Vincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter. We discuss what we’ve learned from our parents and what has been taught to us from living in a western society. Which teachings to adopt and which to unlearn? What fears do we have as new parents? “This is something that's new for so many people, like not just from a cultural perspective or generational perspective […] we're not al...
Nov 6, 2022
49 min
It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly independent”, and discuss fears of the future after losing a partner. Our Shit is a series where we update our lives with each other and how we cope with its challenges. “I felt like if we stayed together, we would've been living a compromised version of a life that neither of us really wanted” - Kristy Yee Episodes Mentioned: Ep 45. Our Shit: Wh...
Oct 23, 2022
52 min
Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidelity including physical cheating, emotional cheating, micro-cheating, work crushes, and how to move on. “You're not a cheater, [...] you had cheated. But you’re not a cheater. It's not a identity thing, it's an action thing.” - Angie Yu Resources & Mentions: What Is an Emotional Affair? (Article)---- The best way to support th...
Oct 9, 2022
1 hr 3 min
Kristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears are (almost) shed. "I'm gonna hedge my bets if I have a lot of friends that are within the close circle. If a few of them left, then I'd be fine. As long as I keep filling this first ring, then it'll never be empty. And I think that was my protection mechanism." - Angie ---- The best way to support this show is by listening and sharing wit...
Sep 25, 2022
49 min
Tam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune with his mental well-being. We discuss: her parents talking her out of using therapypeople-pleasing tendencies as a survival tactichow to be there for other people but also set boundaries for your own emotionscreate space to process instead of suppressing your emotions childhood bullying trauma Bonus: Kristy and Angie get their Oracle ca...
Sep 11, 2022
1 hr 20 min
What is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some of our childhood memories and…well the answer may surprise you! Angie asked how understanding attachment helped in her current relationship and Kristy gave us a relationship update. As always, we discuss some deep shit. “I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life.” - Angie ”Wel...
Aug 28, 2022
47 min
We decided to share a popular episode from season 1 from the summer of 2020 about how we talked ourselves out of our depressive episodes. We share audio clips of our actual voice messages with each other to show our realistic experiences, thoughts, and feelings. We talk about potential coping methods and understanding the different drivers that keep us going. "I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life." - Angie "Well, the e...
Aug 15, 2022
59 min
Angie always imaged having babies. Kristy is on team no kids. But lately, they’ve both been having different thoughts. In this episode, we explore why we originally wanted/not wanted babies and why we are changing our minds. We also chat about endometriosis, discussing babies when dating, abandonment fears, trust issues, and mom’s guilt tripping us. "Maybe the reason why I always wanted to have a baby is not why I should have a baby" - Angie Yu ---- The best way to support this show is ...
Jul 31, 2022
50 min
**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide** We are joined by psychotherapist Shirvin Lee who gets vulnerable and shares her childhood traumas of facing sexism and insurmountable pressures from her family. We also learn how to process and understand emotions better. “Happiness is not the baseline.” - Shirvin Resources/Mentions Dopamine Nation (Book)Why Are Emotions So Important? And How to Address Them (Article)Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Self Validation (Article)Find Shirvin: Fundament...
Jul 17, 2022
49 min
This is an intimate story about my recent breakup with my partner of 6 years. I share my fear of judgment from friends, staying vs. leaving the relationship, the lessons learned, and how I plan to move forward. “I can’t just keep quitting every time something goes wrong in a relationship” - Kristy Resources/Mentions Paired - App for Couples --- The best way to support this show is by listening and sharing with a friend. If you would like to buy a coffee or bubble tea, we woul...
Jul 3, 2022
51 min
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