Codependence Anynonmous one of the latest 12 Step Groups chose very carefully not to define Codependence but rather list the characteristics of the behaviors person might find themselves practicing

Denial Patterns Low Self Esteem Patterns Compliance Patterns Control Patterns Avoidance Patterns What caught my eye were avoidance patterns.  I thought the codependent was just that dependent on the other.   But wait there is another end of the spectrum the counter-dependent.