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“Our responsibility is to recognize the toxic pattern in ourselves so we can heal the trauma.”This episode is part 4 of my conversation with Kate Anthony, an expert in communication, co-parenting, divorce, and emotional intelligence. She is passionate about helping other women to survive from the coercive control of abusive relationships and domestic violence. If you weren’t able to follow this episode, please go back and listen to parts 1 to 3. Join us in part four of this interview as Kate talks about the responsibility to heal ourselves and more about her programs, [00:01 – 07:19] The Responsibility to Heal as the Victims of Domestic Violence Kate talks about the spectrum of domestic violence victims and the responsibility of showing up in it.Our responsibility is to recognize the toxic pattern in ourselves so we can heal the trauma.Kate talks about how the pattern is affecting the statistics of marriage and divorce.Being a victim is real. But you still hold responsibility for your healing and growth, so then we can choose better.Kate shares the story of how she got molested when she was eight years old by a stranger.Get your power by recognizing your responsibility so you can work to change it.[07:20 – 14:19] Should I Stay or Should I Go.Kate talks about her program’s main modules; Should I stay or should I go.Self- work; understanding codependency patterns and habits.Abuse education; mapping your patternInterpersonal; Communication style and healthy relationship.Kate talks about John Gottmans’ relationship advice. It’s all about repairing, not just avoiding the fight in a relationship.Her first task is to get people to be open and get outside of their jar.[14:20 – 22:24] Closing SegmentsWhat are you working on now, and what are your year-long goals?Launch an upcoming new program in January Launch a new program called the divorce course.Release her bookWhat would the new you say to the old you?Trust in yourself; we all have a voice inside that tells us when something goes wrong.What is something that you would recommend to get someone through a tough situation?Be active in your healing journey and get into coaching or therapy.Find a coach or a therapist who has the advanced certification or specified in the particular issue that you need to overcome.Kate’s podcast and book recommendation.Divorce Survival Guide Podcast By Kate Anthony Attached by Amir Levine MAGIC words by Lindsey EllisonBIFF by Bill Eddy Connect with Kate online! See the links below.Final words from me.Tweetable Quotes: “Our responsibility is to recognize the toxic pattern in ourselves so we can heal the trauma.” - Kate Anthony.“Get your power by recognizing your responsibility so you can work to change it. ” - Kate Anthony.“Trust in yourself and your intuition; we all have a voice inside that tells us when something goes wrong.” - Kate Anthony.Find out more about Kate by visiting her website, and you can connect with her through social media like Instagram and Facebook. Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/.For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org