"I trust my partner, I just don't trust other people." It's a statement Thorhildur hears constantly from people curious about, but hesitant toward, non-monogamy. In this episode, recorded from bed in Munich after a day of mini golf and lake time, she's joined by her boyfriend Marcel to pull the statement apart layer by layer.They dig into who that statement is really about (hint: not the "other people"), why it often reveals a deeper mistrust of your own partner rather than strangers, and why it's so much easier to blame an abstract "other" than to have the harder conversation at home. Using a poll Thorhildur ran on Instagram, they walk through the different fears hiding underneath this excuse: not trusting others to respect agreements, worrying someone will "steal" your partner, and the deeper questions of ownership, jealousy, and security those fears expose.Thorhildur and Marcel also share a real example of what it can look like when this fear is met with communication instead of avoidance, and why for many people, this statement isn't the end of a conversation but the start of one.Ready to go deeper?❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy & get over 50% OFF the standard price if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity:  https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy:{Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy{PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy