s relapsing and I am tired of the excuses. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; LokiGrue · Mar 23, 2017 at 12:28 pm The “disease” is just an excuse, not a reason. Are you getting help for yourself by going to Alanon? I don’t do “Higher Powers.” $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; SOmuch2learn · Mar 23, 2017 at 4:40 pm I don’t do “god” either. I’m an atheist but found both AA and Alanon very helpful. I just let the stuff that doesn’t apply to me slide off—I wear a teflon shield. I am very sorry about your wife. Alcoholism is heartbreaking. I would have gone crazy without the support I gained from Alanon. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Anonymous · Mar 23, 2017 at 5:43 pm I am sorry your wife is relapsing. Do you really, really feel that she is ‘chosing’ to drink over you/your family? It may help to understand what is going on in her brain…. what makes her different…. why she struggles to not relapse…. This short 3 minute video should give you a little more insight, and (I very much hope!) something to understand and then work together to get help with. http://lundbeck.com/global/brain-disorders/disease-areas/other-diseases/alcohol-dependence It is not her fault that she has developed this condition, but it IS her choice to find something that helps her to move forwards. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; LokiGrue · Mar 23, 2017 at 6:02 pm I’m sick of this shit. Thankfully we’ve no children. She knows that I’ve drawn a line in the sand: She has two choices: Continue to drink and be served with Divorce papers, or not drink and we will stay married. She keeps whining “it’s not that simple!” Yes, it is actually. It may not be easy, but it is simple. And I have had enough. Another drink=Divorce. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Mar 23, 2017 at 6:11 pm Ya, I don’t blame you. Living with an alcoholic gets old real quick. And then nothing ever changes no matter how much we plead and beg and threaten. Just take care you and let your wife take care of herself. Just my 2 cents. :) $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Anonymous · Mar 23, 2017 at 6:22 pm Your decision to make of course, but I think sadly…. at some point, whether in the near or distant future… you will be serving those divorce papers. Without help, it is extremely unlikely that she will be able to refrain from drinking for any meaningful length of time. All the medical evidence demonstrates that her brain has been altered by repeated alcohol use. The pathway in her brain that associates alcohol = reward is stronger than all the others. Whilst you may chose not to believe it, and to maintain that she has a choice in the matter, that doesn’t make it any less true. You are correct, it is not easy. But she is also correct, it isn’t that simple. Once someone has become alcohol dependent, it is NOT a choice any longer. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; stankost · Mar 25, 2017 at 6:11 pm I think you have a valid point, it was a “personality disorder” few years ago,now it is a “disease”, but ICD had qualified “homosexuality” as mental illness in the past, but today you will be crucified for such statement, so I am also not convinced that alcoholism is a disease (it can lead to a bunch of medical problems of course). However, it is not easy for an alcoholic “just not to drink”. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Oct 17, 2018 · podcast: Jun 21, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20181017 - If I'm feeling the same way If I’m feeling the same way a few days later about something I need to make peace with it. Or not. It’s true that the only thing I have to do with my feelings is feel them but sometimes they linger. They don’t resolve. And then I have to do something. I need to take action. Often times that action is just accepting whatever happened that caused my unrest to begin with. If the situation involved another person, for example, how would I act around them if it didn’t happen at all? That’s how I accept things. It’s not hard once I decide that I want to move forward in life. Regardless of where my feelings are at. Acting differently than how I feel isn’t denying my feelings or pretending whatever didn’t happened. It’s me deciding that I’m done with all that and am going to move on even if my heart is telling me something else. It’s not usual when the only closure I get is accepting that I won’t get resolution. That’s a realization I get to in my head because feelings can be icky and sticky. Like watching somebody leave when I want them to stay. I give them a hug and a kiss on the cheek, watch them get into the car and drive down the street. My heart twists as the taillights drive away. The physical bond between us stretches and dissolves as the car gets smaller. To the left. Around a bend. Disappear. Gone is gone. I turn and hobble up the sidewalk, the fallen leaves are too coincidental. The chilly air a nuisance, the gray sky unwanted. Inside the tears drip down like droplets over the outside of a boiling pot. Steam on the lid and mist in my eyes making it too hard to see what’s inside. Everything’s overflowing. Everything’s too much. The house isn’t empty but I’d rather be by myself. Alone I turn off the stove and the pot and the water start to cool. Just a minute ago the somebody was there and now I only have a fading memory. Okay stop. Enough with the melodrama. There was never a stove. Nor a boiling pot. Feelings are beautiful, magical things and experiencing them makes us whole human beings. They’re the yin to the intellect’s yan. But they don’t run the show and allowing them to will only end up making life miserable. #advancedsoul #diariespodcast Richard · Oct 19, 2018 at 5:18 am Nice. Got it. Thanks. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; marney0160 · Oct 20, 2018 at 9:04 am Nice! Thanks for the reminder… $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Sep 12, 2018 · podcast: Jun 8, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20180912 - Stuck behind a school bus Sometimes when I’m going to work I get stuck behind a school bus. And then I roll my eyes… Today I watched a handful of parents corralling their kids, funneling them toward the awaiting bus. There were enough kids that I needed to count them so as to know when I could be on my way. 🚌 And then everything changed. Two of the kids were swaying, almost dancing. Little horses waiting to run. Smiles on their little faces, overly eager happiness as they waited their turn to board. Their day ahead would be magical. It already was. “We’re gonna do math and reading and writing and maybe some science.” If you’re ever feeling down, go watch some kindergartners waiting for the school bus. One dad looked especially proud, his heart overflowing with love as he readied his daughter’s coat and straightened her collar. She was his finest achievement by far. His little girl with yellow barrettes and her white backpack with pink butterflies. Having my own daughters I know the pride and the joy that she gave him. Kids change everything. They increase our capacity to love and give us a reason to. And then this father looked like he didn’t want to let his daughter go as she turned around. His heart seemed to break when she took a few steps away to mingle with the other little ones. Kisses blew from his mouth when she climbed the big steps up into the bus. This is a few weeks into the school year, too, so it’s not like it was his first day sending her off to school. 😊 The whole time standing a few feet beside him was another dad. He was a little self-conscious, like maybe he couldn’t put himself out there in front of the other parents so emotionally. There’s a mandate for him to play it cool but I could tell from his expression that he felt similar to the first dad. That was his baby growing up and heading out, too. He was just keeping his emotions in check so as not let the crowd see. That’s okay. Not everybody is supposed to be unchained. But guys, the first dad’s heart was too full of love to care who knew. So here’s the last yet equally important part of the story. I live in white suburbia with a picket fence and three bird feeders, but the interaction between these fathers and daughters took place in a lower income neighborhood. The parents and children were of all different colors, all different shapes, all different sizes. Those school kids accepted each other no matter what. That little one with yellow barrettes wasn’t afraid of people that looked different because those other souls are all she’s ever known. I hope she carries that with her for the rest of her life. And where they lived made no difference in how much that father loved his daughter and her white backpack. It didn’t matter to him that he was on the corner of a patch of weeds and she didn’t care that they lived in an older apartment building with a crumbling parking lot. It didn’t change the spring in her step or the bounce in her hair as she was off on her adventure. The sun was shining on them both even if there were clouds in the sky. ❤️ #schoolnews #lettherebehope #diariespodcast DD · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:09 pm Very well written , thank you $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:12 pm No, thank you! :) $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; connolly · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:26 pm Congrats job well done $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:53 pm Thank you 🙏 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Desirae · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:32 pm Absolutely beautifully written! Brought a tear to my eyes thinking of my girls. Thank you $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Lange Castronova · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:44 pm Love is love no matter where you live! