Someone slid into Thorhildur's DMs with a familiar problem: he and his wife tried swinging, he loved it, and now she's done. She's not interested anymore, and he doesn't know what to do next.In this episode, recorded on a bright Icelandic midsummer evening walking around a lake, Thorhildur answers the question by going back to her own experience of mismatched desire in her marriage, the moment she realized she couldn't wait for her husband to move things forward, and what it actually took to own that desire instead of quietly resenting him for not sharing it.She gets into why shame (not lack of love) is usually what's underneath these stuck points, why blaming your partner keeps you stuck, and the sovereign question she asks herself when she's waiting on someone else to create her happiness: would I be okay if I never get this? She also names the risk of not facing that question honestly, and how unmet desire can end up surfacing sideways when you least expect it.Ready to go deeper?❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy & get over 50% OFF the standard price if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity:  https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy:{Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy{PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy