Not everyone knows HOW to protect. Protect themselves and or others. Believing otherwise is a flawed assumption that ignores the human condition and personal development. Why talk about Protection? Because a lot of adult trauma is experienced from a subconscious reaction of feeling unsafe as a Child. Unprotected. If this was you, at a very early stage learned a emotional condition that would sit with you for years to come. You either learned how to protect yourself to survive by closely  navigating human behavior, (which may have birthed hyper vigilance)  taking subconscious notes as you went along. Or you internalized a hold pattern of powerlessness, mentally forfeiting  the weight and pressure of protection, as a survival mechanism. This can cause you to haphazardly protect yourself and inefficiently  take on the responsibility of protecting others, as an adult. Can you be someone in between? Of course you can. So let’s unpack it. Join me on Taming Dragons, as we consider how to approach this Dragon in a far more healthier, and empowered way.

This weeks episode tackles the behavior we have all picked up in some aspect along the way. Many of us have attuned ourselves to a lifestyle of coercion.  The narrative that gives ourselves very little if any options and closes the doors to true opportunities. In this talk I explain why this even happens, why are  so many of us wired to subconsciously move about Life this way? We quietly tell yourselves; I need to stay at this job, because no other job will accept (Insert Perceived lies) about me. I have to remain in this marriage because (Insert Perceived lies) and this demonstrates how devoted I am. COERCION. No options, zero opportunities; just Do it, or Else. In order for you to walk in the full grace of your growth and expansion, you must begin to recognize when you're doing this to yourself. A liberated mind will always see options and opportunities.   When those options and opportunities are anything but obvious, a free thinker will ultimately CREATE them. How? Through the power of extending choice. I hope you will enjoy this episode and share with anyone who may be performing this kind of self sabotage on themselves. You must tame the Dragon of self imposed suffering and fear of doom, to move toward better days. Until next week, Tame your Dragons.

If you are odds with the notion of Acceptance, get in line, many of us are. This imbalance in consciousness occurs due to how we perceive Acceptance in action. Growing up, I learned that Acceptance meant admitting defeat, and giving in, in one way or another. It  was this concept of defeat that kept me wrestling with anything and  anyone who did not reflect myself, my belief system and my moral codes. To many of us, Acceptance is perceived as a personal weakness. Back  then, I viewed Acceptance as surrendering my position, and embracing  ideas, events and even people that I held deep opposition to. Acceptance felt yielding, unnatural. Can you relate??? If you are challenged in processing and practicing this as a discipline, you too must expand how you define Acceptance. This week on Taming Dragons, I’ll walk you through why this mental  stronghold even exists within you, and why it could be limiting your  overall healing and growth. Also, why it’s so important for you to redefine how you practice Acceptance, for your mental and emotional health.

Do you navigate disagreements well? Or do you tend to clash and as a result, relationships fall apart? Some of us are not comfortable with having a firm stance, holding a particular position, voicing objection or presenting an opposing point of view. Other's of us may feel equipped, however the process of any argument can awaken inward agitation, anger or an overly aggressive defensive style. Matter of fact, I'd weigh that most of us feel like a disagreement is in some way doomed to be unfavorable resulting in distress. This week's episode is a reflection and share of tips discussed during a recent Men's Group interaction, which I host every Saturday morning. These days, with so many people living on edge, especially when discussing hard topics. Navigating an argument can seem impossible. If you ask me, navigating disagreements is an Art form, very few have Mastered for the benefit it can bring toward the expansion of individuals willing to listen, learn and share. It's extremely helpful to be self aware while initiating or responding to uncomfortable dialog.  There's a saying, don't raise your voice, improve your argument.  It takes a Masterful individual to remain mindful of this wisdom while being triggered for instance. So notice your personal communication style, also notice how you respond to someone else's communication choices that may be the complete opposite of yours. Pay attention to your body language and the language of the individual or audience you're speaking to. One of the most important goals of navigating an argument is to end it respectfully and tactfully without loosing one's self.   The tips that are shared will assist you toward effectively managing this and managing You. Enjoy taming the Dragon of your mind and your disciplines.  This particular Dragon has taught me so much about the complexity of myself. Depending on the subject matter, it still makes an unforgettable entrance from time to time.   Rest assure, taming some Dragons are consistent for a lifetime.