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 12, 2018 at 12:53 pm Exactly $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Stewart · Sep 12, 2018 at 1:15 pm World peace starts in the hearts of every individual. Thank you for setting a good example. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RclaV_3_eOA $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Kelly K · Sep 12, 2018 at 11:26 pm This is beautiful and puts things in perspective. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Irene · Sep 13, 2018 at 2:25 am Love it! Very well written $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Oct 1, 2018 · podcast: Mar 4, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20181001 - Dedicated and duplicated prayers When I’m around you guys it’s easy to be my best self. I would almost say that it comes naturally. I don’t even think about it. But there are other times when I’m around other people when there’s nothing easy about being a good person. It takes 100% of my concentration. It takes dedicated and duplicated prayers. It takes front-burner, fore-thought action. It takes getting to know and being comfortable with my anger beforehand so it’s not overwhelming when I’m around the jerks who live only in their own worlds, who live from only their own point of view.[1] It takes regular and routine reseting so I don’t get lost in the chaos. It takes pretending to care even when I honestly don’t. Because at the end of the day people are going to hurt us. They’re going to give us reasons to be angry. The trick is to love them anyway. At all costs. #advancedsoul #diariespodcast Granted I do, too, at times but somewhere along the way I was clued into thinking about you guys, too. Your wants, your needs, your feelings before letting what I want become too much of a priority. ↑ Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Oct 9, 2018 · podcast: Feb 23, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20181009 - I don't deserve nice things Some time over the weekend I had a dream that it was Wednesday after work and the robot vacuum hadn't done his scheduled cleaning. And then I was crushed and frustrated, defeated and agitated, almost to the brink of tears. Another substantiated claim that I don't deserve nice things. It was worse when I was drinking, that train of thought. I’d like to say it surprises me that I still have that thought but it doesn’t. Really though it’s not about deserving as much as “can’t have nice things.” Because I’ll put myself in impossible situations. Where I’ll never win. It’s a dysfunctional pattern carried from when I was a teenager or something. Which leads into the struggles of a life inherited. From a previous life. More realistically it’s probably from my genetics. Family of origin stuff, a television spin off. Desperately pleading that things would get better. But they won’t. They can’t. I stay in those situations because I’ve dug a hole. It’s pretty much impossible to get out. I don’t know how to do anything else. And we don’t find nice things in holes. They don’t have them. After spending over a decade in a hole it becomes familiar and comfortable. I can distract myself with my imagination, satisfy myself with make-believe. I can put a nice rug here and maybe a lamp over there. Sometimes I strive and strain to climb out. But it just doesn’t work. And then I give up. Yet again. It’s easier just to give up, accept that everything’s terrible. Because this is just how it’s going to be. Obviously I don’t feel spiritual every day. And then I flounder around for a day or two. Maybe a week. Read a spiritual book. Go to a meeting. Hear something that puts me back on track. Points me again in the right direction. How I feel is not who I am. God’s got a bigger plan. Maybe I’m not supposed to have nice things right now. Keep the faith, peeps. Let go absolutely. #allislost #advancedsoul #diariespodcast #nicethings Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Oct 4, 2018 · podcast: Feb 7, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20181004 - Seven Sledgehammers Lying is the absolute worst. “No, I wasn’t drinking. What the hell are you talking about?” Telling lies. To another person. Makes them crazy. They start to question their own sanity. Someone has a pretty good idea about something and then we go and sow a row of doubt. It’s twofold. Not only are we handing them a flat out lie, we’re also giving them personal conflict. We’re insisting they stop questioning us and question themselves. Self-doubt is one of the worst things we can serve somebody. It’s a car wreck for the soul. Twisted metal and broken headlights. Sure, the fender can be bent back but it’ll never be true. It’s funny that we tell our kids that it’s not what they did that was so bad, it was that they lied about it. And then we grow up as adults and do the same thing. But on