Endings—and beginnings. The many connotations of “Where are you from?” Model minority. Inside an outsider. Myth, liberation, and mental illness. Childhood vigilance -> lucid dreaming. “Intimate relationship with my inner life.” The tension between self-protection and connection. Collective creative work. Stargazing as a moral and spiritual compass. Integration + intention = good endings. Learning what you’re taught. Rites of passage. Sobriety. Rest -> renew. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com Nirmala: https://nirmalanataraj.com Foreign Bodies: https://foreignbodies.net Marion Woodman, “Leaving My Father’s House”: https://www.shambhala.com/leaving-my-father-s-house.html George Smoot: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Smoot

Jeremy offers a guided meditation called "Time." As discussed in Episode 11: Deep Time. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com

Relax to Sleep Guided Hypnosis by Dr. Leanne Lawrence, with vocal talent Laura Lockwood. ****DO NOT LISTEN where a driver or a person operating machinery might hear it.**** Leanne Lawrence “Mind Manual Meditation & Hypnosis” YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoxd6unhqrMA8GHfpP96UrQ

Introduction to Relax to Sleep guided hypnosis by Dr. Leanne Lawrence, with vocal talent Laura Lockwood. Leanne Lawrence “Mind Manual Meditation & Hypnosis” YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoxd6unhqrMA8GHfpP96UrQ

“A leaflet blew into my hand.” Stress and snoring—solved! Hypnosis patient to practitioner. Hypnosis for PTSD, high blood pressure, and kidney failure. Positive relaxation. Hypnosis = guided meditation. The seasick surfer. “I like to think of it as going into the settings on your phone.” Performance + deep recovery. Hypnosis in politics and advertising. Hypnothoughts in Vegas. 97% of daily actions are not choices. Paving neural highways. How to try hypnosis. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com Leanne Lawrence “Mind Manual Meditation & Hypnosis” YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoxd6unhqrMA8GHfpP96UrQ “Psychology Today” on Hypnosis: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/hypnosis Hypnothoughts Conference: https://htlive.net John Moyer YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCplENmIrdL3QtCb7cO-Qp7w Michael Sealey YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/MichaelSealey

How to go (back) to sleep. The blame game -> acceptance. Avoiding the second arrow. Jack Kornfield: “Why is it that you feel you need my attention right now?” Skepticism. Jeremy’s blanket rule. The muse does not call 911. Mindfulness and the ball trick. Did you see the gorilla? Self-compassion and connection with other people. The upside of getting up. Sleep hygiene, hypnosis, and practice. Acceptance—and gratitude—all over again. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com Tara Brach, “Radical Acceptance”: https://bookshop.org/books/radical-acceptance-embracing-your-life-with-the-heart-of-a-buddha/9780553380996 Jack Kornfield: https://jackkornfield.com Jeremy’s blanket rule: “I don’t believe anything I think between 8 p.m. and 6 a.m.” The ball trick: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cups_and_balls The invisible gorilla: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJG698U2Mvo “Healthy Sleep Habits”: http://sleepeducation.org/essentials-in-sleep/healthy-sleep-habits Michael Sealey hypnosis tracks: https://www.youtube.com/user/MichaelSealey

The grumpy father of positive psychology. Positive emotions. Expand the neutral space. Re-thinking “How are you?” Triple-level engagement. Relationships and asking questions. Connective silence. Finding meaning and meaning finding you. Wall of wins. Get in the dirt. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com PERMA: Positive emotions • Engagement • Relationships • Meaning • Accomplishments Dr. Martin Seligman: https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/people/martin-ep-seligman PERMA: https://positivepsychology.com/perma-model/ Jeremy’s book on community farms and gardens: https://bookshop.org/books/the-urban-garden-how-one-community-turned-idle-land-into-a-garden-city-and-how-you-can-too/9781629143996

The energy body. Ignorant, skeptical, and interested. Reiki. Chakras. Hands. Playing the air accordion. Feeling your body from the inside out. Qigong. Cleaning the energy. Sensory check-in. Force, flow, and fire. Interoception. Verbal -> visceral. Half hour of yoga nidra = 4 hours of deep sleep. “How good can I let myself feel?” Go low—what’s really happening? Fluid + motion = flow. The energy it takes to hold down energy. New Orleans marching band. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com “What is Energy Work?”: https://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-energy-work.htm Damon’s brother-in-law on reiki: http://danielsteven.org/reiki-in-san-francisco/ Chakra: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chakra “Qigong Full 20-Minute Daily Routine”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cwlvTcWR3Gs Yoga Nidra guided meditation exercise: https://youtu.be/KJyES0Wi-fc “NEW ORLEANS: KINFOLK BRASS BAND - Street Parade”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqKgFBWdLLQ

Damon’s teen tennis stardom. Breakdown: “This wave of sheer terror went through my body.” Embarrassment and shame -> empathy. The yips. Breaking your nose walking across a room. Negative self-talk -> welcoming the shadow self -> finding beauty in the weeds. Fear of failure—and fear of success. Pains of change. Point the camera outward & “hide self view” happiness hack. Teammates. Behavior > thought. “My strength is my weakness.” Yeah! Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com The yips: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yips Post-traumatic growth: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/post-traumatic-growth/ “Tired of Seeing Your Own Face on Zoom? Hide It.”: https://slate.com/technology/2020/04/how-to-hide-face-zoom.html Damon: “If I could go back to my 17-year-old self and give them any piece of advice during the horror of all that, it would have been, ‘Become obsessed with helping all of your teammates out. Get out of your own self and turn out and help somebody else.’” Ryan Holiday, “The Obstacle is the Way”: https://bookshop.org/books/the-obstacle-is-the-way-the-timeless-art-of-turning-trials-into-triumph/9781591846352 “Weakness!” (Jeremy and his daughter discuss why weakness can be a strength): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-must-know-everything/id1506798319?i=1000491311610 & https://open.spotify.com/episode/2QZS80EZ2iahO5xHq0VXmp The Flaming Lips, “The Yeah Yeah Yeah Song”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjrUOlK2714 & https://open.spotify.com/track/2mlIzqDE7RaMaMx1UPdsXL

Building “base values” from scratch. “I treat everybody as they are as a soul and not categorized into something.” Two equations for solo travel: 1. Good will + good conscience > language barrier; 2. Adaptation = authentic learning - judgment. Traveler spirit in daily life. Happiness = being grateful for the simple things + having theories and running experiments. Finding excitement and creativity during COVID. Everyone has a choice, no matter what. “Hidden”/“hinting” coaching & “coaching from behind.” The more beautiful choice. Stimulus & Response: https://stimulus-response.com Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com "Takako Hoshi On Coaching One of the Best Teams in the World," Gymclimber.com: https://www.gymclimber.com/takako-hoshi-on-coaching-one-of-the-best-teams-in-the-world/ Why Japanese Climbers are so Incredible: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9g8lKx2DfYY Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: The Pursuit of Happiness (https://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/history-of-happiness/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi/): “The best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times.… The best moments usually occur if a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile.” Takako: “If you choose to look at how lucky we are, we’ll be centered. And if you are centered, and if you value yourself without judgement, without fear, then you can create and provide for the greater good. And if you're appreciative, if you feel grateful, and give this to the world, the world will give back to you. And if we loop like that, I think it’s enough and we are enough.”