Let's chat about boundaries. A parent who wrote in, has an over-enthusiastic kid Who loves to hug and embrace and touch all the time! And this parent’s not fully comfortable with this, but of course doesn’t want to shame her child. This is a super question. My answer comes from the courage pillar of the Evolved Family method, which looks at the skills we need to step up and speak out about super sensitive topics. A situation like this is a great opportunity to teach our kid about consent. So often, when we think about consent, we think about teaching our kid to speak up for themselves, and how to say no when they need to say no. But another really important part of consent, is learning to listen to other people’s needs. If you want to learn more about that, visit www.sarahsproule.com/evolve and put your name down to find out when The Evolve School opens next. In the meantime, to hear much more about how to hold gentle but firm boundaries without shame, and how to help our kids get what they need, spend some time with me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car x Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family, but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

This week, a parent asks, ‘How do I respond to things I hear my kid say that I don’t agree with?’ This is a great question, because on the one hand, we want to raise kids whose values are in line with ours. But on the other hand, we don’t want our kid to feel we’re constantly telling them that what they believe is wrong! So what can we do? This is a super-juicy topic and this week’s episode gives you loads of real-world tips on how to have these conversations. By the way, you may be starting to realise that gaining higher level skills like these is becoming a priority for you. Your kids are growing older and you want your skills to be rock-solid. If that sounds like you, visit www.sarahsproule.com/evolve and leave me your info. That way I can let you know the next time I open The Evolve School – so you'll be able to learn everything you need to know about how to have these sorts of conversations and build more connection with your growing kid. Sarah x This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘How can I get my 5-year-old daughter to stop touching her little brother’s penis,  without shaming her? I’ve said that his penis is private, like her vulva is for her. But she keeps doing it.’  What a great question.   As parents, it’s good to talk about this.  Because when stuff like this happens with our kids,  we immediately think about horrible news stories of abuse and non-consent, and our minds go to some very scary places. So we really want to get this right.  But here’s the thing.   It’s actually NORMAL for kids to be curious about bodies.  Their own bodies and other people’s.   To hear more about this great question,  have a look at our video here. x Sarah  Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family, but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

I have a fantastic question for you this week. A parent writes, ‘How can I teach my 15-year-old daughter to say no when she’s in highly pressurised situations?’ My answer to this week’s question comes from the Courage pillar inside the Evolved Family Method – which helps us speak up about complicated things, using everyday situations in a way that builds deeper connection with our child(ren) as we do it. This is a super question because so many parents really don’t feel great about this bit of parenting. In the teenage years, we can feel a bit like our kid has drifted apart from us. We might feel our influence waning. We could feel a bit out of control, out of our depth. We might find ourselves saying things like, ‘You know you can always say no, right?’ And watching our teenager roll their eyes and say, ‘I KNOW.’ And it's not a convo that feels very connected or very good. In fact, it’s MOST unhelpful! So what can we do about it? If you feel like you could use some support for this part of your parenting and to hear all about how to teach your teen to say ‘No’ more easily, join me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car. I’ll see you there x Sarah Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family, but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

‘What’s a good way to manage nakedness in family situations, both for parents & kids’ What a great thing to chat about! But before we get into it, I want to reminisce a bit. We are so influenced by the culture we’re raised in. Depending on the country where you are living, there will be different levels of nakedness that seem normal. But we also get to create our own family culture, we can think about this stuff and decide for ourselves how we want to be with our bodies, and how we want our family to be. Isn’t that great? To hear more about nakedness, listen to this week's episode of Sitting in a Car. Let’s chat about being nude. Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family, but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

Let’s chat about the hidden questions you mightn’t even know to ask, that will give you more connected conversations with your kids. These questions come from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method, which is all about connection – and empathy. You may be surprised to learn (or not!) that the key to a lot of the questions we parents find the hardest to answer, is empathy. So let’s talk about the emotions and thoughts that go unsaid when we’re having sensitive conversations with our kids – and how we can use those hidden questions, no matter how scary, to create a more connected family. If you feel like you could use some more support to build deeper connections with your kid(s), join me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car. x Sarah This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

'How can I talk to my kids about porn, in a non-alarming way?' Let’s  dig deep into three simple ways to make this easier. The answer to this question comes from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method. As you might know, if you watch Sitting in a Car quite a lot, the Courage pillar has to do with how we as adults can take responsibility for speaking up, and the tools we can use to do it. We learn how to start conversations, and what sentences and words to use. The Courage pillar is especially helpful here, because a lot of grown-ups feel afraid of this topic! We might try to shield our kids from ever seeing porn in the first place (not possible), or we might worry that if we talk about it… they might go look for it. So how can we chat with our kids about porn, in a way that is non-alarming? For lots of specific tips, watch this week’s episode here. And if you’d like to get Sitting in a Car straight to your inbox, Dm me and I’ll get that sorted for you. x Sarah This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘Can I talk to my 7-year-old about her clitoris?’ This is such an important episode this week. Because lots of us don’t feel comfortable talking about the clitoris. The clitoris is all about pleasure. And pleasure is something we might find difficult to talk about with kids. And you know what? That’s perfectly normal. A lot of us have had no modeling for how to have conversations about sensitive stuff with our kid(s. So it makes sense that we might feel a bit uncomfortable, and not at all confident about how to do it. This week I’ve got three tips to help you have the clitoris talk this week. They are all from the Growth Pillar inside the Evolved Family Method. To hear all about it, come join me in Sitting in a Car. And if you’d like to learn more about the Evolved Family Method, send me a PM and I’ll help you with that x Ps. This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘How can I talk to my 7-year-old about body image?’ This parent’s young girl has started saying not very nice things about her own body, and has started expressing an interest in extremely skinny body types. (You can hear the whole question & story in this week’s podcast.) This courageous but tongue-tied parent is confused, like many of us would be in her situation, because she’s done everything right. She’s taught her kid about healthy eating, exercise and all the things. She’s never criticised her own body, or mentioned weight around her child. So how has this happened? As you can see, this is deep stuff. If you’re feeling like you could use more support in this part of your parenting, and to hear much more about how to chat about body image with your kids, have a listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car here - And I’ll see you there. x Sarah Ps.This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x When it came to awkward conversations, our parents did their best with what they knew. Whether you were dismissed, made to feel uncomfortable or awkward about sensitive subjects, you want to do things differently, and build an Evolved Communicating Family. However, you may experience a level of panic or dread when it comes to having these same conversations with your kid, especially if they are young. If you feel you could use some support and actionable pointers for this part of your parenting, join me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car. I’ll see you there. x Sarah