a Rushmore, monumental level. I don’t know about you guys but if someone lies to me that’s just it. … I wrote the above back in August. And then it just sat there not feeling finished. It’s all fine and good but it’s also abstract. The real stories in life aren’t. The car crash here is that I lied to somebody yesterday. A flat out lie as mentioned above. First time I can remember since I stopped drinking. I lied because I don’t like this person. I don’t trust them. Being honest gives them ammunition and I don’t like the thought of loading bullets into an unstable person’s gun. I am kind of disappointed in myself, though. Lying goes against what I believe, who I want to be. In all situations. In all dilemmas. However, I don’t feel too bad for lying to this particular person. They lie to me on the bimonthly basis, the latest just this past week. I know they lied because I looked it up. I didn’t crucify this person for it but I wanted to. I mean really wanted to. I could justify the whole situation with some notion about how spiritual truths need not apply in all situations. Cold wars and nuclear armaments. I won’t make more of a case than that because I don’t really have one. Plastic tanks and toy soldiers, peeps. Would I do it again? Tell a flat out lie? Probably not but I don’t know. Sometimes somebody shines a hot spotlight on us and shit just happens. I don’t like how I feel about lying for sure. I don’t like playing the odds that I’ll get caught. Driving fast doesn’t appeal to me anymore. I don’t want to smash up, crash up somebody’s fender. So there’s my confession. Two Jim Carrolls and a bottle of wine. #confessional #diariespodcast jimi hindrance experience · Oct 4, 2018 at 12:02 pm I was just thinking about this this morning. When someone asks me something personal, and I don’t feel like answering, I lie my head off to them about it. I mean I was “literally doing battle with pirates” so how could you dare want to know? Or even if I just think the person is stupid. No, I was using my ultra-light aircraft and just floated above all the traffic. There are other exceptions, starting with if I don’t like the person. I’ll lie. The best reply to all of these situations though is the blank stare. About 5 years ago when I first started at a job, an idiot wanted to know something. After the silence, she says, “Jim I think if you don’t want to answer something you just don’t!” Another person was present, and the second person giggled. I enjoyed that giggle. She let me know she gets me and she was on my side. The inquistor was probably too thick to know how obnoxious they were being, so it might have been all for naught but she eventually stopped asking me stuff like that. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Oct 4, 2018 at 12:43 pm “an idiot wanted to know something” … this could be title of many a book. $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original  

content: Sep 29, 2018 · podcast: Feb 2, 2022 Audio (MP3): 20180929 - Almost empty McDonalds I’m sitting in the McDonalds on State Street in Geneva. Because Egg McMuffins. This is also the place where Maggie’s mom and I told Maggie that we were getting divorced. It was the most painful conversation I’ve ever had. The most painful day ever. Watching her little nine year old face panic as the conversation unfolded. It wasn’t a long conversation but it lasted forever to me. A therapist said to do it in public so the hurt would live outside the home. Sometimes breakups really better are in public. Sometimes it's the better way out. And as we were driving back home, the three of us, I thought to myself, “I’m never going to that fucking place again.” But here I am. Cuppa years later. Because one of the best things I learned was to “give it some time.” For as long as it takes. Don’t make up your mind. Just put it down. Don’t rush healing. Don't rush the feeling. Let the pain fade. It will if we don’t force its end. #photos #protip #diariespodcast Irene · Sep 29, 2018 at 12:14 pm That’s an interesting theory about a public place. I had never ever heard that before. I guess it would really just depend on all the people involved as to whether or not you wanted that displayed in a public place… Definitely food for thoughtful! Time has a way of healing everything $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Irene · Sep 29, 2018 at 12:16 pm I know I messed up I meant food for thought! $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; tcr! · Sep 29, 2018 at 12:40 pm I knew what you meant 😊 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Irene · Sep 29, 2018 at 12:51 pm Figured you would, but who knows what anyone else would think 😊 $m.wand.ajax_click=true;$m.wand.lightswitch=true; Add a comment! Got 30 seconds? Take the super duper, quick and easy podcast survey! Please. 😊 Love the show? Make a donation! Because you're the best. 💖 tcrbang.com · Instagram · Facebook · YouTube   View original