Snug and Shady

What does a meaningful career look like to you? How do you keep boundaries in place with a challenging boss? Has your professional life been fulfilling or draining? This week Calvin and Cynthia discuss mental health and careers! We spend a third of pur lives at a job, so it should be a healthy place. Join the discussion.

Rupi Kaur once said, "Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you." Why do we return to people who keep hurting us? What makes us keep asking for healing from someone who will never give it? This week we discuss victimhood and what that process looks like. Join the discussion!

In the immortal words of Jonathan Van Ness, “When we’re able to share with someone who we do feel safe with, we can realize that these things that are happening to us don’t make us unloveable and aren’t anything to have as a huge secret and don’t make our future dark and dreary. Actually, we have a really gorgeous future and we deserve love and safety."

Normalize therapy! When celebrities speak out in support of therapy and mental health it helps enter the mainstream and becomes more acceptable. This week we talk about doing the work of therapy and what you can do to begin the healing journey. Lizzo said. “I finally realized that owning up to your vulnerabilities is a form of strength. And making the choice to go to therapy is a form of strength.” And from Selena Gomez, “I wish more people would talk about therapy. We girls, we’re taugh to be almost too resilient, to be strong and sexy and cool and laid-back, the girl who’s down. We also need to feel allowed to fall apart.”

Raise your hand if you've ever ghosted? Or started avoiding someone because it was too challenging to enforce a boundary? Join the club! In this episode, we talk about ways avoidance leads to disconnection and dead relationships. The alternative is encouraging healthy boundaries! Tune in for more!

Happy New Year! Who is feelin 2022? To kick off the new year, we wanted to talk to you about regrets, remorse, and resolutions! We discuss the impact of regret, what causes it, how it holds you back, and how to overcome having any. Regret is like trying to move forward with your head looking back - you'll get all turned around and never end up where you actually wanted to go. So tune in this week and let us know what you think! No Ragrets!! ;)

What was your tipping point, when you decided to run towards healing? “Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can cry it away or eat it away, or starve it away, or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and runa s far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal.” - Cheryl Strayed

VULNERABILITY is the name of the game in today's episode! What is "disclosure reciprocity"? It's that grade-school-playground game of "I’ll tell you my secret if you tell me yours!" It leads to temporal coupling which means you’re on the same wavelength! This comes from sharing personal stories. This takes courage, to share struggles, open up, and build trust, empathy, intimacy, and relationships. Tune in to catch the discussion!

"Homeostasis is the ability that your body has to return to normal after an accident. Wounds heal, blood resumes flowing, illness passes. Self-regulation can be seen as a form of resilience, since it’s the emotional ability to return to equilibrium after a disruption. For individuals growing up under chronic stress or pervasive trauma, their ‘normal equilibrium’ is different from the average. They tend towards more disorganization and lack of emotional stability. It takes tremendous effort - psychologically and physiologically - to manage their lack of stability. In other words, their capacity for self-regulation is inhibited. We can presume this in turn decreases their resilience." ---Kathy Kain

Raise your hand if you've ever had a knock out verbal spar and won!....in your head??? This episode is all about those times when you live out a scene in your head to your satisfaction. You say the perfect comeback, imagine the perfect tableau, and get to change the narrative of reality. Why are these daydreams so seductive to our psyche? Are they damaging? How can we learn from these practices? Tune in to a brand new episode of Snug and Shady!